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“Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” [email protected]_weenie_, 2021 AD

June 16, 2021
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Title “Free yourselves from the bondage of male validation” [email protected]_weenie_, 2021 AD
Author Few_Direction
Upvotes 3697
Comments 125
Date June 16, 2021 4:40 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]souredskittlesFDS Disciple 879 points880 points  (46 children) | Copy Link

I’ve noticed this trend lately. Mad nasty 🤢

[–]daenerysstormbornfanFDS Newbie 693 points694 points  (41 children) | Copy Link

Tiktok is a bastion for pickmeism and extremely LV males. Luckily, I’ve also seen a lot of resistance to libfem ideas. Girls are waking up 🥳

[–]souredskittlesFDS Disciple 276 points277 points  (36 children) | Copy Link

I’ve been resistant to download, because it got famous for having underage children dancing suggestively 🤮 I don’t want to be bombarded with that shit lol

I do love the cooking side of tik tok though

[–]abby_ch238FDS Newbie 199 points200 points  (25 children) | Copy Link

I never ever got shown any of those. It picks up quickly what category of people you’re in and shows you stuff like those. And like the other reply said, if you join and follow the accounts from here you’re more likely to fall on radfemtok.

[–]LongirlFDS Newbie 146 points147 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Yep, I’m on the right side of TikTok. It’s full of cats and feminism.

Edit: Forgot to add it's also full of that lesbian lady who does the caulking and folds clothes. I'm not even that way inclined but she gives me flutters when she looks at the video seductively while doing housework.

[–]Reporter_ComplexFDS Newbie 47 points48 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

AND FOOD! don't forget the food.

Oh, and the "wee" videos - they have me cackling 🤣🤣🤣

[–]LongirlFDS Newbie 22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I saw the original weeeeee video the other day!! It's still just as magical even if it is only a man standing there being interviewed haha

[–]lawless_sapphistryFDS Newbie 22 points23 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

::Scrambles into frame with a notebook:: 'Scuse me I'ma need a name

[–]LongirlFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Oh you're in for a treat! she's Melissalikespateras

There's a whole lesbian tiktok thing going on but I think she's the queen.

[–]lawless_sapphistryFDS Newbie 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If I had gold I'd give it to ya <3

[–]LongirlFDS Newbie 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No need, just knowing how much fun you're going to have is enough for me!

[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same!

[–]TrixieFriganzaFDS Newbie 42 points43 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I have never watch d Tiktok because it has seemed like it's only about kids dancing stupid dances and that sounds super boring and a waste of time. Even if I didn't think they might dance suggestively I can only see it beeing interesting to other kids and pedophiles. Okay I know it has lots of other content now and not just people dancing or miming things but I have just never felt interest in watching lots of couple of minutes or seconds long videos, okay maybe cute cat videos.

[–]glowmilkFDS Newbie 30 points31 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Me neither. It seems super addictive and I’ve already cut down on my social media usage since last year. I’m mainly on tumblr for rad fem stuff and reddit for FDS and languages lol. I know there’s some decent stuff on tik tok but I don’t think it’s the best use of my time. I’ll happily watch the ones that get shared on here though 😂

[–]hmmmM4YB3FDS Newbie 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Saaaaame gurl. You mean, we get another sinkhole of endlessly scrolling content to waste hours on?? After MySpace, Facebook, Insta, Tumblr, Twitter... let's just say my appetite is sated lol. Reddit, on the other hand... 🤣

[–]PrettyPoppingFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I thought tumblr is a wasteland now.

[–]glowmilkFDS Newbie 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

They purged all the porn a few years ago which was a massive improvement. I returned to tumblr a few months ago and realised how much I missed it. Twitter was too chaotic and hostile for me but tumblr is great. There’s more privacy and I feel at peace when I use it. I like that I can tag posts/reblogs too and easily find content about similar topics.

[–]PrettyPoppingFDS Newbie 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I got emails with notifications that bot accounts which seemed to be sexual in nature followed me in the last few months. I don’t know if the organization of the site changed but I found it overwhelming. I currently enjoy Twitter. The tweets are SPICY and dragging the clowns.

[–]HmtnswAt-Risk Pick Me Youth 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I've wanted to download TikTok just to follow all the accounts that get posted here.

But l already spend too much time on Reddit, so I don't need another app sucking my time. Love my IG too.

[–]penelopekittyFDS STRATEGY COACH 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I stick with the cute animal videos

[–]Impossible_Mud_7599FDS Newbie 60 points61 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I legit downloaded it a couple days ago and am only following the accounts I find through FDS or other like-minded posts. Makes it so much better!

