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[–]KiwiTigerLoonFDS Newbie 99 points100 points101 points 2 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Truly. I saw a tweet that was like “I don’t believe it when anyone says it’s been ‘months’ since they had sex. Not possible.” and I was like….damn what a way to tell the world you can’t fathom someone thinking another person is not good enough to have sex with
[–]IAteTheDragonFDS Newbie 32 points33 points34 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think it might have been a brag? Not having sex is seen as so uncool these days. Well screw that, I can be the uncoolest person ever. And since I've been celibate, a year, I can't even remember how a UTI feels like🤔
[–]KiwiTigerLoonFDS Newbie 13 points14 points15 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Literally like it’s incredible how freeing it is to no longer hold my self worth to the yardstick of “how many people have I slept with” “when was the last time I slept with someone” and “does this mediocre man think I am sexy”….like, gamchanger. (And plus, I give myself all the Os I need so I keep those good good endorphins 🥰)
[–]ceramicunicornFDS Disciple 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Does this mediocre man think I’m sexy”, omg yes! Highly relatable!
[–]BetterDeparture436FDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
I can be the uncoolest too! :D I haven't had ANY down there problems in a very long time. Also phuk this idea that anyone should be ashamed of being celibate for ANY length of time. This world we live in is way over saturated in hypersexuality (and no I aint no prude) just sick of the idea women must be pursuing dick at allll times (by the way, I know you didn't say anything along these lines...i just went on a rant lol...sorry :D)
[–]IAteTheDragonFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh but I agree 100% ☝️
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[–]RecordingImportant94FDS Newbie 259 points260 points261 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Despite always having had a high sex drive, I have really enjoyed my year of celibacy. It feels amazing to take back control of my body and treat it as the temple it is, especially after years of coerced sex with my ex. I initially toyed with the idea of getting a dating app for the first time just to scratch an itch so to speak, but I’m so happy I didn’t, the longer I go the more clarity I find. A few moments of hormonally driven lust with some random, probably shitty guy is not going to make me happy in the long run. Finally feeling that I have total control over who accesses my body is incredibly empowering.
[–]Rosee-lil-feetThrowaway Account 51 points52 points53 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
2 1/2 yrs celibate . Also always had a high Sex drive but not worth having empty casual sex . So much clarity
[–]frustratedmarxistfemFDS Newbie 83 points84 points85 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The majority of men don't deserve any pussy.
[–]yeahhh22FDS Apprentice 427 points428 points429 points 2 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link
I can't get past the fact that when you have sex with a man you are symbolically and potentially allowing him to father your children. Of which you will inevitably invest disproportionately more into by nature. It makes sex very not recreational to me. Anymore. Especially since as has been said so many times before. Dick is abundant and of low value. I don't really see sex as a display of love or symbolic of a special bond anymore but a replaceable and disposable resource highly sought after by men. And I am not aligned with that lol.
[–]Inspection-CriticalFDS Newbie 362 points363 points364 points 2 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
It's worse when you consider most men can't even make you come.
"Casual" sex has literally zero benefit to women, but pop culture refuses to acknowledge that yet.
[–]99powerFDS Apprentice 166 points167 points168 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, enjoy being some man’s masturbation facilitator and risking STD’s to do it. 🙄 Think I’ll pass.
[–]HaveNoIdeaWhatToPickFDS Newbie 173 points174 points175 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Pop culture is all about teaching young girls how to be The CoOl GiRL
[–]NemesisNoireFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
oh, you mean society grooming us to risk pain, injury, trauma, and pregnancy for a selfish dude's 3 seconds of pleasure?
[–]maralvahid 57 points58 points59 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
THIS!
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[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
A lot of this came from women who were punished by sex they either couldn’t opt out of in the moment or couldn’t opt out of without losing housing/work/community. Instead of punishing the men who raped women, or who fired women who wouldn’t sleep with them, or who threatened wives with a mistress or taking the children in a divorce when they wouldn’t sleep with them…. Instead of changing the men, we changed things for women. Okay, now it’s okay if you have sex! You can’t be shoveled off to a convent and forced into slave labor while your child is snatched from your arms and sold to “respectable” families.
We gave up trying to punish men for their treatment and simply said, hey, what if we dont punish women for being treated this way by you? Once men realized that meant even more sex for them, they agreed to go along with it.
What we have now is moderately better because we can’t be punished (in theory) for having sex.’ But the same male mindset that wanted to destroy women for being “used commodities”then still exists and continues to exploit women shamelessly now.
[–]NoGutsNoGlory2FDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This!^
[–]BeckyStocksFDS Newbie 116 points117 points118 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"Dick is abundant, and of low value" Amen 🙏
[–]NoGutsNoGlory2FDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's what these fools don't realize. We can get penis anywhere and everywhere.
