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April 20, 2020
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[–]crabbyvistaFDS Newbie218 points219 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

at least the men are usually attractive, in that generic sears catalog model way. These movies are clearly made for a female audience, as opposed to a Seth Rogan movie.

I think the “rejecting the flashy city life” trope is really about flattering the audience and showing them an idealized vision of their own modest lives. Reverse class snobbery, etc.

And the guy is an idealized version of someone they could imagine meeting: good-looking, with a modest profession that he works steadily at and takes pride in.

but yeah, they never show the positive sides of the heroine’s life: her accomplishments, her thrilling independence, the friends she’s made along the way, etc. they just show her being harried and lonely and maybe materialistic.

[–]throwaway-786786FDS Apprentice66 points67 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

in that generic sears catalog model way

LOL why is this so accurate 😂

[–]theloneabaloneFDS Newbie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This answers questions I didn’t even know I had.

[–]UpbeatIncubatorFDS Newbie839 points840 points  (44 children) | Copy Link

The TLDR of these films is basically a woman can have everything, but nothing is as fulfilling as sacrificing yourself to a man of any standard 🥰

FDS be rolling up to that wedding at the end, smashing through the cake.
'GET IN THE CAR, SIS, WE GOTTA GOOOOO' 👩 👵 👩‍🦰👩‍🦱🚗

[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie67 points68 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Can you imagine how empowered every woman would be if we all had all of our friends be just a gang of hardcore FDSers?

[–]DelicateDreamFDS Disciple50 points51 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

My real life friends are like this. Seriously FDS talk is how I thought most woman talked when they were among women they had genuine friendships with and could trust to be honest with...

But then in retrospect I have close family who aren’t like this and I realized I don’t talk that way around other women, not because I don’t consider them friends but because they would get offended and judge me (pains me to say it - but they’re pickmeishas).

[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That’s awesome you have friends like that in real life, wish I did!

[–]Kalypso989FDS Newbie6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same! My friends are all on relationships and complain nearly everyday about their significant others. I tried to introduce these ideas to them but they just thought I was petty for being single going on 6 years and "purposefully not dating because you don't like to date." 🙄 I just have standards higher than yours maybe? Ugh, I need some new friends who understand!!

[–]QuodpotFDS Newbie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I finally made some real friends and we talk like this, hahaha. It's refreshing af after years of having only male friends

[–]UpbeatIncubatorFDS Newbie22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

YES. Every woman needs her FDS crew. <3

[–]Kekekeke7777FDS Newbie93 points94 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao!!!

[–]Vursah_IRL30 points31 points  (34 children) | Copy Link

Can someone explain why people want to live in NYC? It seems like a fate worse than death, I genuinely can't understand a single appeal.

[–]BabyGotBantzPickmeisha™️50 points51 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

New Yorker here. It means you’ve made it in a sense if you’ve got enough money to live here or if you can thrive here you can make it anywhere. It’s one of the centers of human civilization. Endless restaurants, fashion, entertainment, museums, all kinds of traveling pop up displays. We have the best of everything. Yes it’s crowded, noisy and there’s lots of garbage everywhere but this city is normally bustling. We are dealing with a horrible tragedy right now but New Yorkers are tough and we get through it.

Some of us don’t want to live in the suburbs and we find it boring. I’d find it a fate worse than death to live in a cookie cutter house surrounded by soccer moms and nosey neighbors or out in the country with no culture and nothing to do.

[–]baby--bunnyAt-Risk Pick Me Youth42 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I also find the idea of suburban life hell, but I like the other extreme, my dream isn't to escape to nightlife and museums but to be a weird hermit in a creepy cabin in the middle of the woods making maple syrup

[–]rearendedFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is me. I want completely off grid and self sustaining.

[–]greenappletwFDS Apprentice21 points22 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I was just talking to my friends the other day about the idyllic childhoods we all had in nyc

We were are poor immigrants but life was literally better than anything I've ever seen in the cheesiest kids movies. Especially summer nights

"A fate worse than death" is a bit much

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly! Couldn’t have said it better myself. I’m from NJ and lived outside NY too. My entire family works there, lives there or is from there. And it’s an amazing city. There’s a reason Frank Sinatra made a song about NY or Taylor Swift. It’s an amazing city!

