Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-06-24T09:57:22+00:00

A fathers duty to his daughter is:

To raise her with a strong sense of self
To teach her to trust her intuition
To discuss ways to protect herself from other males by giving her the vocabulary to get out of bad situation ( I don't feel comfortable/Please stop doing that/ I am sorry but I have to leave now)
To raise her to be discerning about the types of men she invites into her world
To teach her always prioritise her safety and dignity over a mans ego + his sexual needs

Because, one day - daddy won't be around any more - and she needs to take on the big bad world by herself. It is his job to raise a smart, self actualised woman who can handle herself in any situation.

Edit: Thank you for the Gold, Silver ... all the upvotes.

I actually had a lurker - a man - give me the Helpful Award. He said his partner had a baby girl recently. His daughter is currently 9 months old, and he was touched by my comment. Which is lovely.

arnezuara · 2021-06-24T12:24:20+00:00

They don’t want their daughters to end up with men like them.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-06-24T08:25:36+00:00

Disgusting doesn't even begin to describe it. Yet it's supposed to be 'funny and adorable' 😒

sleepysiri · 2021-06-24T08:29:49+00:00

Those posts she added are vile and cringey. What do you mean by karma, you bald shit, did you assault a woman?

And what is it with men waving around GUNS? As if their fists weren’t enough.

Gourmay · 2021-06-24T10:33:36+00:00

It’s cute how he thinks “ugly” women don’t experience male violence.

That last one is some serious trump and Ivanka vibes, yuck.

radical__daphne · 2021-06-24T08:39:34+00:00

So the guy with five daughters is admitting he's a rapist and a predator?

myoklife · 2021-06-24T10:43:04+00:00

The obvious has been pointed out but I'll add...these dads are, in essence, threatening to shoot children who date their children. I feel like posting a picture of you lowkey threatening a child with a gun on the internet should be taken extremely seriously

ello-motto · 2021-06-24T12:13:37+00:00

Everyone should follow Dr. Jess btw. I would love to hear her as guest on the FDS podcast. She has some brilliant tweets around female issues.

justforfds · 2021-06-24T13:40:01+00:00

What posturing. Rape apparently is all false accusations, ruining a man's life, but consensual sex between a young woman and her choice of male partner (hopefully young too) is an offence deserving for him to be shot for and her to be seen as a slut?

Who are these men protecting? Themselves from their daughter's superior control over access to her own body? Or, again, themselves but from other men's control over what they deem their property.

Protecting their daughters would entail confessing the true nature of men, including themselves, and teaching her how to use her own informed judgement and protect herself.

I think men just want to brag about having daughters who other men will want access to and also the power trip of being gatekeeper. They want to enjoy the status of posing as a protective, providing family man.

This_Tangelo · 2021-06-24T12:01:02+00:00

I’m a psychiatrist and the number of men I’ve had sit in my office after having a baby girl and tell me they’re terrified a man will someday treat her the way they’ve treated women, that they have so much anxiety over it they can’t sleep, is frankly disgusting.

TiredLaura · 2021-06-24T09:55:19+00:00

Funny thing is that these are the very same people who talk loud and wide about how muslims treat women and girls like possessions, and hold themselves up as a prime example of a man who *respects* and *honors* women. In fact they're of the same ilk.

They're just as obsessed with whom their daughters have sex or dates.

How often do you see memes etc of dads telling their sons that they can't date until hey're 30 "hehehe I'm so funny". It's a recurring "joke" in movies and shows.

You don't have mother-son balls with the sons promising their virginity to their mother until marriage. Never ever. But have father-daughter balls with ceremonies where the girls pledge their virginity to daddy. How is this not incestuous?

But hey! daddy just protecting his little pure daughter! (from those guys who want to do with her what he wants to do with her friends)

Brandishing guns while talking about how no man better come close to their daughter, smacks of a disturbing involvement with her vagina.

If they're so concerned with their daughter's safety, they need to get together with their friends who have sons, and make sure the guys know how to behave; not because "i'm going to shoot you if you fuck up!" but because they truly respect the girl/woman.

