Another Man lying on the internet that he “accidentally” found out about his girlfriend being an FDS member. These revenge fantasies about dumping a girl after “discovering” her FDS usage are getting less creative.

brbulk · 2020-01-06T18:03:35+00:00

There’s even a person who goes on a rant in that thread about how clearly she would fake harassment and rape charges? Like what the actual fuck? At that point I realized how insecure men are, no one would fake that shit and if they did they’re a LVW. But how do you take a subreddit meant for empowering individuals into literally them faking rAPE CHarges?

mountaindewme22 · 2020-01-06T17:29:26+00:00

I love the fact that we get under their skin lmao.

Who would have imagined that the state of modern dating would be so trash, that the idea of paying for the date YOU asked someone on would ruffle so many feathers and be considered abuse lol. I can't.

Any guy worth your time would not care that a woman is trying to better herself and hold people she dates to a higher standard, because he's not a desperate lvm and has standards too!

nruthh · 2020-01-06T16:53:33+00:00

My boyfriend saw my Reddit activity in FDS and doesn’t care. Because he’s not an insecure dipshit. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Amy3e13 · 2020-01-06T16:49:44+00:00

Scare tactic. He wants to discourage women from subscribing to/applying FDS, so he tries to make it seem like any potential boyfriend would be "horrified" to find his girlfriend on here. Yawn

ThrowawayFaye818 · 2020-01-06T17:07:57+00:00

That post sent me to this sub, never heard about it before but I'll definitely be passing it along to other women I know.

aclumsygirl · 2020-01-06T18:51:54+00:00

Too funny. This sub rents a lot of space in incel heads.

For a bunch of men claiming they're "going their own way", they sure spend a lot of time over this way🤷‍♀️

ny-lady · 2020-01-06T17:33:46+00:00

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GCchick · 2020-01-06T17:41:11+00:00

I love how the HVM get it and don't understand why LVM are freaking out. It's beautiful to watch.

gothoneybones · 2020-01-06T17:18:02+00:00

Ugh I want to respond to some of those comments but I know they won't listen.

How is it manipulative to dump men that don't treat you the way you want to be treated? This sub does not advocate retaliatory ghosting, it advocates for "block and leave forever." How is it cheating to follow the Four Man Plan & tell men you date that they aren't the only one, and that commitment must be proven? I feel like they're cherry-picking the bit about "see a new guy sometimes helps distract from the one you’re with" as advocating cheating, when I took it 100% to mean "don't date one guy at a time because it's too easy to get emotionally attached and blind to other options." And, as far as I've seen, the "make them pay for dates" rule only applies to the beginning of getting to know someone, to see how invested they are in treating you with quality dates so you don't fall for low-effort "netflix & chill" fuckbois. A relationship absolutely should be egalitarian- when he's proven he'll reciprocate your efforts.

I think a lot of people in those comments are assuming this strategy is about manipulation when really it's just about standards.

Ka_Tetof99 · 2020-01-06T17:26:58+00:00

Lmao I found this sub through one of these made up revenge fantasy posts. It’s like free advertising.

Itchy-Transportation · 2020-01-06T19:36:47+00:00

Whats crazy to me is that THIS is what men fear so much. Not being abused, sexually assaulted, put in danger. Not being cheated on or getting an sti from their partners infidelity. But a women forming a community together and having standards like not paying for a date. Like their girlfriend having her own set of opinions on dating that don't line up with their own is THEIR BIGGEST CONCERN.

Just a further reminder that shit is not equal, thats exactly why we need this sub.

2020-01-06T18:29:12+00:00

"waaaaah there was a tab saying I should pay waahh manipulative girl!!! " ha, just another dude who doesn't want to spoil his gf and wants to use FDS as an excuse to make her look like a thief. As if he didn't choose to pay himself. This girl dodged a bullet. There is nothing worse than a dude whom actions are not genuine and acts like he had no control over his wallet.

MiddlingMe · 2020-01-06T19:17:08+00:00

I have been married to my husband for 6 years and we were together for 6 years before that.

I am subscribed to this subreddit out of curiosity of what dating culture is like these days for women. Also because I personally know SO many women in my life who don't know their worth and it kills me, so it is refreshing to see women who genuinely value themselves for once.

He knows I am subscribed to this subreddit. He doesn't care in the slightest. He can see where you all are coming from and even agrees with a lot of your principles. Because he is secure in himself and he wouldn't want me to settle either. Plus, he knows he isn't a LVM and doesn't have the slightest of impulses to rush to defend them either. lol

So reading that post amused me. Most of the responses there are so dramatic. But it just comes off as super insecure to me. How dare women have self respect and a sense of dignity.