[–]DrildoBagurrenFDS Apprentice 60 points61 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I was put off tiktok for a long time, then I downloaded it and it's algorithm seems to reckon I'm some kind of rad-fem-anti-capitalist lesbian badass who likes carpentry and animal facts ...lmao (I'd be proud to be who tiktok thinks I am) I've seen a few problematic videos such as strippers counting their money, but plenty of other people calling them out for encouraging young girls into sex-work.

[–]DreamlikeNile 35 points36 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I should put up videos encouraging girls to go to uni and be professionals! Maybe I should get some money from the bank or something, lol. Seriously though, I wonder if we could do radical feminist public service announcements 🤔

[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That would be brilliant. I saw someone on YT recently spoofing those "stacks of cash" types saying, "Ooh let me show you all my twenties — oh I can't because they are in my INVESTMENT ACCOUNTS."

[–]SpicyScroteRoasteryFDS Newbie 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Please do so if you are willing! A lot of us might have opinions about the platform, but it is true that a fuckton of young women and girls use it so it should have potential for great reach!

[–]Davina33FDS Disciple 37 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Upvote for the word bastion, I love it. Hearing women speak like that is so gross, pandering to sick males.

[–]AcadiaLeather5071FDS Disciple 81 points82 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is what liberal feminism did to gen z and it ain’t pretty 😳😳😳

[–]munakhtylerFDS Newbie 88 points89 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

G R O O M I N G Women

Men will always invent new ways to groom and abuse women.

Disgusting!

[–][deleted] 149 points150 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

women dressing up as gamer gf fantasies and infantilizing themselves. sooooo empowering.

[–]oi_oi_oinkFDS Apprentice 374 points375 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Why do all these tiktok trends feel like they'd attract pedophiles? I remember the silhouette challenge, the big booty-small waist something trend and the latest challenge that makes me wanna cry is the bugs bunny challenge. Why are literal children being coerced into objectifying themselves?

[–]Love_ArtemisThrowaway Account 184 points185 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

They're kids, so they're likely doing it because everyone else is doing it. They want validation and to fit in with the other kids.

[–]hmmmM4YB3FDS Newbie 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And the pedos know this and profit :(

[–]heladoskyFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

it’s a pedo agenda, I know kids copy most of the things they see on the internet because they want to feel validated, but lately those type of trends are getting way too sexual.

[–]GoldandGlowingFDS Apprentice 49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Because they do.

[–]pickmieshaexorcistFDS Disciple 343 points344 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I laughed at the boob shake because it’s so true.

[–]honeydewmelonzFDS Newbie 319 points320 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

FDS is the only place where creepy shit like this is pointed out. This sub is a breath of fresh air.

[–]Latter_Ostrich2875FDS Newbie 91 points92 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm sick of it, anywhere else I'd be torn apart by libfems for saying that little girls shouldn't be doing things like this. They'd have no problem with creeps and say that I'M the creepy one for "sexualising" them.

[–]ChanelOberlin2015FDS Newbie 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

we used to have more, like r/pinkpillfeminism but it got nuked by Reddit sadly

[–]Platipus6FDS Apprentice 468 points469 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

and I couldn't say no? I'd whip out my "Big Book of Gaslighting Tactics" that men have pulled on me :)

"Maybe later"

"I was just about to"

"I was meaning to get to that"

"Stop nagging. I just need an hour to relax. I've been at work all day"

"You sound kind of hysterical right now"

"It's no big deal. Can't it wait till later?"

"I didn't think you were serious".

[–]HhjjuuyFDS Apprentice 152 points153 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

*testerical

[–]Latter_Ostrich2875FDS Newbie 35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Petition to make this the new word

[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hysterical-testerical, whymen-weremen, looking back through the evolution of western language with a feminist lense is very interesting. It’s why I’m against the whole “womxn” type of activism. It linguistically undercuts the woman’s humanity.

[–]WatzooFDS Newbie 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yessssss. Shout out to the Facebook comments on @ManWhoHasItAll for so many of these amazing gems.

It’s the closest thing to FDS that I’ve found anywhere else online. I love that page.

[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The "...and I couldn't say no" part is SO sinister. You could almost write it off as a fun game for people to play together if not for that. It instantly makes it so dark. I've been sitting here grimacing the whole time.

(I have an out of state friend who will sometimes text me out of the blue, "If I were there with you right now, what would we be doing?" That is kinda fun — sometimes I answer him literally, eg. shopping errands, sometimes fancifully, eg. paddling a canoe up the river separating the lands of reason and chaos. But this "...and I couldn't say no" makes only one answer inevitable, and it really isn't the answer anyone should want.)

[–]snejonopkaFDS Newbie 19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“i didn’t MEAN to not be able to say no”

[–]SouthernbelllleFDS Newbie 21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s no big deal.