Waste-Win · 2021-06-24T12:47:45+00:00

This "trope" is beyond disgusting and it's so normalized.

TVsFrankismyDad · 2021-06-24T14:56:20+00:00

Men: Not all men!

Same men when they become fathers: Yes all men!!

Men: It's not faaaiirrr to act like all men are potential rapists!

Same men when a woman gets raped: Why were you alone with that man??? Don't you know all men are potential rapists???

Do they even see their own hypocrisy?

iaintgonnacallyou · 2021-06-24T13:10:28+00:00

If a man ever pulled a gun on one of my boys, I don’t give a flying fuck if it’s a joke or not, I’m pressing charges.

Platipus6 · 2021-06-24T12:13:46+00:00

Yet if I post a pic of me, my daughter, a shotgun and the same message to males I’ll get arrested…

Reporter_Complex · 2021-06-24T11:48:08+00:00

I fken hate this lmao,

We literally talk about male violence, being scared of men in the street, having to worry about how hard your throat punch is just in case - and dudes are out here doing the same fken thing, worrying about all this shit when they see another man on the road, but expect us to bend over?

Lmao, NO. Absolutely not. If they are worried about it enough to have to "protect" their daughters and wives from other men, then WE WOMEN have every right to feel the same way. Dudes can fk off.

veruscka · 2021-06-24T12:28:41+00:00

Makes me think of when TI said he goes with his teenage daughter to the gyno regularly to “get her hymen checked”

Novemberinthechair · 2021-06-24T13:18:23+00:00

Those little girls posing provocatively make me want to die.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-06-24T12:53:22+00:00

The karma is about to visit you one really makes me 🤮🤮

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-06-24T13:18:56+00:00

I love using this argument when scrotes talk about how there is no violence toward women, they instantly shut up. Like YOU know that you know, you just choose to either it until it's your kid in those shoes.

AJLake80 · 2021-06-24T13:36:41+00:00

I can’t even count how many times women have sent me “cute” memes like this and get butthurt when I tell them they’re not funny.

quasarbar · 2021-06-24T13:56:38+00:00

What's even worse is the men who prey on women and then don't care if other men prey on their daughters.

Men like my father.

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-06-24T14:39:28+00:00

I wonder if these are also the types of men who will raise their boys to be the types of men they're going to protect their daughters from? How are they the logical ones again?

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-06-24T14:32:10+00:00

That first one with the four daughters is exceptionally creepy and disgusting! He's straight up admitting that he's done stuff and his daughters are posed in a slightly suggestive manner. Plus what if his daughters had been 'ugly'?! Men telling on themselves. Did the wife take the photo and did she think this was hilarious? I used to think it was sort of funny too but also disturbing and hypocritical. Now I'm just on the completely disturbing and hypocritical side.

ItsFreezen · 2021-06-24T11:43:38+00:00

What's on these dad's computer and phone? Disgusting images and videos from porn. Hypocrites.

jupitaur9 · 2021-06-24T11:44:33+00:00

They can’t have sex with their daughters, or at least can’t admit they want to openly on the Internet.

The next best thing is to shoot their guns. It’s not very deep, psychologically.

infojustwannabefree · 2021-06-24T13:59:16+00:00

My dad is the main reason as to why I don't usually last with my male partners lol. I stopped dating all together though because relationships are useless to me now.

lvoncreek · 2021-06-24T13:23:22+00:00

Cringe level very high

kreutzwortraetzel · 2021-06-24T15:03:46+00:00

"Karma" is about to visit you. While holding a gun to protect his children. What did he do to children?

smaller_ang · 2021-06-24T18:17:15+00:00

I'm sorry, the phrase "wife only gives you pretty daughters" was enough to give me a stroke and I cannot continue reading

Mimosa_usagi · 2021-06-24T14:44:20+00:00

This kind of "humor" has always been cringe. The second hand embarrassment makes me want to crawl out of my own skin.