Nah nah nah. Ignore these morons. A real man wouldn't give a rat's buttocks that his wife or gf is subscribed to a subreddit about empowering women to be treated with more respect. Their reactions are so telling.

blackopium777 · 2020-01-06T17:31:21+00:00

"That's actually great. Women have to stick together and support each other, I don't see the problem here? They are probably scared because they ain't shit" was my husbands opinion on FDS and what kind of backlash we get for having standards. Any man who has a problem with this subreddit has to get his shit together.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-01-06T19:14:00+00:00

Leveling up often scares people who aren't there yet. 🤷‍♀️

spotsandstripes9 · 2020-01-06T19:24:11+00:00

What manipulation tactics are they even talking about? Almost all the advice I’ve seen in this subreddit is related to setting boundaries with men and knowing when to walk away.

Upper-Jaguar · 2020-01-06T19:40:09+00:00

"using him"

Her time and body "on the open market"would be worth thousands, theoretically. I can make $40 in the two hours I was on a dinner date at a job. You know? My ex was weird about paying but I moved on to someone who made $17k a month (he was bragging and I called BS, it was not BS). my pathetic ex left voice mail (you can't block voice mail) saying how he made 32/hr now. LMAO. They think you are after their money when all you do is go on a $40 date once a week. She could be making that at a job or with a much richer man- her time, affection and body and mind is worth a fucking date

rftw2013 · 2020-01-06T19:43:23+00:00

This guy violates his girlfriend's privacy, and feels he is the one wronged?

Please, sir...Do tell me more about how awful your girlfriend is. [eyeroll]

UrsulaVanTentacles · 2020-01-06T16:58:13+00:00

Lmao. Oh the horror. Your girlfriend wants to be treated right and self improve, quit shaking in your panties boy.

Maisiebr · 2020-01-06T17:16:31+00:00

They scream manipulation every chance they get, even though we literally don't manipulate. I commented this on another thread before and I got an angry message saying how we are no different than redpill men. Hi there, lurker! If you're butthurt about women building themselves up and not tolerating your bullshit, just don't trigger yourself.

mypretties · 2020-01-06T20:05:44+00:00

Saying no to a guy = mAnIPuLaTiOn!!11

2020-01-06T18:23:59+00:00

Dear angry, sad men who spend their spare time lurking on a women’s sub, Be a HVM and you have nothing to worry about. In fact if all men were HV, this sub wouldn’t exist. Sincerely, Women

__femmefatale__ · 2020-01-06T16:36:32+00:00

why are they so obsessed with us 😂

siberiansummer · 2020-01-06T19:40:28+00:00

Pffftt.. Yeah okay!! That totally happened 🙄 On the other hand a HVM would not be scared of this sub. And if his imaginary girlfriend was really a part of our group she would know not to date such a LVM 🤦‍♀️

DelicateDream · 2020-01-06T21:07:25+00:00

Even some LVM would agree with much of this sub. I dated some pseudo HVM who kept that facade for a few months before they showed their true LV (my former pickmeisha habit was being rebound girl who provides free therapy). Even those guys wouldn’t hear of me paying for a date or expect sex right away!

meowfleur · 2020-01-06T17:46:00+00:00

HA, this post is how I found out about this subreddit. I'll probably join too.

ItsFreezen · 2020-01-06T19:08:47+00:00

"What do I do??" Start with self reflection before you get dumped.

Fitncurly · 2020-01-06T21:45:54+00:00

Fake. Pretty sure I’ve showed my husband a couple of posts 😆. He even commented on the sub’s name with a shifty eye, but I told him what it was about and he was like 🤷🏻‍♂️👍🏼✊🏼. Men of quality know that most men are not, and would want women to be able to learn to discern. Men of quality feel good when it’s known that they are a cut above the rest, so why would they not like this information out there (if they’re meeting the mark)?

raindampened · 2020-01-06T18:01:36+00:00

these LVM cannot comprehend why FDS says men should pay for dates. maybe we should pin a post about it. a post that also includes the "message for male lurkers" flair.

Lil_Doll404 · 2020-01-06T18:46:00+00:00

So funny cause I follow that community and when I posted about a guy trying to fuck me in three days of knowing me I got called an idiot , a prude, and everything under the sun because I follow FDS strategy.

take1990 · 2020-01-06T21:54:46+00:00

Haha what manipulation? So calling out someone’s BS and having standards is now manipulation. 👋🏽

classylassy28 · 2020-01-06T18:13:09+00:00

It's hilarious. So many stalkers on FDS from shitty places like mgtow, ect.

