27f long time lurker, first time poster here. I just want to say that this sub has profoundly changed by outlook on dating in ways that are shocking (I'm a recovering pickme). So many things clicking into place and making sense...

I'm looking forward to implementing the strategies discussed in this sub but at the same time I'm feeling quite overwhelmed...during my last date (first time meeting in-person - dinner + drinks, great conversation...he paid for everything) it was next to impossible to be in the moment and fully enjoy the date with the LV/HV barometer constantly fluctuating in my mind. For example he is pretty fit and obviously is into self care but the whole time I'm just waiting for some sort of shaming language to come out of his mouth (I'm still working on reaching my ideal weight).

I feel like I've swung from not paying enough attention to green/red flags to now obsessing over them and feeling paralyzed....how do you all do it?? :(