I also lived in a rural setting like this post is making fun of. No fashion, people are boring and quiet, not outgoing, cliquish, the men are uglier and usually very sexist in these rural areas. Not sure why anyone would want to live in a rural setting. Unless you want to be living in some dirt road drinking and having to drive 1.5hrs to work... like that’s a rural area for you. If it’s for a house or big yard, you can move outside NY to South Jersey or CT. Like you don’t need to move to Maine or some other rural ass area.

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not gonna lie, it used to be more awesome (especially for young people in the 2000s) especially after 9/11 because party culture was amazing. I’m still there (at the moment I’m quarantining with my parents in NJ) is because I could never get paid as much for how little I do anywhere else ¯_(ツ)_/¯. Also I’d die of boredom in the suburbs

[–]PoeticINFPFDS Newbie11 points12 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Have you ever lived there ? Why do you think that it’s hell?

[–]Vursah_IRL7 points8 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

I've visited, but idk overly crowded, overly expensive, super liberal and pretentious concrete mazes just are not my thing I guess.

[–]PoeticINFPFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Oh I was just wondering since I’ve wanted to visit. It seems like a very diverse city with lots to do. I’m Canadian but many of my friends are from there, so I thought I might like it.

[–]DelicateDreamFDS Disciple18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

California is a big state. You can live within driving distance to the fun stuff and leave all the headache there when you go home. And I am willing to pay more taxes given our quality of living is higher than many states which pay less. I think maybe a Canadian will understand that idea.

Anyhow cities are a blast when you’re young, single and child free. Post age 30 or so, usually a slower pace and being a bit closer to nature feels better. I’m guessing the movies take this idea and really exploit it. Because it doesn’t mean you wanna leave your high paying job you love for some hillbilly in fucksville. It’s more like you simply wanna have your own home and go on serene hikes instead of clubbing on the weekends.

Edit - I got to add, I suspect the core audience for the lifetime channel are pickmeisha suburban stay at home moms who want to be validated for making a choice to crank kids out and take care of their manchild husband and never explore their own potential outside of these servant roles. They love to hate on “career women” and insinuate that they are unfulfilled.

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don’t let them tell you it sucks. It’s amazing. There’s TONS to do. Especially in soho and midtown. Brooklyn is amazing too. I mean look up any video talking about why NY is amazing and you’ll get it. I brought someone I know whose never been to NY for the first time and she went crazy at it all. It was during Christmas and the lights and music and just so much. We played Taylor Swifts Welcome to NY as we drove over the bridge. It’s a surreal feeling if you’ve never seen it.

I remember last time I was there just walking around and going into some open house and finding this nook and cranny art museum for no reason. I’ve been to places where someone came around and started giving shots for no reason. My friend and I always go to Japanese places and drink sake. The best clubs I’ve been to. I’ve been to amazing apartments there that only very wealthy people can own and I’ve seen the views, that you’d see in like Instagram.

My ex boyfriends aunt is friends with these millionaires who lived an apartment below Heidie Klum and their views were astounding! Both my brothers work in NYC, cousins, my family is from there and NJ. NYC is amazing. I would sometimes go to the ports and look out at the water during the sunsets. There’s nothing like it. Even if you don’t have money, there’s lots to do. I used to take the ferry boat (it’s free) that goes to Staten Island and back to NY and you get go past the Statue of Liberty. My favorite was taking it at night, you get the view all of Soho (the area with the World Trade Center) from the back, and it’s like a movie. Just walking around is an experience and seeing all the famous buildings.

Also, NY pizza is nothing like anything else. That and NJ boardwalk pizza. My favorites. You can find the weirdest things there (in a good way). Like we were looking for good pizza at night one time after getting in late and we found this underground market called Turnstyle Underground Market with bomb pizza. I got ranch pizza. It’s near Columbus Circle Fountain. Like just walking back up to the streets and you see that near it.

Only downside is the city is so cold during the winter, because the wind whips but that’s any city... Philly, Boston, Hartford.