TrixieFriganza · 2021-06-24T15:08:20+00:00

I find it extremely tacky and disturbing to pose with a gun with kids, guns are only used to kill people, they want to show their daughters it's okay to kill or. No wonder these dads are afraid of other men, they seem very violent themselves.

And too what parent even has a gun close to their kids, what if an accident happens? Guns are not toys to pose with for silly pictures. They should be in jail for endangering their kids lives and for gun possession imo (I know this is legal in the US).

Watzoo · 2021-06-24T12:21:48+00:00

I love love love Dr Jess. She’s always spot-on.

ishQbaz · 2021-06-24T13:40:35+00:00

i am disgusted how true it is!

rosmary_bush · 2021-06-24T19:14:59+00:00

His daughter is the only girl/female that breaks out of the madonna-whore complex.

She's not a family member or his a mother figure that he can put in a sanctified virginal category

and she is not woman that he can try to sleep with (while everyone in between, he does not see🙄)

this is the 1st girl/female that he has met that breaks the complex and this is why he sees her as a person and woman that is Intrinsically deserving of respect and love because she is a person

🤦‍♀️ I believe that theyve always known how terrible their friends, family members or themselves can be to women that they sexualize but they dont care because the "whore" is not really seen as a human . Just a hole to conquer and show off to friends ( She is just a means to an end so he can get his self worth through the validation of his friends )

It's all really disturbing when you break down their way of thinking :/ somehow it leads back to their penis every time

DuchessDurag · 2021-06-24T12:28:22+00:00

In my culture we believe if a man has a lot of daughters or has beautiful ones , it means the man was a player in his younger days

mariacolada · 2021-06-24T18:07:04+00:00

It occurs to me looking at the prom pic that the dad clearly likes the date. Coupled with their body language and his smug grin, date is probably just like the dad and will go on to raise daughters the same way. Continuing the cycle as it were.

HolaHulaHola · 2021-06-24T18:22:50+00:00

Is it me, or are those little girls in blue shirt dresses posing in really suggestive ways that are inappropriate for their age??

GreatOrchidAmbition · 2021-06-24T19:59:39+00:00

Daughter aside, if my future son's prom date's dad acted like this, waving a gun around, we will have problems. They are not going to prom together. That is not a funny joke, it's creepy and fucking weird.

Latter_Ostrich2875 · 2021-06-24T12:27:27+00:00

I think we should start doing the reverse. Upload pictures of us threatening girls with weapons if they dare take our boys virtue! Wonder how these guys would react...

Bitter_Froyo_6742 · 2021-06-24T20:34:26+00:00

This all but guaranteeing their daughters will seek out abusive men who use threats of violence to control them

Good job, dad's. You delayed your daughters having sex by a couple years by all but guaranteeing she experiences years of spousal rape. Awesome job!

Muffcakelord · 2021-06-24T21:13:49+00:00

But when we are catious we're the problem

cakewalkofshame · 2021-06-24T16:19:34+00:00

The way the little girls are posing makes me want to puke.

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-24T13:18:01+00:00

Those grey pants are an abomination. Something Randy Quaid’s character would wear in the movie “Christmas Vacation.”

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-06-24T18:31:21+00:00

Why are his daughters posing like prostitutes on a display? 🤢

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-25T04:50:48+00:00

The "protection" of the daughter is also part of a male fantasy....

Tanalize · 2021-06-25T17:11:46+00:00

So weird how they have to mention their daughters being so beautiful. Like if they weren't would they not be as protective. Also this over protectiveness comes off as so weird to me, she isn't your property that you're temporarily handing off to some guy. Lord.

warinmymind94 · 2021-06-26T02:44:00+00:00

Prime projection. A guy that says /posts stuff like this should be a major red flag. Them worrying so much about their future kids /current kids shows that they know how bad guys are... because they ARE the creepy, inappropriate, hyper sexual guys themselves.

Title	Dr. Jess just out there spewing straight facts as usual.
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Date	June 24, 2021 8:02 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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