[–]IronsculptureFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They realize it. That's why they're so angry and afraid.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple 120 points121 points122 points 2 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Recreational sex would be hand stimulation...if women ruled the world. Coitus can't be casual for us, and in most cases, not guaranteed to be pleasurable.
[–]melodicamagicaFDS Newbie 77 points78 points79 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow yes!! How did I not think of that? Patriarchy has really pushed the narrative that only coitus is real sex
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple 32 points33 points34 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's right, sis.
[–]shipintheskyFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
you are symbolically and potentially allowing him to father your children.
You blew my mind. Why I've never come across this simple and reasonable idea? All the messages about sex circulating in culture are male-centric, conservative or whatever is considered progressive
[–]thatjimmyloveFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly this has been terrifying for me to realize, I mean just thinking about the men I could have allowed to father by children oh my god.
[–]IronsculptureFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Comments like this is one are why female-centric spaces are so important. Sex is viewed as harmless fun only because men and their perspective dominate. Sex with a random person could permanently alter a woman's life, while for a man it's just another fuck. What incentive do we have to risk so much? There's really none.
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie 152 points153 points154 points 2 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I hate being a woman and judged for being single and not having had PIV sex, by fellow women! I had a therapist judge me for being single, a family acquaintance, and my female roommate.
I am single because I was raised by a gross man who abused me and didn’t want me to have a bf, I didn’t get out till 24 and met with more trauma.
A lot of women are single due to male violence or male abuse, why do some women judge women for being single? (In my experience they’re usually pick me’s but it still hurts.)
From now on if another woman asks me why I’m single I’m just going to say “because no one has been worthy of me.”
I was raised by a porn sick pedophile, snd the way most men talk reminds me of him 🤢a lot of them openly brag about their “prowess” and have crass and crude humor and it’s constant. How are women attracted to porn sick overcompensating men?
I would want someone who is authentic and honest, doesn’t care if other men like him but cares about having values and respecting others. Especially women. Someone who values themselves and has worked on themselves and has ethical values. But I’m not holding my breath.
I’ll never have sex or share a bed with a man who uses porn. I’d be afraid of being raped in my sleep. Men are dangerous, they really are dangerous. I’d say 1 in 3 are rapists. How do people downplay how dangerous it is? I won’t even entertain the idea of dating a man till I heal, and won’t ignore red flags. I want to want it, but not feel I need it or desperate.
[–]feelgoodlost_FDS Newbie 139 points140 points141 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s a given. Battery operated boyfriends at least aren’t one pump chumps or 4” inches of ED, and your pleasure is guaranteed. Better to be celibate and to respect your body than to get some useless soul tie to a scrote that sucks in bed, which is most of them.
[–]aplaceformythoughtssFDS Newbie 116 points117 points118 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I completely agree with this!! I can never sleep with a low value men ever again 🤮I’m so glad I read the handbook on this matter. Remember ladies, never sleep with a man until they show commitment!
[–]hopeful_flounder93FDS Newbie 164 points165 points166 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I just can't stand to make a shitty man happy 🥰
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie 46 points47 points48 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s a good thing to put them in their place!
[–]MilkMadeMeFDS Newbie 35 points36 points37 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the lol sister friend.
[–]_AmarantosFDS Newbie 110 points111 points112 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Currently vetting and going on dates with a guy and a lot of people are shocked that I haven't slept with him yet...it's been 3 dates.
[–]camille_sanFDS Newbie 90 points91 points92 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Shit at this point I feel like most of these men don’t deserve to set their eyes on me, much less their hands
[–]frostedgemstoneFDS Newbie 78 points79 points80 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
100%. If I could prevent them from even looking at me I would
[–]Peak_TreeFDS Newbie 111 points112 points113 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Can confirm. no s*x >>> unfulfilling potentially risky s*x with a pornsick sc0.te.
[–]arnezuaraFDS Newbie 111 points112 points113 points 2 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Early in my teenagehood, I was thinking that the first time I’ll have sex will happen with a person whom I love & who loves me back. I dreamt of a healthy, gentle relationship.
A year later, I was consistently manipulated, abused, groomed, and almost got raped by a man who was close to my distant “family”. It started once I was of “age of consent” in our state/area. I was a foreigner, with no family around.
I was disassociating until maybe my early twenties. I viewed sex as something I could just do to my body, since I knew I wouldn’t get attached (like this was some superpower). I regret this so much & I still don’t know what a loving, healthy sex looks like.
Since my last relationship ended, I decided I won’t share my body with anybody unless a clear, consistent commitment has been established. Until that person tells me they love me & prove it, time and time again. Otherwise, it’s just not worth it.