Also, the layout is so easy. You can learn it in like a day. I take the subway at times, and it’s so easy... all avenues go in order. If you’re uncertain, you can pull out your phone and go on maps and it’ll show you the blue dot of where you are (like most phones on map show) and while you’re moving along you can see where you are, and it’ll just go in order on the speaker. I’m sure lots of people on the NY subreddit can give you more info on traveling there.

Also, unlike many other cities you can say and wear whatever the hell you want and no one cares. I actually dislike videos on YouTube that are like “I walked around in a cowboy outfit in Times Square” Facepalm So fake. People in NYC don’t care, especially Times Square. The weirdest of people go there. You can legit go anywhere on the streets and scream “AAHHHHHH fuck you all!!!!” And no one will blink an eye or look at you unless they’re a tourist.

If you want to be ignored and not have eyes all over you, then NY is the place to go. Living in a rural area for a while, I HATE people who stare (it happened in New England so much and it’s so rude). There’s too many people in NY that you go by at all hours that your brain can’t take in all the faces and thus that’s why people don’t stare at you and also everyone has a place to go and things to do they don’t have time. Also in NJ, NY or Philly it’s rude to stare, that’s how I grew up. Rural New England never got the memo it seems. Bored people stare. Even if you’re bored in NY you can walk around and there’s always something (not during the quarantine right now obviously).

[–]Vursah_IRL1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Don't get me wrong it's cool to visit. I lived in California for over a decade but these places are WAY better in short bursts.

[–]bel_esprit_FDS Newbie7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

California is definitely better if you live here.

[–]Vursah_IRL2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Smog checks, high taxes, insane rent prices, droughts, awful traffic, super polluted air. Nah definitely don't miss that, I'll just go visit Venice Beach every now and then and call it good

[–]trynafindaradio2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol, how do you have a problem with both polluted air and smog checks?

[–]kht777FDS Newbie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The city of LA is terrible but San Francisco is cool and San Diego and OC beaches are amazing.

[–]Vursah_IRL0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Smog checks, high taxes, insane rent prices, droughts, awful traffic, super polluted air. Nah definitely don't miss that, I'll just go visit Venice Beach every now and then and call it good.

[–]MeredeenFDS Newbie-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It just seems so... dirty. I mean, I wanna visit but not live there.

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whoa whoa whoa. I’m from NJ and NY and it’s one of the greatest cities on earth. I mean people come to America to see NYC. So many things to do there, at all hours, tons of different people to meet, the pizza is bomb! Also, careers!!!!! My brother works making commercials in Manhattan and his place is owned by Instagram. You’re not gonna find that unless you’re in Cali. I also have a slight NY accent and I love the accents.

I love the attitudes. People aren’t mean like you think. I’ve actually met more mean people when I lived in a rural area, especially the guys! Guys are SUPER mean and close minded and sexist in rural areas. In NY guys were nicer to me, actually knew how to date and kept themselves nice. Like I’d go around and all the guys I knew in NYC looked like they came from Instagram. All the stupid rural ass people I still know in the northeast I lived in all dress like slobs and they look like they stepped out of 2005. It’s like they don’t even care or fucking try. Most New Yorkers I met/friends with try. My brother tries, he dresses to the nines. All his New Yorker friends do.

Listen to Taylor Swifts “Welcome to New York” song. That song FEELS like NY and you’ll get why it’s great. My favorite part of NY is when it starts to get dark and all the lights come on.

I also love crowds personally. I lived in one one of those Christmas towns in the northeast that this post is making fun of, Ive also lived on the beachside in Florida, NJ and nothing ... absolutely NOTHING compares to NY. If you didn’t grow up in the north or near a city you’re not gonna like it. I grew up near Philly too so I like the busy life, I like the people, I like the food! Rural states/towns don’t have a snowballs chance of comparing. I’ve seen and lived both sides. I know.

[–]heliodromeFDS Newbie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You’re never alone. It’s an energizing city and it wards off depression. If I’m in the burbs by myself in my car by myself, it really makes me lonely. When I hop on the subway in the city , I can people watch, when I walk on the sidewalk, no one is wondering what I’m doing there. Walking is one of the best things about New York. I know there are people around me doing all kinds of interesting things all the time. There will always be an abundance of things to get involved in, classes to take, friends to see.

