Casual sex and hookup culture is one of the greatest evils against women

ErikaNaumann · 2020-04-09T12:18:34+00:00

It's good we have the FREEDOM to do it if we want to, but bad that it is INDOCTRINATED and has become the social norm.

Flowingnebula · 2020-04-09T15:21:38+00:00

The radical liberal "feminism" of instagram and twitter preach exactly what OP is talking against. I have seen countless posts normalizing casual hook ups, telling girls to be that quirky girl who will partake in BDSM. Don't get me started on these feminist instagram page with vintage filters captioning every other post with "choke me daddy"

Women went from having no sexual freedom to now forcing ourselves to fit into "be a hoe" narrative, both of which are bad. We are not sexual commodities we are human beings first, sex should be between consenting, respectful and understanding partners.

Finally i found a place where i'm not the crazy prude of the group

butterflyhatch · 2020-04-09T12:13:02+00:00

It surely is.

I have ended up in such situations due to "daddy issues" and needing validation and it haunts me deeply. I have been choked, forced into degrading positions, play out a rape scenario... all for what? The chance of getting STDs, pregnant, physically and mentally scarred.

None of them have been rewarding because the guy only cares for his own pleasure. Not worth the risk for all the things stated above even on the off chance you have had good experiences.

Just reserve intimacy to when you are in a dedicated relationship. Otherwise vibrators, dildos, etc. You will save yourself from a lot of pain and trauma.

sugaredberry · 2020-04-09T13:07:27+00:00

I found my tribe y’all. Finally somewhere where I’m not a crazy person for thinking these things!!!! it’s fine to have sex but we do need to acknowledge that “sex positivity” is made up bs that only benefits males

ceruleanavocado · 2020-04-09T12:28:38+00:00

This hits home for me. Before I started following this sub, I completely fell for the idea that casual sex=female empowerment. I wasn't completely blind, I saw how bad my friends' relationships were and realized that it was probably better to be single and focus on school/my career. But I still latched onto the idea of casual sex as a sign of independence because I was insecure and wanted to be able to say "I'm single by choice". My (mostly female) friends didn't make the situation any better, they regarded me with a sense of pity and also teased me for being a virgin. This ultimately led me to have sex with a guy I met on Tinder who didn't even know I was a virgin, and because it wasn't terrible and he wore a condom without arguing, I went back and told my friends how great it was. Ultimately I'm still trying to learn my lesson and stop being the "cool girl", but this is a great reminder to never feel obligated to have sex. To be clear, I don't want to shame or pass a moral judgment on anyone who genuinely enjoys casual sex, but I do think those who are unsure should ask themselves why they're doing it first.

darkem3 · 2020-04-09T13:04:39+00:00

Thank god for this sub I am tired getting shamed for not wanting to fuck random men I don't know my first time sex traumatized me because it was extremely painful. At one point I was scared to even put a tampon in because I was scare of the pain. Since then I avoided having sex since then only because of this fear but I had some people made fun of me because of it. People claim they want to empower women but they not even supportive when women had trauma from sex they rather mock or shame you instead of acknowledging how your experience must be traumatic.

Yianna_F · 2020-04-09T12:27:17+00:00

There's nothing worse than that and anything that comes with the liberal feminism and the sex positive culture of our times unfortunately!

It's amazing that the OP, like the rest of us, has to defend her position as "extreme" to begin with!

We're in other words at a point in time where common sense and basic human rights, the very minimum and baseline of human behaviour and expectations from a man as a sexual partner are both labelled and condemned as extreme by others and defended as such by as.

When did common sense stop being so common? 🤷‍♀️

When did our safety and self-preservation become an infringement of their "rights"? To our bodies and sexuality none the less? 🍆

When did we all buy the sexual freedom script? That coincidentally only benefits men and their depravity? 😛

When and where will it stop? ⛔

Saitschik · 2020-04-09T11:34:19+00:00

It didn´t have to be that way tho. If men would be hotter, decent and good in bed it could be fun.

I recommend to ask yourself before hooking-up with a guy: can I see him as the father of my children? Is he of the highest quality? Because thats what nature wants you to ask yourself. Everything that goes against it, like anal with an average guy in a casual relationship will not make you happy in the long run. Your body and mind will rebelle

GrungeAudrey · 2020-04-10T03:09:46+00:00

The maddona-whore complex always hurts women. (Also men because is a toxic irrational mindset to begin with).

Pressuring us to be madonna ➜ desexualizing and objectifing us a uteruses. Pressuring us to be a whore➜ oversexualazing and objectifing us for mens' pleasure.

None of these are healthy and both are exploitative.

Lib Fems and Trad Cons exploit women and benefit men giving them supply of submissive "whores" and/or submissive wives.

Also, the system is rigged so nobody wins. No matter what you do you will be virgin/prude/slut shamed. That's because shamers secretly resent your autonomy not your behaviour.

Also, they call each other into existence. I'm sure many ladies here experienced the same: whenever I voice any criticism of one side, I'm immediately associated with the other. That's why FDS is so refreshing!

Our health, pleasure and safety (physical and emotional) come first. We women deserve to live our sexuality in our own terms.

ResponsibleCharacter · 2020-04-10T17:34:55+00:00

Yep if you're having sex without orgasms you're fucking up. Point blank periodt.

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boiled_fat_pasta · 2020-04-09T12:01:57+00:00

No thanks, the culture of freedom of doing what I want is my choice.

Title	Casual sex and hookup culture is one of the greatest evils against women
Author	greenteaapplepie69
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Date	April 9, 2020 10:30 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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