Are these negs? Just a bi woman finally getting around to dating men and these are some of the things that have been said to me so far

kayethewitch · 2021-11-08T03:14:45+00:00

Some are negs and some are just these men telling on themselves. The bar is truly in hell.

Superb-Cancel9071 · 2021-11-08T03:38:35+00:00

Ew, wtf is all this garbage

FUBARfromLSA · 2021-11-08T03:55:53+00:00

Block and delete every single idiot that made these ridiculous comments to solely tear down your self confidence and make you doubt yourself.

Ugh.

LR_today · 2021-11-08T04:09:20+00:00

Any and all of these men are literal human garbage.

frostedgemstone · 2021-11-08T04:40:10+00:00

100%. Actual compliments don’t have this weird overlying theme of hostility and insult. Can you picture a woman saying these things to you?

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-11-08T09:48:08+00:00

Do not sleep with men who neg. Block and delete. The handbook has all the info you need.

aluriaphin · 2021-11-08T03:40:34+00:00

If you have to ask then assume they are. All of the above men are trash and need to be blocked and deleted if they aren't already. Also, no offense but it sounds like you are having sex with them without properly waiting and vetting and especially with men this puts you in danger and is extremely frowned upon by FDS.

mypetchickens · 2021-11-08T14:05:25+00:00

“You didn’t strike me as the type of girl to wear purple nail polish”
--yes, in that its a comment meant to cultivate insecurity in you based on who you are
“You’re not like other girls”
--eww, you're not a girl, you're a woman. When a dude says this to me, I ask them what they mean by that. I don't let go. Ask them.
When telling that I’m going to start wearing contacts “Nooo you’re taking away my fetish. You look really good in glasses. You’ll have to keep a pair to wear just for me.”
-um very selfish. You use glasses to see, he should prioritize that over his fetish. Red flag especially if early in a relationship
after sex “yeah, you’re not sexually repressed.”
-weird concerning comment (porn addicted)?
“You have high sexual value”
-um excuse me?
“I’d rate you a 7” (unprompted rating btw) then later he said “but you’re a 10 to me”
-NEG
“I’m not a boob man but your ass is perfect”
-NEG
“You’re beautiful in real life but you look hideous on zoom”
-NEG
“You’re pretty but you’re no Barbie doll”
-NEG
“Your ass is not particularly large but it has a nice shape”

-NEG

This man has red flags all over

europoor24 · 2021-11-08T05:53:36+00:00

Yes yes yes. Block and delete these men are trash.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-11-08T05:48:55+00:00

Babe, these are all shit sandwiches. Unpromted and undeserved stream of shit consciousness negs. This is what he thinks of you. He's a jerk by his voiced thoughts. There is not one of them that comes from a place of respect and empathy. Red flags and he's telling you who he is: a big big jerk that does not respect women, a misogynistic man.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-11-08T09:59:08+00:00

Yup. Block and delete whoever said that crap to you, they don't deserve your presence or attention.

londochig · 2021-11-08T05:59:31+00:00

Flip the script. Have you or would you make these comments to other women who you've dated? Would you make them to a man? It's a block and delete.

KindredMaximus · 2021-11-08T05:55:30+00:00

Crikey!!! Every single one of those statements whether I was Bi or not, would have me shutting it down and running for the hills, quick smart. A good rule is, if you feel the need to ask if it's OK or not - it probably isn't. Fuck those guys.
Another good strategy is turning it around in your head - if you would never say something like this out loud to someone you care about - then you shouldn't allow it for yourself.

scorchedsouI · 2021-11-08T06:41:16+00:00

I'm willing to bet most if not all of them were mildy disgusting-looking scrotes with either a balding head, tits, short stature, forehead wrinkles or a small dick, or had multiple of these traits. The ones who don't have room to talk as far as beauty is concerned do it the most.

CrazyPaine · 2021-11-09T01:55:45+00:00

I'm mad at you. You know better if you have to ask, especially how you feel afterwards. But please do better because you don't need that type of men in your life. You don't need it whatsoever. You deserve better than this. Block and delete them fuckers.

PmMeYourFountainPens · 2021-11-08T16:45:43+00:00

As a fellow bi woman, why would you choose to date men? 😅

There’s so much male garbage out there and so many HVW. Just my personal opinion, but I’d avoid men. I know plenty of straight women who lament to me about wishing they could be gay.

That being said I’m not closed off to the idea of meeting a HVM. I’m just realistic about the probability. I’m very cautious and alert to the behaviors of men I allow into my life. They tell on themselves quickly and early if you’re paying attention- good or bad.

enchantedglow · 2021-11-10T22:01:16+00:00

Definitely negging.

“You didn’t strike me as the type of girl to wear purple nail polish” this made me laugh out loud though- I know it's a neg but who thinks about what colour nail polish someone would wear?? 😂 men are so weird.

Nonnasaysfuckoff · 2021-11-08T20:10:13+00:00

It's all abusive manipulation in every single sentence you shared here. If a man even says something remotely resembling what you shared then RUN. Please read the handbook and check out the book "why does he do that" by Lundy buncroft.

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