Do you ever wonder how much 'respect' from a new lovey dovey guy is rooted in his of objectification of your body?

TheOGJammies · 2019-09-11T06:20:18+00:00

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The thing is sis, you can’t read men’s minds. And even if you could, I don’t think men even know the difference between infatuation and love most of the time. That takes a level of introspection they’re not usually socialized to have. They just know they feel good.

As with all things, time is your friend. Time reveals a man’s character and intentions. And you’re right to be worried that he might just be using you for a self esteem boost while he gets his life together. Keep him at a distance until you’re sure. Might seem like a glaciers pace but it will save you a lot of trouble.

As far as the lovey-Dovey behavior any practiced manipulator can pull that off. Most men know you can’t just come out and say you just want casual ass, so they finesse it. This way he gets to still feel like a “good guy” if he decides to dip out later.

You should act like you’re used to this level of treatment and stop being impressed by it. Even if it’s not true, fake it. If you seem like you’re buying too hard into his machinations then he’ll figure he’s the best thing that happened to you, and that it doesn’t take much to impress you, and that his game is just that special and he’ll start to subtly disrespect you.

In your case, I would just straight up ask him what he’s looking for.. He needs to verbalize it. If he struggles or stammers or makes excuses or says he “wants to take things slow” or “casual” you know he’s full of it. That’s an immediate answer that he’s using you to boost himself in some way and isn’t actually interested ina long term connection. You’re a placeholder.

What I would also suggest is to start to limit your time with him and see if he picks up the slack. Start to reject him a little and see how he reacts.

Also, make sure he pays for all your dates. See if you can convince him to take you somewhere fairly expensive. Men will not continue to spend money on women they are only marginally interested in. And if it turns out he’s not good, you would have least been wined and dined and experienced some new things on his dime.

Title	Do you ever wonder how much 'respect' from a new lovey dovey guy is rooted in his of objectification of your body?
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	15
Comments	3
Date	September 11, 2019 5:07 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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