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[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple346 points347 points348 points 3 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
This one is for the men in my life who told me 'I didn't tell you, because I didn't want to hurt your feelings' when they did me wrong.
They're 100% selfish.
[–]BasieSkanksRuthless Strategist170 points171 points172 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And they’re lying. If they cared about your feelings, they wouldn’t have screwed you over. Also, keeping things from you only benefits them. Withholding vital information from your partner is never done for loving reasons.
[–]huevos_and_whiskeyFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to be held accountable.”
[–]sailorstrongFDS Newbie118 points119 points120 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
My ex said that to me after leaving me abruptly for another woman after 7 years together. Apparently I had "never been enough". When asked why he never said anything about that, why if he had been so unhappy, why did he stay and waste my time.
"I didn't want to hurt your feelings"*
Because saying that to me at 6 months would be so much more hurtful that at 7 years.
*Read: I was still getting value out of "being" with you , monetarily, lifestyle, sex and chores domestic duties. Until something shiny distracted me.
[–]MindeskaFDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
God, yes, exact same happened to me after 7 years. I love how fucking arrogant and deluded these scrotes are that they think you can't live without them. Mine actually had the audacity to say he worried that I wouldn't be able to cope if he left me.....so his solution was to string me along for 2+ years knowing he was eventually going to leave.
Like....did he think that was how I wanted to spend my mid to late twenties? Being strung along? I thought the relationship was an investment in my future so I put effort into it. I didn't realise that scrotes take any sign of love or interest or effort as being pathetic and needy.
They REALLY don't care about wasting our time, do they?
[–]thegrrr8pretenderPickmeisha™️17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This sounds exactly like my ex. I was a reeeaally dumb pickmeisha so bad, he was 10 years my senior and before we got together he says “yeah I’m still with her, but I’m just not into it anymore.”
I said, “ok then leave her. She’s 35 years old. She has a daughter (not his) she doesn’t have time to waste. If you know you’re not into her, and you’re not going to be the man she needs, then leave. She has a life that she is taking time out of to make space for you in. You’re actively doing her a disservice by dragging this out, and you know this, which makes it even worse. If any part of you cares about her, leave.”
And then my dumbass went and got with him like it was going to be any different. I saw the red flags, but somehow I did mental gymnastics to tell myself (and he told me..) “it’s different with us...” 🙄
Bah! All I can do now is learn from it!
But no, they don’t give a fuck about wasting our time. He knowingly took the “last childbearing years” from her, and got off on stringing her and I along like lights on a Christmas tree.
[–]JiltedGroupieFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I didn't realise that scrotes take any sign of love or interest or effort as being pathetic and needy.
Jfc yes. If I had a dollar for every time some dickhead has taken basic attention and affection as a sign that I’m sooooo attached to them or something. They can be so condescending about it too, it has always made me gag. I developed a visceral reaction to a guy in the early phases of dating reacting to my kindness as if I liked them more than I actually did, and then telling me off for it. It became an instant “you’re dumped” trigger for me.
[–]darkempress2003FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One million percent this. Like, I'm not a porcelain doll. I ain't gonna break.
[–]oddcharmFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yes! so much bs in one statement. just say you don't respect me and go!
[–]TropicalPrairieFDS Newbie252 points253 points254 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Denying a woman the opportunity to make an educated, informed decision by concealing information is one of the most devious–and common–things men do.
[–]rightioushippieFDS Newbie80 points81 points82 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Rape by deception
[–]thegrrr8pretenderPickmeisha™️11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m going to start using this phrase in my trauma counseling I now have to go to for my ptsd that my ex caused by his utter depravity. He got off on lying and seeing how much he could do with us (yes that’s plural) either not knowing or accepting his explaining away everything.
Sadly there’s no legal recourse for it, but psychologically it’s exactly as if I’m having sex with someone and suddenly they pull off a mask and the whole time I was being raped by a stranger, but it’s so much worse because I was giving it to them and actively helping them get off, and they were getting off on how far they could take it. It’s fucking traumatizing.
[–]ThisAintMyOnlyUNFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly. They know that a lot of women would leave had they been given the full truth at an appropriate time. So they lie.
Absolutely. There is no “consent” when a woman is deceived, gaslit, or coerced.
[–]MindeskaFDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. I missed out on an amazing career opportunity because the scrote I'd spent the past seven years with didn't tell me he was planning to break up with me. He let me turn down the offer, presumably just in case he changed his mind about dumping me, so of course I was making my decision without the necessary information. They do stuff like this ALL THE TIME. They will happily ruin a woman's career or education if it means not having to be alone for a few months until they find someone else.
[–]rightioushippieFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]VioletRomanticFDS Newbie165 points166 points167 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I have no problem with the truth. What I have a problem with is finding out the truth after being lied to.
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple107 points108 points109 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or being told I’m crazy when the facts are staring at me in the face. Men would rather be liars and gas lighters than take responsibility for their actions.
[–][deleted] 118 points119 points120 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
🚨 things cheaters say
[–]sashimi_girlFDS Newbie84 points85 points86 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Baby I didn’t tell you because it wasn’t emotional for me 🥺 I swear it was just sex! And it only happened a few times! If you stopped having hobbies and enjoying anything besides my company, maybe I wouldn’t need to sleep around ❤️
[–]whenthecagedbirdsingFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. These are definitely words of an insecure man who can’t stand to be alone and not have validation for just one second.
[–]r4nd0m-u53rFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But if you stop having hobbies and give me more attention I'm going to accuse you of being clingy / needy.
[–]nymphaetamineFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup, we literally cannot win no matter what. Unless we leave and stay single, of course.
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[–]JiltedGroupieFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh god. Yes. They will string you along for months even when you are clear about what you want with the excuse that they didn't want to hurt your feelings. No. You just didn't want to lose your options/have an uncomfortable conversation. Having things end respectfully is sad but I always appreciate the honesty.
Yup. And on TRP/MRA type subs and forums they like to constantly point out that, statistically, more women file for divorce than men do, as evidence of like... “muh misandry” or something.
That’s because more women make the difficult, mature discussion to separate when they realize the relationship is broken. More men just decide to live in a broken relationship and take advantage of having a full-time free maid/cook/nanny/broodmare/sex slave. But sure, men are “the real victims” of the fact that women are the ones who actually leave. Riiiiight.
[–]GeorgerobertfrancisFDS Newbie39 points40 points41 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh yeah, I received the fabulous trauma of being lied to for years because he knew I would react poorly to the TERRIBLE things he was doing.
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[–]nymphaetamineFDS Disciple0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same. I should send them the therapy bills.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I swear, this sub surprises me every day. So many things I hadn’t considered before, so much truth coming from women every day. She hit the nail on the head.
[–]ThrowRAshipsRhardThrowaway Account8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Too real :/
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ooooh this hit hard in so many ways 👏👏👏
[–]seraphinelysionFDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can't upvote this enough.
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Haha! So very true!
[–]Shernandez9870FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facts
[–]ThrowRA745318FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Ugh, this one hurts.
As someone who, like an idiot, once waited for a guy who told me he loved me, but was "just waiting for the right time" to break up with his girlfriend...
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