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[–]jargon_explosionFDS Newbie264 points265 points266 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I do this with everyone I drop off and never thought it wasn't a thing until someone pointed it out.
[–]-pop-fizz-clinkFDS Newbie183 points184 points185 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I used to drive a girl home from.work all the time. I never left until I saw her open and step through her door and close it behind her. I've had a guy drop me off and zoom off as soon as I shut the door. I'm sorry but if you treat me WORSE than how I treat "just" a friend... Gfy. Go get some manners.
[–]jargon_explosionFDS Newbie71 points72 points73 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Agreed, seems like common courtesy to ensure someone is safe. Or they could even just have forgotten/lost their keys or something.
[–]-pop-fizz-clinkFDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've been the one who lost her keys and was locked out of my house for hours. I always think of that. So I wait.
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same. I’m sad that it’s a thing that “impresses” me now. This is elementary shit. Like, literally something I learned when I was a single digit child.
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The men who didn't do it with me were scrotes that didn't care or respected me.
[–]NotGoingOutsideAgainFDS Newbie260 points261 points262 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Once had a date walk me to a bus stop and then go to leave before the bus arrived. I told him it was pretty bad manners and he immediately turned it around and said wasn't I worried about him standing around in the cold? Unbelievable really.
[–]cece188FDS Newbie55 points56 points57 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmfaooo men have nothing but the audacity
[–][deleted] 46 points47 points48 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not anymore you weren’t.....
Worried about him, that is.
[–]kwallioFDS Newbie74 points75 points76 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I drive uber and I do this for people I've never met before. Who just drives off?
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[–]ponchoacademyFDS Disciple29 points30 points31 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately, guys would have a field day with it if there was a way to select only a woman driver, so that will never happen. I drove all hours of the day and night, and when it was very late on weekends, there would always be that huge look of relief and I got a lot of comments they were happy to get a female driver.
People would always tell me its not safe for me to drive so late at night, and Id point out, by their reasoning, women riding home late all dressed up maybe had a few drinks will only ever get male drivers. On the contrary, I think there needs to be more women driving late at night to keep that from happening.
But yeah, day or night, man or woman, when I dropped someone off at their home, I waited til they got to and opened their door before pulling off. On the tame side, had it happen where a woman couldnt find her key and came back and found it had dropped in my car, on a more serious side, had a college student run back to my car freaked out and ask me to drive...Done deal, no questions asked. She didnt tell me why, just asked if I could drop her at a friends apt that was only 2 blocks away and she was texting like crazy and seemed really upset. No idea what happened, but glad I was there to help.
[–]kwallioFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You know what I've gotten tons of people telling me its great that they got a woman driver and then they never tip.
[–]ponchoacademyFDS Disciple15 points16 points17 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Theres only one person that to this day, and likely to the end of time I think about and get upset over. Picked up a woman who (and this would not matter if not for everything else combined) lived in a very expensive gated community in a wealthy part of the city...
We got to talking, she asked about me, I shared I was a single mom, driving uber while studying for a career change, blah blah, she went on about how its fate we met, cause shes on her way to give a talk at some womens conference and found my story relevant to the speech she was about to give and inspiring, went on about how women should support and lift each other up and pay it forward to help others rise up too....dropped her off at the Four Seasons (hotel, not landscaping lol) and...take a wild guess how much the tip was she left me.
I never expected a tip from anyone, but yannow...that one legit hurt.
[–]kwallioFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Jesus that sucks.
[–]mercybenelliFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Womb-er” sorry I’ll let myself out
[–]UniquePreparation4FDS Newbie158 points159 points160 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The other day my boyfriend came over to help me change a flat, get the spare filled with air when it was also flat, then followed me all the way to the tire place on his motorcycle to make sure I got there ok. The whole ordeal was unexpected and made us cancel our plans. When I apologized to him later he said he was happy to do it and that he had a great day because he got to ride his motorcycle when it was nice out. No screaming, yelling, or resentment. Just unbridled support.
I’m cautiously optimistic about this one.
[–]pancakejourneyFDS Newbie39 points40 points41 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It sounds promising! I'm happy for you! It's the absolute opposite to my NV Father. When my mother went to spain her tires got slashed before the highway. Thankfully she never drove to the highway otherwise they would have most likely mugged her. She bought new tires at a workshop. My fathers first reaction was to get mad because she bought expensive one. He actually never expressed any kind of concern.
[–]midge_ratFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This sounds like my boyfriend. Just an all around gent who’s love language is acts of service!
[–]pickmieshaexorcistFDS Disciple200 points201 points202 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was at peak pickme and even I binned a guy who didn’t walk me to my car after our date, he just left quickly. Nope. It’s that “I don’t give a shit about you” energy.
[–]PenneyPenceFDS Newbie155 points156 points157 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Also in this category is not checking to make sure you got home safely if you came in different cars/used public transit.
[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How about if you have to commute to and from work through busy streets and past warehouses at night when you leave work? Maybe in the beginning he cared enough to ask but not after I started to “misbehave” by not putting up with the absolute bullshit disrespect he started to present to me out of almost nowhere!
[–]likethekeyonthekeybdFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm really bad at telling my boyfriend when I get home (we live 30 min from each other) and he gets so annoyed that I forget. Even if I left because he had to go work and won't even look at his phone for hours, he's upset if I forget to text him I got home safe.