Can’t use that one, has the word no in it. lol

[–]HippofuzzFDS Newbie 38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Are pickmes now trying to look as if they don’t have shoulders?

[–]LeighHolloway44FDS Newbie 37 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dumb Tik Toks like that (can’t say no for 24 hours) are exactly what happens when porn is pushed the way it is these days!

[–]dollymyfollyFDS Newbie 35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If he had 24 hours and you couldn’t say no, he’d obviously rape you. The answer isn’t a mystery. 🙄

[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie 262 points263 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If I had 24 hours with her and she couldn’t say no? I’d have her sit and read the entirety of FDS Reddit, Twitter and Facebook, until she begged for mercy and admitted to perpetuating rape culture and promised to stop.

[–]__kamikaze__FDS Newbie 29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

😂😂😂

[–]spiderunderwebFDS Newbie 193 points194 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Oh the baby voice that goes with the sound🤢 this lady is speaking facts!😍

[–]thicctoriaFDS Newbie 80 points81 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Let's think for a second about the kind of men they're trying to attract. The trend could be:

"If you had 24 hours to impress me, what would we do?"

"If you had 24 hours to try and make me fall in love, what would we do?"

"If you had 24 hours to treat me to the best day of my life, what would we do?"

But no, the trend is if you had 24 hours with me, and I couldn't say no. I'm sure you can imagine the sorts of comments that are left under these women's videos. People want to argue that we should just mind our own business because these women "find it empowering" but this affects everyone, it appropriates rape culture, weakens women's position in the society and keeps the patriarchy strong. I get it to a certain extend because I used to look for male validation too - sometimes you don't even realise the clown shit you do. Which is why we must continue helping and educating our sisters.

[–]File-OwnFDS Newbie 31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well said sis.

Culture is going backwards. These days, men trying to impress/treat women is called "simping" and other stupid terms. But pushing rape culture and underage girls doing dances on Tiktok is seen as normal, empowering, etc.?? Clownery.

[–]jisooturtlrabbitkimFDS Newbie 99 points100 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Eww eww eww, no no no

[–]rocky24683 61 points62 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This trend is really giving me rape vibes. Like how is this cute or funny? It angers me a lot, because this isn't just degrading women, but it also invalidates the experiences and pain of sexual assault victims.

NO MEANS NO. IT'S NOT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT THAT!!!

[–]HereForTheFreeFoodOkFDS Newbie 131 points132 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love this Queens energy!!

Ladies! We must liberate ourselves.

Most women think that men will have some grand epiphany and treat us as humans instead of entities they can extract resources from ( sex, time, labor, emotional support).

Let the picks me's beg for attention and validation. Go ahead sweetie! See how that works out for you!!

Real queens are their own heros. They liberate themselves and become self directed.

Through this action they create a new world for younger women to inhabit. By being the example, shining the light and showing the way.

Be the beacon for other women. Don't bother saving other women or showing them the way.

Just shine your light and be the lighthouse for yourself and other women who want more from themselves and more from life.

[–]NoSurprise7196FDS Newbie 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amen!

[–]GANDALFthaGANGSTR 19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

People need to stop wanting to be appealing and concentrate on finding THEMSELVES appealing first. Fuck the fuckboys.

[–]janeaustenfan99FDS Newbie 92 points93 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s disturbing

[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple 18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love everything about this young woman's energy. She's out in the sun, she's laughing, she clearly has high regard for herself — LOVE to see it!!

[–]drunkenwithlustFDS Newbie 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too! Her laugh is contagious. Chaotic good.

[–]Connect_Chipmunk_691FDS Newbie 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't even understand how this is empowering at all. I mean it's not but trying to figure out how to twist my brain around women doing dumb stuff like this and thinking it's sexy and amazing and cool and awesome..... I just can't! The other disturbing thing about this is she's not saying and I wouldn't say no like she's going to be making a choice which is still horrific but saying I couldn't as in she has no power to even say no. Why in the hell would you offer yourself up to men like that?! That's like a sheep willingly going to the slaughter!

[–]BubblyKrakenFDS Newbie 75 points76 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Glad she calls this shit out! So unsetteling how big this trend is though.

[–]literallyrein 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I saw this on TT! I didn't want to read the comments. I swiped as fast as I could. I use TT for rants, taste tests and tips on adulting!

[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Apprentice 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Does this sound familiar? "Guys, guys, do you like my boobies? Tell me what would you do with me? UwU"

Random scrote #1: 5/10

Random scrote #2: maybe a 6

Random scrote #3: rather play PS3

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Random scrote #4: send noods

[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love her! 👍🏼

[–]say10s-exwifeFDS Newbie 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am so worried for young girls growing up on tik tok.

