I am not here to write a sob story about my embarrassing pickmeisha ways. I am just filled with gratitude that I finally got the courage to kick him out and I couldn't have done it without FDS.

Two months ago, I caught him sending dm's to girls on social media. I had caught him doing it many times, the last time only in the fall, where I told him I would leave him if I ever saw anything like it again. Whenever he would get caught, we'd have a huge blow out and he'd delete all his social media apps and then accuse me of trying to alienate him from socializing. Ugh, I can't believe I ever put up with it -- let alone the 5 times over the course of 6 years! I know, I know... It's embarrassing.

That night after our fight, I was on the reddit homepage and I saw a post from FDS. I clicked on the subreddit and began reading. It encouraged me to remain firmly grounded, and not to accept his apologies, and to end the relationship. I tried so hard but old habits die hard -- I am ashamed to say that after a week of fighting, him groveling and begging, I agreed to take him back with some conditions. Seriously, never become a live-in girlfriend, because sharing an apartment during a breakup, even short term, is an absolute nightmare.

Even though things seemed fine on the surface, I could never forgive him or trust him again because he is clearly flawed, would never treat me right, and will always be bad for me. Last week, I told him it was over. For real. After so many threats from me that I would leave him but I never did, he still tried to win me back, apologizing, reasoning, reflecting... Just no!

If it wasn't for FDS, I would have continued to think that my inability to get over our relationship issues (and his glaring flaws, and his horrible behaviour toward me) was my own fault, and I just need to do better. I would still be with him, miserably.

On Friday, I left for a cottage weekend with friends (vaccinated, observing local guidelines, etc) and I had a really great time. It felt so good to get out of the city and spend time with friends. I told them all to kidnap me if I ever even think about taking this LVM back. But I know that I won't.

And today I returned to my stunning apartment completely alone. He got all his stuff and left. NGL, I cried my eyes out instantly but it feels amazing to finally be free. Lessons learned and I'm ready to move on. Thank you