[–]Simply-RainyFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s why I love y’all! My sister’s keeper 😇

[–]onefoulowlFDS Newbie251 points252 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I think they're stupid AF. Especially lifetime movies. BUT they are so incredulous they are addictive. My boyfriend's evil twin/ foster daughter from hell who seduces husband/ other crazy scenario that would never happen but keeps you glued to the screen. I LIVE for car crash films like this.

[–]riotous486saturnFDS Newbie85 points86 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"Car crash films" is EXACTLY what these are.

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

lmao me too I love hate viewing

[–]jcebabeFDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They have the formula down. I'd love to be a writer for Lifetime and make crazy movies.

[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple114 points115 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How are they marked as romance or comedy genre instead of horror and tragedy? I guess it is a comedy in a sense that pickmeisha behavior is acting like a clown, but it's more sad if anything. ”I will sacrifice everything I dream about for this underachiever, because he disrespects my boundaries constantly and that's true love! Who cares what I really want, the underdog must get the best woman, because he got lucky once after a lifetime of failure! DReAmS dO cOmE trUe(unless you're a woman)”

[–]noavocadoshereFDS Newbie51 points52 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

(there was one that actually broke the lifetime/hallmark mold recently! with a helicopter pilot and a chocolatier but i forget the name)

i usually dislike movies and books like this. it's always the woman who is shown her lifestyle and thinking is wrong and backwards so she then compromises or flat-out gives up her hard-earned accomplishments along with her former life because it was making her so deeply unhappy--that is, until she reunites with her rugged abercrombie and fitch poster boy ex-high school boyfriend who stayed to work for his family's business and helps her realize what she was missing all along (🙄). but on the other hand, it's slim pickings regarding romantic films. we never really have a happy ending without a sacrifice or catch.

[–]vp2407FDS Newbie47 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

A girl I knew actually did this irl. She was an intern at a really competitive firm in manhattan and got a full time offer to start work the following year. But she turned it down to move to nebraska to be with her boyfriend after graduating. At the time I thought “aww how sweet” but now...🤢🤢🤢

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Wow. And he just let her do this? I guess living near NY most guys are career driven and would have dropped their mouths if they heard a girl was leaving that type of job.

Honestly that girl could have made MILLIONS! She could right now be living in a high rise grand apartment in NYC looking at the city sunset with that type of job. What a waste of a gift. I mean I certainly could never be a lawyer. What a shame! Like in NY having a profession like that is big big money. Ugh. I’m actually getting pissed off.

[–]vp2407FDS Newbie7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She didn’t work in law. I don’t want to give away what I do for a living, but her supervisor was also my mentor in grad school, which is how I found out about her decision. I don’t keep in touch with her so I don’t know how the relationship worked out.

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For own sake I hope that relationship worked out. Because otherwise she’s probably full of regrets once she realized she threw every opportunity out the window. Unless her like parents pushed her to go into that career path and she didn’t want to to start with.

[–]applestormFDS Newbie218 points219 points  (24 children) | Copy Link

Eh these are not the worst. The worst movies/TV shows are the teen stuffs where the girl drops a Ivy League uni (usually Harvard or Yale) to follow her shitty high-school boyfriend to his no-name state university and it's framed as the ~deepest proof of love~ and not a girl literally throwing away a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for a relationship that may or may not work out.

Sadly, because of this trope, so many women got brainwashed into thinking that giving up on prime education for their school sweetheart is the most romantic thing to do. I have a pickme acquaintance who confessed to have rejected a good college for a bad college just to stay near her boyfriend... Who dumped her 4 months later. 🤡🤡🤡

At least the woman who ditch her top job in NY for ~love~ has a chance to get another good job back if things don't work but college choices stick with you for the rest of your life.

Also I hate how it's never the shitty boyfriend that pick a job/education to be near his gf when it would actually makes sense since she has the best job/college choices. But no! Just like I have never seen any fictional work where the man leaves his top job/education option for love lol Somehow, he manages to get both!

