I wanted to warn everyone about men that pretend to show effort by making plans. They'll plan out a nice dinner, or an event, or to meet you for a holiday. You'll see green flags of him talking to you, maybe even having reservations or he already got you a ticket, or he'll say he's looking forward to it and give you a time to meetup.

One of the guys made plans with me to go to a restaurant he said was "so nice". There was a long wait. I was surprised he knew the place well yet didn't make reservations when he knew it'd be that packed. The hostess said we could sit at the bar & order drinks/apps until we get a table for dinner and also suggested the nearby outside mall while we waited. My date asked "what do you want to do?" I said "we can wait, why don't we have a drink at the bar until a table is ready?" He groaned a little and said he was really hungry and he didnt want to wait, let's just find somewhere else to eat instead. I said okay. I noticed then he was saying how good the food was here but started saying its so pricey and I guess I won't be able to treat you. He ended up having me follow him in my car as he aimlessly drove around and he was on speakerphone. We were seeing a lot of restaurants and I said let's pick one and stop. He started saying he didn't like any of the food or that they were all too crowded. He then suggested his favorite bar. I said ok let's go. So I followed his car there and watched how he poked his head inside and saw a woman bartender she kinda quick looked at him and it was like was scared of her he turned around so fast and walked out "its too crowded here too". Hes like there's a burger King let's just get fast food. I reluctantly agreed. It was awful and I felt so silly being all dressed up eating a gross whopper jr while people stared at me.

Learn the lesson: guys pull the bait and switch. This clown never was gonna take me to that fancy restaurant. He made it seem like he was going to and led me on and tricked me into settling for fast food. He tried to make it seem like the restaurants were too crowded when really it was a Friday night and he was too egotistical to admit he was too broke or cheap to take me there, and that he definitely saw one of his other girlfriends/exes in that bar. Let me also tell you if you get in a situation like this, just GO HOME. this is why you always drive separate and don't get in his car or have him get in yours! You need your car so you have the freedom to dip asap. A HVM will make reservations or in my case a real HVM would have bought appetizers at the bar or taken me to the nearby mall that the hostess suggested to kill the hour wait. Don't settle for fast food when you were promised a nice restaurant, cut your loss and leave asap.

I've had some other guys make plans with me and then try to change it into going where they actually wanted. One time the guy said he was gonna take me to my favorite restaurant which was a mom and pop steakhouse with delicious food and a really nice atmosphere. I was dressed up and foolishly let him pick me up (we were dating for a while) and then I noticed he wasn't going the right direction. He said well I thought we could go to the chain restaurant steak place instead, he said he had "a giftcard" and really liked their one appetizer. I personally am not a fan of chain food this chain steakhouse is overrated and they have a horrible atmosphere: its so loud and obnoxious and attracts a lot of families with young, loud, screaming kids. See how he switched it last minute into going to the steakhouse he really liked and was craving and tried to pass it off as "thoughtful" by saying "babe you like steak and steak is steak". I had to barely eat mine because i knew I'd get diarrhea. There is a difference and don't go if he switches up.

The third lesson is that if a guy makes plans with you: he shouldn't be flaking out on you or complaining about it the whole time. If he suggested to take you to Philly, for example, I don't want to hear him complaining about how awful and dirty and rude philly is or to be made to feel bad about how expensive stuff is. If you take me to an football game, dont complain about the $9 bottle of water or my $18 nachos when you asked me there. Hvm should know what they're getting into and should be ready for the traffic, waits, and prices. I want enjoy the date not be hearing Mr. Krabs whine about "oh me poor wallet" or spending money. Its cheap and ruins all the fun. Plus it's a neg used to make you feel guilty or to try to make you buy the stuff, despite him asking you there. Dont fall for it and don't deal with it. I remember being with a cheap man at the pro football game and of course they don't let you bring drinks in. I was melting in the heat and literally dehydrating. So was he and hes like im not paying $9 for a bottle of water. I didn't bring cash in because I was worried it'd get stolen and my card declined because I was in the big city I never travel to. I was sweating and literally dizzy from dehydration and had to stand to the side and explain to the credit card company it wasn't fraud and the place won't give me a free cup of water. While my nvm stood there also dehydrating "im not paying for a bottle of water thats robbery". 9 bucks was cheaper than passing out though... never again.

And if you're getting ready to meet a guy for your date and he flakes out don't even listen to the excuse. "Traveling / traffic / out of town /work ran late" are all commonly abused fake excuses LVM pull. He just wasted your time and stood you up. Go somewhere else and have fun by yourself instead, and block him.