How to tell a guy texting is boring and you’d hint hint (or very directly) like to move onto calling/facetiming/talking in person? Should you leave it up to them to progress? Texting is feeling like a chore but the conversations are good. Not into false intimacy anymore.

kurikuri7 · 2022-03-09T00:27:09+00:00

Every guy I’ve been talking to on dating apps have been SO boring and non-engaging. Anything more than a week I just unmatch, or stop responding as a whole. I don’t need another text mate. I have enough friends to text bs to.

VintagePallor · 2022-03-08T23:11:58+00:00

If you've been talking for more than two days and he hasn't asked you on a date he never will sis - he's using you for free entertainment and nothing more. If I match with someone on OLD I expect them to ask to meet IRL very quickly. I am willing to chat briefly at first but especially if they start asking "get to know you" questions like "what are your passions?" I will hit em with a "shouldn't we save that for dinner conversation?" Usually they'll take the hint and issue an invitation at that point but if he tries to redirect from there it's ironclad proof he's got no interest in courting you IRL. (Note that my even mentioning dinner is too much "leading" for some FDS adherents and I respect that. Personally I just find it to be a quick way to establish the boundary and see if they respect it and are willing to escalate, and to naturally end the conversation if not.)

thewetdog_ · 2022-03-09T00:46:41+00:00

You don’t.

Either he does or he didn’t. Even if it’s a cOmMuNiCaTIoN sTyLES diFerEnCe, you can’t date someone like this because you will spend your whole relationship trying to get him to make you feel heard, paid attention to, etc.

DuchessDurag · 2022-03-09T03:17:32+00:00

A guy who’s a boring texter will over text about nothing and doesn’t keep the conversation exciting.

Sometimes I will tell a guy I’m not the texting type, but he is most welcome to catch up. I leave the ball in his court.

My standards for texting is to be direct, staying safe and not wasting too much time. If I feel the texting is not going anywhere I just end up moving on and blocking that person.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-03-09T02:20:53+00:00

Been there; done that…he was nice, polite, and never asked anything of me.

The only thing was that he lived across the coast. We were pretty much established in our respective cities. He bought a house, and I just started my full time job (I just received work benefits a few days ago). He made plans to come visit my city but Covid got in the way.

Talking to him became a chore. He didn’t initiate anything, and I got bored. The conversations were agonizingly boring.

I wasted a good 6 months talking to him. Even if it was just one text a day, it still was a clown moment on my end. Never again. I learnt my lesson lol

Classy_Bunny · 2022-03-09T10:54:21+00:00

Say it with me class : If he wanted to, he would !

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-03-09T04:24:52+00:00

If he’s not progressing the relationship - HE NEVER WILL. He should be wanting to FaceTime you, call you, organise a date. It’s obvious he doesn’t otherwise he would.

keep_my_stuff · 2022-03-09T21:36:53+00:00

For people you know in real life: if he wanted to, he would

For loose OLD connections - I will go against the grain and say you can suggest a ten minute phone call for efficienct small talk. If he acts weird or fails to set up a time/be on time, then you discard.

FluffandRainclouds · 2022-03-09T03:29:02+00:00

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