How do you find multiple men worthy to date?

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-03-06T20:41:58+00:00

I don't know. I think if you can still follow the theme, which is to say: don't let scarcity lower your standards, it's fine.

If you notice you're starting to rely on him for too much of your attention and entertainment pull away and focus back on you.

I've still seen people date multiple people and be hyper focused on one, so it's not a guaranteed thing.

I dated a lot of people the first time I did online dating but it was because my standards were lower then and even then, none of them overlapped because after the first date I didn't like them and didn't want to waste my time, would rather be doing things I enjoy and that benefit my growth.

So my advice is do whatever you have to to not become needy or lower your own standards from the beginning and if you notice yourself slipping figure out how to pull out of it.

Nearby-Armadillo · 2020-03-06T20:17:24+00:00

It's dinner; not marriage. I go on a lot of first dates. So long as I find him reasonably attractive and interesting I'll go out with him.

My mom used to tell me stories from being a high school student in the 1950's and early 60's and how she would go out with a different boy on Friday night and Saturday night every week because they were cute, nice boys and they asked her, and the alternative was sitting at home watching Ed Sullivan with her mom and dad and little brother. She wasn't having sex with these boys. Sometimes she would let them kiss her; sometimes not.

I try to carry this attitude into my own dating life. If he's a cute, nice boy and he asks me, I'll go out with him.

level_up_always · 2020-03-07T00:53:19+00:00

Try lots of new things that interest you that you've never done before, find out who the type of man is you want to date and go where they congregate looking pretty and let them come to you.

timetofliptables · 2020-03-06T20:18:18+00:00

I haven't even found one in years. I don't know what the hell is going on. I must not be in the right circles but I don't know how to fix that. I'm social and have a lot of hobbies and interests that get me in large group settings, so it's not like I'm just waiting around at home.

Title	How do you find multiple men worthy to date?
Author	dzgata
Upvotes	48
Comments	9
Date	March 6, 2020 7:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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