[–]cmore_moneyFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Rape culture is so mainstream now I am literally starting to become SCARED to go outside on the real

[–]LykahFDS Newbie 90 points91 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She's totally right, but the first girl was most probably promoting her OnlyFans or something, which is equally depressing

[–]Concerned_bee 99 points100 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She commented on the post saying she was only trying to promote her OF. People ripped into her. I told her she needs to promote that shit elsewhere not on an app for kids where she can’t control who sees her normalising rape. She promptly deleted her comments

[–]SewudFDS Apprentice 36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It makes way more sense to do that stupid stuff for money than for immaterial male validation, men love that dumb stuff and will pay money for it, that's just a fact, but unfortunately the message gets spread and people can see it without the money part and think this is actually what women like to do. Especially young people will internalize that this is what women are like.

[–]LendMeYourLettuce 32 points33 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Id be like please delete your only fans lets sign you up for an environmental science degree

[–]nonchalant77FDS Newbie 35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Poor girl. Im embarrassed for her, she must be desperate for someone to validate her. Plus if she REALLY wanted to know what guys would do "to her" if "no" was off the table she would have a gaping ripped butthole, be covered in jizz and bruises/cuts and would probably be traumatized for life. It aint nothing good sis.

[–]SunflowerinVirgo0903FDS Apprentice 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Facts 🥴😹😹

[–]breadandbunnyFDS Newbie 56 points57 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is r*** culture for sure. I fucking hate it.

[–]UnforgettableBevyFDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

MOOD FOR LIFE!!!

[–]ddamayaFDS Newbie 46 points47 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. I’ve seen this trend on Tik Tok like what kind of responses are these Pick Me’s looking for???

[–]Lemon_bars_addictionFDS Disciple 38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha love her!

[–]arnezuaraFDS Newbie 30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This makes me sick and, at the same time, sad because she does not know any better. Or does, she just exploits LV/NV men for her own benefit. Except, why should she care about the consequences it may impose on her and other young, vulnerable women?

[–]NoSurprise7196FDS Newbie 19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What in the lib fem? Fran Drescher head on a baby girls body. Gross!!!!

She looks 14. I’m so sad she looks so young. I can’t with this pose.

[–]SaitschikFDS Disciple 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think she kinda looks 40, Fran Drescher head is quite accurate.

(Online) prostitutes who try to appeal to pedophiles for money are really the lowest of the low.

[–]rednopalFDS Newbie[🍰] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women fetishizing assault of women… how did we get here?

[–]pqrsthrowawayyyyyFDS Apprentice 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Who is this video from? I’m totally in love with her no-nonsense manner. 😄 Edit: just realized that her name is literally up there, sorry.

[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist 25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's really sad that little girls are being groomed I think rape is hot.

Just wait till they're actually raped. Won't be so hot.

[–]lawless_sapphistryFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Uh oh. OG pickmeisha just posted a response video: "Calling every girl you see a pick me doesn't make you less of one"

Then all these UwU gestures. Sigh.

Honestly, I'm having a hard time with the "radfem" aspect of all of this. It feels like I'm kicking these girls when they're down. I used to be pro-sex-work and am now anti-sex-work, but I have a lot of sex worker friends so now I feel like I'm betraying them somehow.

I just want to support women in the best way possible :/

[–]thatjimmyloveFDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

me too, I Just don't know what the best way I can be always supporting women is anymore. but this stuff is upsetting and nauseating and I just don't know what to say.

[–]lawless_sapphistryFDS Newbie 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can I support the sex worker and not the sex work? Is that a thing?

[–]thatjimmyloveFDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I always say that I am antisexwork but pro sex worker, because I understand women's predicament. But at the same time I also dont thing we should completely ignore our own actions contributing to dehumanizing and objectifying women

[–]Repulsive-Ad1092FDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not only rapey, it is very pedophilic if you think about it

[–]FrenchHeelFDS Newbie 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is this question a test?

Because if a man doesn’t answer “Babe, I’d never take away your agency or ability to give consent “ then he FAILED.

[–]4774thebattleofever 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aside from this, this is the best reaction I've seen to this trend

[–]yeahhh22FDS Apprentice 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm glad I'm beyond my days of pandering to men. You will never be special to men. You're just another hot girl and that's it.

[–]letsberealforamomentRuthless Strategist 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is this a real person? At first glance i though it was one of those silicone "real dolls". Is she using filters?

[–]inlovewithaloserFDS Newbie 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m thankful for this because for so long we’ve just had to put up with posts like this that are obvious thirst traps aimed at LVM.

They’re not harmless, they are grooming other women to think this type of behavior is okay.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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