There are many reasons why Female Dating Strategy is toxic, and here are 10 reasons why FDS is toxic for men and society at large:

1. The intrinsic satisfaction of power and control over your own life

When you’re no longer under the thumb of others, you are harder to intimidate, and people don’t get the rush of controlling you. When you are in charge of your own destiny, the joy of living is yours to own, and no one else’s.

Why this is toxic to society: This is dangerous to society at large, which depends on the subservience of women and their free labour in order to keep functioning.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-017-0841-0

2. Having your opinion be respected, especially when it matters to you the most

A relationship with a better man is diametrically in opposition to one where your needs aren’t respected. Having your feelings and opinions considered in a fair way is valuable, especially when it comes to topics like:

  • Where are we going for Christmas?
  • Where should the kids go to school?
  • Which neighbourhood should we buy our house in?
  • Where should the family go on holiday?

The happiness of a relationship depends on the small things that build trust, care, and mutual respect over time.

Why it’s toxic to men: putting effort into relationships is hard

3. Men don’t get to take their problems out on you

FDS helps you to filter out most men so that you don’t become an emotional or physical outlet for a man’s anger.

Why it’s toxic to men: It means that men have to shell out the cost, time and organisational skills to arrange their own therapy.

4. Your leisure and freedom is yours to enjoy. Your labour is yours to enjoy or be fairly compensated for

No more doing an unfair share of the work in your relationship, or taking on extra “admin” responsibilities at work without pay.

Toxic for: shady men and shady employers alike

5. You are treated as the prize

When a woman is with a f*ckboy, her thoughts are consumed by the intermittent communications from her would be beau (he isn’t really) and hyper analysing texts like “You up?”

It’s not that deep and yet when you are in that kind of shit storm, it can be hard to pull yourself out.

Why it’s toxic: Haven’t I already mentioned that effort is hard?

6. No more paying to have your time wasted

Men who ask you out on dates know that you could be doing something else with your time, like engaging in a hobby, meeting up with friends, or participating in pro-social behaviour like charity work. Embracing FDS means that you filter out men who want you to pay for the privilege of having your time, (ironing, Tom Ford foundation, that fancy dress) being wasted. When you expect high quality interactions as a condition of a relationship, the trash sees itself out, it’s quite magical!

Why it’s toxic: It’s beneficial for men to waste as many women’s time as possible, while sewing his wild, deformed, two-headed oats. You demanding high effort is depriving them of this! Plus it means he has to go through the effort of typing up “You’re going to be single your whole life” before storming off (digitally) in a fit of pique. Next time he will be afraid to approach a woman with low effort. This is what we want. What a tragedy!

7. Your career, education, or other goals are prioritised

When you turn the love and care you’re expected to give strangers inward, great things start to happen. You start to judge yourself by what you can do for yourself! You can now:

  • Take that pottery class on Wednesday evenings
  • Go back to uni for that MBA
  • Brunch all you want with your nearest and dearest
  • Go stay with an ill family member to lend emotional support

Why this is toxic: more women performing market work means men have to compete for jobs with people who are better socialised to work with others as a team. You also won’t put your dreams on hold for someone else who hasn’t got a proven track record of being trustworthy. This sucks because lazy dudes really need our free labour

8. “Benefit of the doubt” is not in your vocabulary

You now see your relationships with others as they are, and don’t make excuses for people who don’t respect you or treat you like they care about you. Integrity is the name of your game, and if someone you’re dealing with doesn’t have it, they’re out of your circle.

Why this is toxic: Men and employers alike depend on you staying one more day, communicating one more time, all the while they kick the can down the road with the relationship/ employment/ safety issues until they’re ready to replace you

9. You’re not afraid to be “single”/ "undesirable"

A life free from drama is an amazing gift. A woman who isn’t afraid of being single isn’t afraid to leave. She understands that the societal pressure to stay with a man is there because men benefit from her freely given sexual, reproductive, emotional and physical labour, therefore she is the prize.

Why it’s toxic to men: how else will they coerce you into sex you don’t want, continue to physically abuse you, isolate you from your family, coerce you to send nudes?

10. You’re less likely to end up in an abusive relationship

The fact that you don’t give men undue credit, don’t take your freedom for granted and don’t have any fear about being alone is anathema to abusive men. There are still some depraved dudes who will see a woman like this as a “challenge”, but FDS is a great filter for men who are looking for people to use

Why it's toxic to abusers: not being available to be used by men is offensive to soceity at large.

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*Edited for low value grammar