[–]cherriesandmilkFDS Newbie 47 points48 points49 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Me too. I regret giving myself to those who groomed and abused me but I didn’t really know better. No one taught me the dangers of men and the lies they will tell. Now I’m saving myself for a true commitment and will be educating my daughter to do the same.
[–]arnezuaraFDS Newbie 22 points23 points24 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m sorry you went through a similar trauma ❤️Most of us have been thrown into this with little to no information on how to navigate any kind of relationships with men.
But I am very proud of the progress you’re making. We will continue to make a change ❤️
[–]LykahFDS Newbie 155 points156 points157 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is pretty much along the lines of what I reply when friends act bewilderded about me not having had sex yet. I just tell them, have you seen most of the men we know? Thanks, but no thanks. If I wasn't living in such a homophobic country I'd probably eating my wife out right now thouhh.. sigh
[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 56 points57 points58 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good for you! I waited til late 20s and really wish I waited even longer.
[–]Winter_Magician2594 70 points71 points72 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That part.
[–]waddameloneFDS Apprentice 26 points27 points28 points 2 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’ve been saying this to everybody I know for a very long time. I have a friend who always tells me that it’s true BUTTTT she needs affection, to be held and kissed. People who are celibate also crave that. They just don’t give in easily because they KNOW that the male species is... different (by lack of better words).
And being kissed, held or having “affection” shown to you by a stranger that you’ve met on tinder after 1,5 hours of being in their house as a firsy date.... Nah. Doesn’t seem like a great setting to be having your “needs met”. But hey, whatever floats their boat!
[–]__kamikaze__FDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Tbh I prefer cuddles with my cat. Lots of affection without the headache of a scrote 🤷♀️
[–]waddameloneFDS Apprentice 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hahah affection from animals is definitely better than male attention!
[–]Dolphin_MoonFDS Newbie 52 points53 points54 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly these past two years deciding who is worthy to enter my body and touch me has changed me for the better. Its a lot of filtering and vetting but feeling confident in my choice to who i have sex with definitely helps me feel better.
That being said I have only had sex twice within the past year lmao. Dildos and vibrators for the win!
[–]DinaslabyrinthFDS Newbie 22 points23 points24 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, ego aside. This is actually a really really true statement.
[–]SolunaJuneFDS Newbie 49 points50 points51 points 2 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I think that if asexuality is a spectrum, I’m probably more asexual than not…but I wouldn’t call myself an asexual because some desire is there. I’m a 38 year old woman and I’m still a virgin. I’ve never met a man that made me want to have sex with him with all the risk of pregnancy and STDs. I got a lot attention from men when I was younger, and how they would talk to me and treat me was vile and just turned me off of men. I was a thing to them.
I grew up in a religious household that had positive and proper views of sexuality. Not too different from FDS values really. It helped me to value myself more than not.
There is a lot of stigma for older women who are still virgins. I don’t tell anyone other than my doctor, and still I don’t like to then because I’ve been judged by so-called medical professionals.
[–]theterminatressFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If it makes you feel better, I’ve helped more than one woman who decided to remain a virgin well into their 30s. I encouraged them to wait until THEY felt comfortable, since it doesn’t make any sense to set women up for a negative first experience.
The funny part is that once it finally did happen they weren’t terribly impressed and it didn’t end up creating any kind of artificial romantic bond, which was really interesting - I think we all thought that it would be super romantic, but it was more like ‘meh, is that what the hype is all about?’ I feel confident that these women are fully empowered to make the choices that will be right for them in the future as well.
[–]SolunaJuneFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you, it does. 😊
[–]sowhatisallthisthen 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
period.
[–]ChocolateBiscuit96FDS Newbie[🍰] 32 points33 points34 points 2 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yesss, my bc is gonna remain at 1 for a very long time 🤣.
[–]swaylynFDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I JUST realized bc means body count. I’ve been reading thinking it meant birth control and I’m like this is confusing just jump over the term and keep reading lol
[–]ChocolateBiscuit96FDS Newbie[🍰] 5 points6 points7 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry, I should’ve been more clear. That’s what I meant 🤣
[–]IAteTheDragonFDS Newbie 12 points13 points14 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I sometimes just wonder, how would a guy react to an idea of casual sex that would involve me coming to him and handing him a decent sized dildo to pleasure me with, and after I climax I leave. I am sooo curious, cause in theory it sounds really great. 🤔
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep!
[–]munissaFDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so true hahahahahha
[–]Rosee-lil-feetThrowaway Account 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly how I feel
[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is IT, exactly, It’s not easy for me but at least it’s easier!
[–]MsXxSelfDestructxXFDS Newbie 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I find myself with high libido at times but ughhh the local dating pool in my area.
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