I've started making an alarm to remind myself because I feel so bad.
[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Or doesn’t come to the door when he picks you up and fuck all if he can’t be bothered to pull in the driveway and just sits out in the street!
[–]sealcrabFDS Newbie79 points80 points81 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even men I wouldn't consider high value have made a point of walking me straight to my door or watching me from the end of the street if I ask them to be discreet. It's the bare minimum.
[–]Revy_Ur_EnginesFDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so true. All my family members waited until I was in the door before leaving. My exes? Zoomed off or never escorted me to the train station. Men show how much they care for you in the small things they do.
[–][deleted] 40 points41 points42 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I had a friend who would do this to me! As soon as I stepped out the car she was gone lol! For a long time I thought it was normal behavior but it was out of spite.
[–]-pop-fizz-clinkFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How wonderful for someone to disregard your safety out of spite... Wtf? What a jerk.
[–]Dontstopmenow2021FDS Newbie64 points65 points66 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I had a woman professor do that to me in one of the most dangerous cities of the Unites States. She dropped me 5mn away from my house because it was not on her way....I was in a dress. She calls herself a feminist. Needless to say she never checked on me (and she has a daughter). She also took a pic of me once without asking for my permission and showed to a guy saying "isn't she pretty". I reported the incident to a guy friend who said it was like a "privacy rape". For once that a guy was able to put the right terms on how I felt.
[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And yet, people act so little to prevent Data-rape
Predatory companies do to individuals what predatory men have been trying to do to women for years
[–]wrice05FDS Apprentice76 points77 points78 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am endlessly amazed by the myriad of ways they find to A. not care and B. show us they don't care. Like it takes creativity to devalue someone else in that many different ways. At least it gives us more chances to see the signs and weed them out.
[–]LuciannaVampFDS Newbie[🍰] 13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's a life rule for me to always walk my friends to their car no matter where we are. The same goes with dropping them off at their homes. Just wish they would text promptly that they are safe at home rather then waiting 48hrs. (The anxiety!)
[–]ponchoacademyFDS Disciple12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Guy Im seeing now walks me to my door every single time...doesnt matter if its pouring rain, he gets out, makes sure I get to my door and inside before he leaves. And the flip matters too..there is no way in hell I would run out the door for a guy that pulls up and honks for me. Im not a 50s diner where you honk for your server to come to your car..come get me.
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is underrated.
The "I'm waiting" honk is actually extremely rude. Get out of your car, you slob. Who raised you?
Manners don't cost money and the sooner they start doing the bare minimum, the better. And to think these mend expect us to share out bodies with them and they can even come get you properly. Jesus h.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This guy who pursued me stranded me on the side of the road in winter. He bought me several drinks then we ended up having sex in his truck (we had been flirting a couple times at a local pub and I was lonely and horny not gonna lie). I regretted it immediately as I really didn’t have feelings for him nor was it good. Anyway, he dropped me off at my car and sped away without waiting to see if I even got in my car. Well my car battery was dead. I tried calling him several times but somehow he didn’t notice his phone ringing. I texted him the situation. Still no response. Next day, no response still. I ended up walking home that night freezing for about half a mile. Not a huge distance but long enough. So many trash men out there ugh. I just gotta say my boyfriend now would never ever do that, and if for some reason it happened that my car broke down or didn’t start and I’d tried to reach him and he didn’t notice, he would feel guilty for days. He would be there in a heartbeat for me in ANY situation at any hour of the day or night. I don’t know who raises these guys and how they end up this way but wow, that’s just fucked up.
[–]danibugFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh my god this is such a thing for me. I live in a sort of sketchy neighborhood and most people who would give me a ride home would a little while after I got into the elevator. I remember thinking they were being a little paranoid but when my ex didnt ever wait, it made me think. I mentioned it to him and he didnt see how it was a big deal. Glad hes my ex now
[–]legally-dirty-blondeFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A high school boyfriend of mine left me alone in an empty movie theater parking lot. He had a car but I didn't. My dad hadn't gotten there to pick me up yet, but my ex said he had to leave to get home before his curfew. Needless to say, he was a LVM in so many other respects as well.
[–]itschronic_FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a first date where I parked in a secondary lot the restaurant had. He parked just a couple feet from the entrance. When it was time to go there were no more than 2 cars in the lot, it was dark and I could see mine was alone and far away. He asked me where I parked then said okay bye and drove off before I even got to my car. 🚮
[–]lhatwFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even some of the most LVM I know would never treat me like this... This is someone who doesn’t care if you live or die 😣
[–]SayNadFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep this is one of those thing that looks simple and innocuous - but tells you a lot about whether a person have that sense of protectiveness and responsibility towards another. The act of waiting a couple of minutes just to make sure you are inside, door closed and save signal that he cares about you on some level whether as a potential interest, a friend, or just another human being who deserve a lookout.
People who only cares about themselves won't be bothered to do this. Or if they do, they will keep tabs about it.
[–]_moonessFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If he doesn’t stay up to wait for your “I’m home now” text he ain’t the one
[–]Ok_Satisfaction1911FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women do this because getting to our apartments/into our homes are times where we are vulnerable to harm (muggings/robbery). If he’s driving off he lacks a lot of understanding.
[–]Wildestrose1988Pickmeisha™️0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yeah one thing I loved about my ex is he was very considerate of things like that.
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