I saw something like this on shower thoughts, and I remembered all the guys who talked about how the loved to cook.
I dated a much older man at the age of 21. He was 38, and a preacher. Total con artist, by the way. His house (provided by his church for free) was trashed. As in, it wouldn’t be a few hours of deep cleaning to get up to where it needed to be to be hygienic and presentable. It would need a crew. His toilet was so filthy and caked either literal hardened crap, a brush couldn’t take it off. He blamed it all on his recent ex wife (who was considerably younger too).
Two days before, he had given me some homemade hummus. I was impressed! Y’all, I was some kid in the middle of nowhere, going to college. Hummus was still a rather new thing in my part.
I visited his house after, and his kitchen was awful! I mean piles of filthy dishes. You couldn’t even fine a place to put something down. You couldn’t access the sink!
There was a food processor, with the hummus he had made for me drying in it.
This guy went on and on about how much he loved to cook.
Y’all, in my experience, most people love to cook on some level. It is the clean up people don’t want.
To me, a sign of maturity is saying “I am tired and don’t feel like cleaning, so I am just making a sandwich/popping ins frozen meal etc”
It is a childish thing, to want to cook in gross surroundings, or never do the clean up, because you like cooking.
My husband is a great cook, but I am good too! We both cook and clean. No one gets the fun part of making the meal while the other person scrubs pots. Now, if that is the arrangement a couple has because they like it, that is different, but I am just saying, be wary of “foodies.” Most people like to try new food and most people like to cook, from what I have seen. Bragging about it excessively is a sign that someone wants a gold star for basic human stuff. If someone mentions they like to cook, great, but self described “foodies” and people who let their house deteriorate while they whip up gourmet meals are ridiculous. In my experience, that is a lot of men, so don’t be impressed just by a nice meal, but make sure he does the dishes with you after he makes it. Too many men want to sear up the steaks and bust out the cool ingredients, but then want to leave crap just all over. Watch out for things like that!
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