I told him I wanted to take it slow, to which he then said ya me too. After he had just said he wanted fun.

“To find a kinky gal for myself, I'm into monogamy and not into having a new sex parter ever other day. I truly am looking for something serious, but love to have fun with the right person”

I asked him what he was genuinely looking for. Answer is above.

What’s the male strategy he is trying to do here?