[–][deleted] 62 points63 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The worst movies/TV shows are the teen stuffs where the girl drops a Ivy League uni (usually Harvard or Yale) to follow her shitty high-school boyfriend to his no-name state university and it's framed as the

~deepest proof of love~

and not a girl literally throwing away a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for a relationship that may or may not work out.

I was reading an article a while ago about a young woman who threw away her management-track career at Goldman Sachs for a loser boyfriend who wasn't doing anything, but of course the article framed it as true love and loyalty. I was screaming.

[–]BarbarianGlamGnomeFDS Newbie24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

she what?! I could never even get that dream career for myself and she just.... I’m screaming

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I died inside when I read it.

It took me YEARS to get where I am in my career, and I worked so hard for it! I can't imagine throwing it away for anything, let alone a person.

[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple96 points97 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh god that irks me so much. I immediately thought of Topanga and Cory when reading this comment. Textbook pickmeisha drops Yale and proposes(!) to underwhelming below average guy during graduation. What kind of toxic garbage ideas were they trying to teach girls?! You can never know or control whether your love interest will stick with you, always feel the same way, or help feed you and potential babies with garbage degrees and careers that now both of you have. Dropping your dream career path and prestigious degree that you can have control over, and will keep for the rest of your life, for some fickle guy that could turn abusive, weigh you down or leave you in few months is such a bad message. If they really loved you they wouldn't hold back your dreams, independence and earning potential. Why do strong exceptional women always accommodate weak guys' needs, and never the other way around, it's so toxic.

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its exactly what happened to my SIL and honestly pisses me off just thinking about it after all these years. LVM she met after the slime ball she gave up everything for is no better, in fact possibly even worse.

[–]emilydoooomFDS Newbie48 points49 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is why Devil Wears Prada annoys me - her friends are so unsupportive, literally steal her phone from her at one point. And her bf is a pro chef and somehow that crazy schedule is ok but OMG he’s sad when she isn’t around the second he needs company. She literally says if she can manage one year it will change her life and everyone around her is so selfish about it!

[–]denverkrisFDS Newbie28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They're even dicks after she brings them the mother load of cool free shit. Ungrateful bastards.

[–]WastingOrchidFDS Newbie33 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao my sister tried to do this and my mom told her that her boyfriend was nowhere near as valuable as her education, then basically said “you’re pretty; go to the good school and you’ll find a better, smarter dude who can make more money, plus you won’t even have to rely on him for finances since you’ll be making bank upon graduation, too.”

She picked the good school, had dumped her boyfriend before summer was up, and is now independently wealthy and married to a fantastic dude. Her original boyfriend got into heroin and never left his hometown 🤡

Know your worth, ladies 😩

[–]likejackandsallyPickmeisha™️26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The only one I can think of where this is even considered is Always and Forever, Lara Jean. It’s the third book is the “To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before” series by Jenny Han.

Peter gets into UVA and Lara Jean doesn’t. She gets accepted to William & Mary and UNC (which are both still great schools). She decides to go to UNC and he wants to transfer, but his mom steps in and basically tells Lara Jean she’s ruining her son’s life.

And that’s literally the only one I can think of where the boyfriend even considers changing his plans for the girlfriend.

[–]citrus_sugarFDS Newbie8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Old reference because I'm old but Empire Records dude AJ follows Liv Tyler's Corey to Boston because she's going to Harvard.

Oh, also in Weeds when the teenage girl going to Yale gets knocked up by douche-boy son who purposefully compromised a condom, parents get her an abortion and lock her down and send her away.

Those are the only ones I can think of currently and it's a little sad that the first is from 1995 and the second early 2000's.

[–]sashimi_girlFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

UGH when Rachel got off the plane for Ross....

[–]pinkgreenpurpleFDS Newbie12 points13 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

College choices? Why couldn't she just re-apply the next year to the better school? ELI5. I'm from Canada so even our 'worst' universities here are still very good compared to the USA's worst schools.

[–]applestormFDS Newbie27 points28 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Nope. I'm from France and we both went through 2 years of prep school to pass a difficult competitive exam for selective business and engineering schools. Once you refuse a school, it's over. And she already enrolled to the shitty school and paid part of her yearly non-refundable tuition by the time her NVM boyfriend dumped her soooo. Basically she played herself and hasn't learned anything from that because she recently ditched a job opportunity to stay in the same city as her boyfriend... Who dumped her not long after.

