A compilation of advice I wish I had sooner, hopefully it'll help someone out there!

  • You cannot change a man for the better, it doesn't matter how thoughtful, patient and understanding you are. He has to change himself, and it's not your fault he's still an asshole after all your effort.

  • It's not your job to make a man understand your worth, you should never have to try to prove yourself.

  • Never change yourself to suit a mans needs/wants. You will get tired of it and will burst into flames and the relationship will end like a train wreck.

  • When you see a red flag, RUN. Don't try to stay and "work on it"

  • Never let a man control you, your actions, your education, what music you listen to, your finances,who you socialise with etc

  • If he makes you feel like shit, he's a piece of shit.

  • Poly is not the answer to deal with a cheating partner.

  • There is no "real" BDSM, it's just another way for men to control us. And no, you didn't enjoy it, you were depressed and used it as a form of self harm.

I'm sure there's more I could add! But that'll do for now.