I enjoy seeing this. Free publicity.

Sewud · 2020-01-06T22:19:02+00:00

"I know I shouldn't have" What kind of weak character is that? If you think something is wrong, but you do it anyway, you're failing to live by your own principles. I unironically wish I could meet men who are as principled as me. I don't lock my phone and I don't mind if the content of my phone is seen, but I also don't have the desire to check other people's phones. I have nothing to hide and I'm not nosey. It would be great if I could just find men like that without having to explain it because if I explain it then they can fake it.

Also, HVM would not feel threatened by FDS.

Also, FDS is not very manipulative. It says to concentrate your time on men who are worth it.

Also, who would have all their FDS favorites opened in tabs like they need to study up on the material?

Meredeen · 2020-01-06T23:23:11+00:00

The thread was removed, and there is now a stickied comment from a mod telling the OP to message them about why the post was removed and before posting any future updates. Wonder what that is all about?

Also I legitimately do not understand the hate for this subreddit, I feel like I'm in crazy town over there. A ton of stuff here is really reasonable.

BDizzy18 · 2020-01-07T01:13:28+00:00

I also found this group from men talking badly about it on here. The funny thing is, these were the principles I was raised with- the principles taught to me by my father. He always wanted to protect me from bad relationship experiences by "arming me with knowledge" about how men think and act, and how to spot all of the bad ones early to avoid them. It worked; I haven't had any bad experiences.

After discovering what incels were it became a bit of a pet hobby of mine to research and read about these concepts in my spare time, which is how I found out what a sad state dating is in. I like reading FDS because I get the same cringe-inducing posts from elsewhere, but nicely curated and with hilarious comments from the lovely women here instead of terrible, self-sabotaging advice from women in other groups. It's also a good refresher on what I was taught growing up. 😁

ny-lady · 2020-01-06T23:00:48+00:00

Id dump him for going through my computer.

gottalovesunrise · 2020-01-06T17:32:17+00:00

We really have better things to do than play stupid mind games. For example, protect ourselves from potential abusive men.

WyvernCharm · 2020-01-06T22:34:57+00:00

Just saw another post that called out FDS as being as bad as incels smh. Still, it seems like its a quality recruitment tactic for this sub considering how many of us girls have come here initially out of curiosity from posts like that!

PicklesNBacon · 2020-01-06T23:20:59+00:00

Why is he going through her laptop in the first place?!

DatCatLove · 2020-01-06T23:35:55+00:00

Well, I’ve joined FDS after reading that post and thinking “what the hell is that?” 😂

s_slayer · 2020-01-07T06:40:41+00:00

You can’t reason with men. Accountability is really not in their vocabulary. Maybe once or twice in the beginning of a relationship with them if you’re lucky and that’s it. Trust me. So, we are horrible for wanting to be treated with respect, we have the “worst” sub and should be banned, why? Because the truth hurts. Meanwhile they have all their disgusting subs and are incapable of understanding how truly warped they are, because men aren’t taught to think like that. All they do is react to that which threatens their fragile egos, hence why this sub is so controversial to the wittle babies. This isn’t just dating strategy, this is also a great sub for letting women know the ins and outs of the male psyche and they are just hating that. Keep sharing your wisdom, ladies! It’s a true service to your fellow sisters.

ElectronicBat0 · 2020-01-07T01:37:11+00:00

Lmao this just screams fake, how do they take shit like this so seriously

FancyHoney01 · 2020-01-07T02:34:59+00:00

He read thru her computer and bookmarks. That’s enough to make me dump his low value insecure ass right there. Fuckboi

classylassy28 · 2020-01-06T18:14:14+00:00

My husband goes on my Reddit, doesn't even care. He agrees with alot of our points as well as some from red pill. No worries. If he bitches about it it's his own insecurity.

merlinsmoon · 2020-01-06T23:59:53+00:00

😭😂🤣😂😭

meecy166 · 2020-01-07T03:33:03+00:00

I love how popular we are, 😂

Haltthemoon · 2020-01-07T04:04:27+00:00

Wait, what? I've been on this sub for a month now. Where are the instructions to get guys to pay for my meals?

L fucking O L

We don't do that here. We discuss standards but never have I read a post about how to manipulate men into doing things and paying things for us.