Have you ever noticed that older women NEVER manipulate younger guys for personal gain? While men do it daily...

Pahapan · 2021-11-09T03:02:18+00:00

I had a fling with a younger guy (22 or 23) and I ended it precisely because I could tell how naive and immature he was. I could read him like an open book, notably what he was insecure about. He was nervous around me, eager to seem older and to impress me. I realized how easy it'd be to manipulate him. And it wasn't so much that I found myself tempted to manipulate him but that I was hit with the gravity of how easy it would be to unintentionally damage him while he was still in such a pupa-like life stage. He was so underdeveloped, like a cake not finished baking yet.

It disturbed me because it made me realize that that's probably what I was like with the 10 years older man I'd had a casual thing with. He was definitely manipulating me. He saw my naivety, immaturity, and insecurities. And instead of coming to the realization that he should leave me alone because there was such an imbalance of experience and power, he tried to capitalize on it for his own benefit. And while I resolved to never become involved with a man significantly younger than me again, he intentionally sought out younger women.

There are LVW/NVW who prey on boys and younger men (Mary Kay Letourneau being a prime example) but they're the exception that proves the rule. It's so commonplace for men to prey on younger women that it's hardly even commented on in mainstream society.

notochord · 2021-11-09T02:50:53+00:00

On another sub, there’s a popular post that shows a graph of Leonardo DiCaprio’s age and the ages of the women he dates. SO MANY men and celebrating the ever increasing age differences and saying vile things about women older than 25. Meanwhile, any comments calling this behavior out as scummy and predatory are downvoted to oblivion. It’s really sad how much men hate women and see us as objects with an “expiration date”

Meanwhile women never do this.

MadamePotpourri · 2021-11-09T02:59:59+00:00

I have a friend in her late 40's. She prefers younger guys (mid-late 30's) because she finds them more attractive and she is very active for her age and needs someone who can keep up. She told me that when she goes out with them, men will always make sarcastic comments asking her boyfriend if she's his 'sugar momma'. It's funny how they tell on themselves! Most men would love to have a wealthy older woman they can leech off of financially. But my friend is smart and makes sure her boyfriends pay their share.

Women don't take advantage of younger guys because we just aren't as selfish as men, period. We aren't taught to view relationships from a lens of "what can I get out of him". This leads to many women being taken advantage of by scrotes because they just don't realize how selfish and self serving most men actually are.

I will always and forever advocate for women to be more selfish! Be ruthless and make sure every relationship you have is bringing you tangible benefits.

Also, this idea that men are not attracted to older women is 100% false. I recently went to an event with this friend and she attracted so many guys! They were fawning over her and buying us drinks all night. Even my mom gets hit on by random guys and she's nearing 60. Male attention is about as rare as drops of water in the ocean.

DuchessDurag · 2021-11-09T07:54:27+00:00

Men are the ones pursuing older women. Younger men going after older women will admire her for maturity, stability and life experiences.

Older men target younger women through manipulation, coercion, gaslighting, controlling behaviour.

Determinedblonde · 2021-11-09T08:20:39+00:00

I know a few men who don’t mind what age the woman is at long as she’s up for it. That tells you - we don’t need to trick any man of any age to get with us. They ALWAYS have to trick us. We do care about age.

kansascitydream · 2021-11-09T03:27:10+00:00

This is so true. I go out to pubs and bars maybe once every 6 months with pals. Every time 20 year old boys hit on me. I am 30. I just kinda chuckle and tell them to bring a warmer jacket., it’s cold out!
They are babies. Now that I am in the position of having the power, wisdom , and experience,it feels gross to even think about it. I could not imagine dating them, or having sex with them. I think our experience proves that men are disgusting.

fireforestfairy · 2021-11-09T12:54:09+00:00

Many women are not sexually interested in guys who are much younger than them. For those who do like younger men, they don't get turned on by manipulating and controlling a younger SO unlike their male counterparts.

plasticworld888 · 2021-11-09T07:29:00+00:00

Scrotes will say this is because men look better with age "LiKe FiNe WiNe", as if they don't start balding in their mid 20s and their dick starts going limp probably even earlier from all the porn that they watch

bitch_not_it · 2021-11-09T22:06:21+00:00

I had this terrible sad thought the other day.. how you could trust a group of adult women (who are strangers to him) to watch a 13 year old boy, but imagine the reverse... a group of adult men alone with a 13 year old girl. My heart just spikes at the thought of that

misandryismadeup · 2021-11-09T03:06:20+00:00

Males love projecting their sickness/perversion on to women so I’m sure they would say the opposite of what you’re saying even though we can all look around/look at stats and see that they are worse in every way.

Muffcakelord · 2021-11-09T07:36:57+00:00

People say it's a double standard to allow older women to date younger men while being unaccepting of the other way around as if there's no difference

randomgirl34861 · 2021-11-11T06:05:33+00:00

Agree with this. I only know one woman who dated a much younger guy. My best friend (28) had a casual thing with a much younger guy (19) and their relationship was very maternal. (She knew it was going no where, but she enjoyed his company and he made her feel safe. She can play around with anyone she wants.. she doesn’t need any one’s money.)

She bought him a phone because he didn’t have one and let him stay at her place because he had no where else to go. They’d have sex… and then later that night she’d help him apply for jobs. After they broke up, she let him keep the phone and let him know she’d continue to pay for the cell service for a bit so he could get set up with a job. He’s doing much better now. She really helped him get back on his feet.

I don’t think many guys would be like this. They’d take the phone back just to be spiteful (even if they had a lot of disposable income) and be more than happy to leave the young woman with no resources.