Have you ever had a man bring up anal and then not be obsessed with anal?
This is a spin-off discussion to this post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fyj1ux/question_about_one_of_my_deal_breakers/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
OP believes a man bringing up anal at all is an immediate dealbreaker, and I tend to agree. It generally means he’s already porn sick, won’t let it go if you say no, and will probably be forever fixated on pushing your boundaries in this area.
It also is a preindactor that he’s going to “accidentally” anally rape you.
https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/fy9vnf/accidental_anal_sex_is_not_a_thing/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Or, he might be closeted and trying to rationalize himself into being straight by only having anal with women.
There are a few users who don’t think bringing it up is a problem as long as he respects the boundary, but like, does that ever happen? Have they never brought it up again?
It doesn’t even seem like it would be part of someone’s sexual repertoire unless they had already been significantly exposed to porn and sensitized to only be aroused by that. A few generations ago it would not even be a normal thing to ask.
In your experience, has a man ever brought up anal on his own and then actually respected the boundary?
ETA: I added the poll just to see some quick responses, but please take it with a grain of salt as we all know our male lurkers like to skew the polls in their favor.
You just know they’re probably all thinking to themselves “we’ll I’VE never brought it up again so men typically respect this boundary” (lies) 🙄
For those of you who answered yes, please elaborate in the comments - thanks!
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Yes, many times. I'd say one ex of mine was pushy about it over time but he was a cheater and abusive. With another meh guy I dated, while he didn't push, I think anal play was necessary for him had we dated any longer. The other men have been fine.
The man I'm currently dating (a little less than a year) and I have open communication in almost all areas of our relationship, sex being one of them. So we have discussed it. He has done it a few times before. I have never done it and don't have any desire to. He's never pushed for it. We both explore our sexual desires while respecting one another's boundaries.
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"Ew! Are you gay or some shit? I can introduce to some gay bottoms that take it like a champ."
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Do you actually think anal sex is a natural way to have sex? Gay or not.
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