Do you know any men who have INITIATED a split for a reason, but then remained single (to heal, get space, self improve, etc) the way women do?
Every man I know who ever initiated a break up or divorce had this in common: he gets in a new relationship right away. Usually because he has been cheating. But sometimes it's more like ..he had someone "coincidentally" appear in his life riiiiiight before he takes the leap into splitting (like an old ex who recently became single or there's a new woman at work who he's been becoming besties with etc).
It seems like no matter how dire a man's relationship is, they do not leave without these backups. Men will stay in situations that they claim they hate (like dead bedrooms) but just complain and resign to hating their wives or gfs. Or they'll be openly disgusted with their wife's aging or weight gain, or whatever, and just be cruel about dragging it out. Even men who get cheated on seem to maybe emotionally check out but still stay unless there is someone on the backburner.
The only time I've ever known men who are single and living life alone are living that way because their girlfriends or wives split up with THEM (i.e. not by choice lol).
I personally can't think of any, but do any of you know men who have done this (initiated a break up for a reason - other than backup girl became available)? And if so, do they seem to be HV?
I'm asking because I feel like it could be a (small, LOW BAR) HV green flag if a man has spent time WILLINGLY being single, and left a relationship for an actual reason. And so it might be a good vetting question. ("Have you ever initiated a breakup") although you might have to sift through lying and read between the lines for the full story, so have backup questions like "how long before you found someone else, how'd you meet them, etc".
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