Excuse me, ma’am... MA’AM WITH THE PICKME ATTITUDE... Being flattered by objectification is not only harmful to you but all the other women out there.

Zayelle · 2021-01-12T11:36:43+00:00

Chill out Laura. You need a break.

AyemHerself · 2021-01-12T11:54:15+00:00

I had a whole reply typed out and then I realized there were multiple pics. 🤦‍♀️

LevellingUpTime · 2021-01-12T13:31:50+00:00

This is a man pretending to be a woman.

"Be a reason for someone to interfere?" - women know how uncomfortable it is to be harassed in public while minding our own business, someone helping us isn't interfering
"That's a social habit. Nothing wrong with that" - men don't think coming onto strange women while they're busy working out is wrong, but women know there's a time and a place, and this ain't it
"saying "no thank you" " - women know saying "no thank you" to a man can lead to trouble further along, he might get violent and aggressive, unable to handle rejection or being told "no"
"he did not even do anything harmful" - men typically think of intimidating behaviour as physical. Women can see the harm in unwanted attention
"female... men" - writes females for women, but men get to remain men

Bovvsette · 2021-01-12T12:31:20+00:00

If aggressively telling women to take objectification as a compliment was not enough, she even uses ”men” and ”females” in the same sentence (slide 3). The internalized misogyny is through the roof.

rainbowcappucino · 2021-01-12T11:48:24+00:00

Wtf she sounds like she is actually jealous nobody harasses her at the gym? So desperate for male attention that she is willing to throw other women under the bus because they "should have been flattered" if creepy guys comment on their body and despise attempts to save them 🤡

2021-01-12T10:40:23+00:00

Alternative title: WHY do pickmes defend random men while putting down women for NOTHING 🥶

burpleseaurchin · 2021-01-12T12:30:41+00:00

Tbh I think it's a male LARPer! The use of the word "interfere" is telling because that is how the MALE would see another woman interrupting the interaction. Interfere implies the person in question was in the middle of doing something. The main woman in this story was not doing anything, she was pretty much just receiving a """compliment""". Therefore it's an odd choice of wording to use the word "interfere"... Unless you're actually a male.

Also, the use of "females" instead of "women" later in the replies by this supposed pickme woman is telling. And somehow not understanding harassment is practically impossible for any actual woman nowadays.

Imaginary_Bed_2572 · 2021-01-12T14:09:12+00:00

Hard to believe this Laura is actually a woman. And no one cares if she wouldn't be bothered by this. If so many other women are, you have to accept their boundries. And if a random guy hits on her like this and she likes it, but another woman offers to save her, she can just decline and say everything is fine. So many people randomly spewing misogyny

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-01-12T14:58:36+00:00

This argument is so fucking stupid. My ex did this to me. We’d be working out at machines near each other and randomly say shit. Or walk up to me and stand there hitting on me for a bit.

OPs bf is comfortable with her. He was prob REPEATEDLY doing it and getting in her space the way a stranger wouldn’t.

That girl is so dumb for thinking he said from a respectable distance “you look nice, can I take you out” and hadn’t talked to her, followed her, etc before doing that.

I bet the stranger girl was watching him REPEATEDLY going up to her before being like “I’ve had enough of this jackass”

fulltwistinglayout · 2021-01-12T17:10:53+00:00

When I was like 20 or 21 (I'm now 35) and pretty naive I rang a man up when I worked at J.Crew. He out of nowhere says "So, when do you get off work?" and the store manager who I was closing with swooped right in and said "Hey, I'll ring that up for you. Why don't you edge the perfect tees?" and I was like "oh no, I'm no fine, no worries" not even picking up on the fact that this dude was being a creep (I legit thought he was just being friendly LOL... sheesh). He said "no really, its fine" and just took over. Really good dude. Handsome too, his wife is soooo lucky.

pinkcloudzzz · 2021-01-12T15:44:24+00:00

"aS a WoMaN i JuSt DoN't GeT iT" Sure Jan.

idestroythingsfora- · 2021-01-12T18:19:50+00:00

Hey "Laura" who hurt you why you feel the need to defend harassment and catcallers so much girl?? (but like $10 his name is actually Joseph or something)

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-12T13:55:53+00:00

Laura doesn’t get it snd just wishes someone picks her and doesn’t want anyone to reduce her chances. If and when Laura DOES get picked by one of 99% losers out there, she will finally get it lmao

chateauduchat · 2021-01-12T15:11:12+00:00

I hope he picks you Laura 🤡

QQueenie · 2021-01-12T16:53:05+00:00

I couldn’t understand why you posted this based on the first image, but then once I read the comments girl I totally got it. big oof.

HengroenAndLlamrei · 2021-01-12T13:22:59+00:00

I actually think the boyfriend saying that flirty thing about her is cute. I don’t think telling your partner you find them sexually attractive is a bad thing. Him ‘pretending not to know her’ reads bad, but that’s like if your guy walks up to you at a planned date spot and goes ‘Hey, come here often sexy lady?’ He’s not ACTUALLY pretending not to know you. He’s just being flirty with his partner who, presumably, welcomes his flirtations (unless that’s a boundary she’s set that she doesn’t like sexually loaded comments.)

But the other girl intervening isn’t a bad thing either. She doesn’t know the dynamic/relationship and is offering a fellow woman an out if she didn’t like the attention. A lot of women go to the gym just to work out, but let’s be real, a lot of women also go to the gym to meet fit, attractive men. I don’t see a problem casually approaching someone at the gym, grocery store, etc. The problem is when they don’t take rejection well. That’s a societal issue that needs to be resolved, but I don’t think it should be taboo to flirt out and about. OLD certainly ain’t it most of the time.

Regardless, I don’t think either person did anything remotely wrong. I don’t even necessarily disagree with some of what the ‘pick me’ is saying, but her way of saying it isn’t presented well at all.

phb2999 · 2021-01-12T14:35:26+00:00

The title haha I wish I can have someone screaming that at me everytime I demonstrate pickme behaviours

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2021-01-12T14:51:42+00:00

That pick me is not a pick me. I'm convinced it's a man.

poison_snacc · 2021-01-12T16:52:51+00:00

Wow, so I didn’t realize until just now that Pickmeishas use the term “females” when disparaging women, just like scrotes do

PasDeTout · 2021-01-12T21:33:54+00:00

Props to the absolute queen who stepped up when she thought a fellow woman needed her help in the gym.

ThePrettySweety · 2021-01-12T18:36:02+00:00

Nothing wrong with what her boyfriend did. Loosen up

Title	Excuse me, ma’am... MA’AM WITH THE PICKME ATTITUDE... Being flattered by objectification is not only harmful to you but all the other women out there.
Author	T27T
Upvotes	440
Comments	40
Date	January 12, 2021 10:33 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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