[BDSM is ABUSE] She said rough, he said okay, and slapped her in the face

Hooked up with a guy once. I'm not vanilla and I can confirm that he is definitely not vanilla.

We talked a little bit about what we like, and I mentioned that I like it kinda rough like ass slapping, scratching, hair pulling, choking, biting, or if I trust my partner, being tied up and using handcuffs. Not anything that crazy, though.

Well. He definitely took rough into consideration. The sex was going fantastic. He went a bit hard on the biting and choking than I was used to, but nothing I couldn't handle. OUT OF NOWHERE he just leaned back and slapped me in the face. Not that hard, just enough to startle me.

And startled I was. I laid there for a second and processed because I did NOT expect that. I was like "Oh shit" then "Did I like that??" Then he did it again and "Okay. No no, don't like that."

Lmao that was a whole new experience and once I determined that I didn't like being slapped, I said so, and he never did it again.

Plot twist: turned out he just got out of prison for identity theft too

Edit: On a more serious note, for those of you that are concerned that I was abused, thank you for worrying, but this was not a case of abuse. I told him I like "rough" and that was pretty broad. "Rough" can be decoded differently, depending on how someone defines rough. The first time having sex with someone is always a learning curve (and even many times after that as you sexually explore with your partner). This was one of those learning curve moments and when I determined that I didn't like it, he didn't do it again when I asked him not to. It didn't hurt at all. Now if I told him to stop doing that, and he kept doing it, or if he straight up gave me a black eye, then that's a whole other story and I'm sorry for anyone that has had to go through real abuse/sexual abuse. Thank you all for looking out!