Some people are just too dense.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

NOOOOOOOOO, your friend went through prépas and got into a grande école and turned it down for a boyfriend????? What??

What school did she turn down? Sciences Po, ENS...? I'm afraid to ask...

Anybody reading this should know the entire college application process in France is insane and makes applying in the US look like a walk in the park.

[–]applestormFDS Newbie5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She refused a top 5 business school (EM Lyon) to go to an unknown business school and basically sabotaged herself.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She turned down emlyon? Fuck.

[–]pinkgreenpurpleFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ugh that’s so sad :(

[–]SewudFDS Apprentice2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have a pickme acquaintance who confessed to have rejected a good college for a bad college just to stay near her boyfriend... Who dumped her 4 months later

I did this. I had amazing grades and a standard overachiever's resume, but my boyfriend was... not even able to graduate on time. He failed classes in his senior year of high school and did an extra semester. I stayed home to be with him because I thought that was it for me. I wish I had known my worth. I had a couple of school officials mention that my grades were never seen before and probably the best in the province, but it never dawned on me to do anything other than stay to support my boyfriend. I never thought "oh easy, I can go somewhere better and find a better guy, yag", I just thought "I could never do that, it would be so hurtful to my boyfriend to acknowledge that he's not worth as much as other guys".

I guess being humble and loyal was prized so people approved of my choice. A lot of people think happiness and love are more important than money and achievements. But the love you feel at 18 is so replaceable... I could have loved any guy the same way I'm sure. And if anything it was more guilt and obligation that kept me with him. Feeling obligated to return a guy's affection, then feeling guilty at the thought of wanting to find someone better, then this guilt and obligation making you loyal. I don't think I ever "wanted" him, but he wanted me and I felt like I had to honor that.

I was honestly bored at the local university. It's not a bad university at all, but I was the best student in any class and it just sucked... It didn't bother me being the best student in my high school, but I guess I had expectations that university would be harder, and then it wasn't. If anything the students at the university were on average worse than the students at my high school because I went to the best high school in the region that feeds that university. I would have liked to go somewhere where I was the dumbest around because that's how you grow.

[–]PlayDirtyInViceCity0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Name one movie like this lol

[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Melanie and Derwin from The Game. She gives up Johns Hopkins Med school to follow his football career.

[–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuckberg 😂😂

[–]AluminumOctopusFDS Newbie69 points70 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

These "runs to the country to be a wife" movies are the conservative equivalent of the "runs away to Hollywood to become a star" movies. Give up the big sinful city to live a simple life with Jesus and family values. Its why people were so upset about hallmark showing a lesbian couple in some ad, because they see hallmark as their safe place.

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel so bad for people who have parents that watch this shit LOL. I see peers complaining about it all the time. My parents are nearly peak boomers (being black humbles them down a notch) and won’t watch anything in this league of bullshit and would probably be horrified if I did.

[–]FlowingnebulaFDS Newbie29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Friend telling her "you need a man" is the most inaccurate thing ever

[–]shannon_21FDS Newbie20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Riding in Cars with Boys is an excellent reminder of what not to do. Even in the worst of situations, sometimes there is still a way out..

[–]likejackandsallyPickmeisha™️13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I absolutely LOVE this movie. It’s so well done and it’s such an accurate downward spiral of woman with promise throwing her life away for a shitty dude.

[–]denverkrisFDS Newbie39 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, no, no. He COULD have made 2 million dollars a year working for the man, but he gave all that up because he couldn't sacrifice the integrity of his work for $. So now he hand builds furniture that he sells at craft fairs and pretty much breaks even.

[–]radical__daphneRuthless Strategist7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

and pretty much breaks even

🔥🔥🔥

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao! I always make fun of these movies.

But it’s more like.....

Girl lives in NYC. She broke up with her UGLY ass fiancé.

Goes to Vermont for Christmas.

See’s this absolutely 10/10 hot guy in a bakery or bookstore that in reality DOES not actually exist in Vermont.

Hot guy likes her.

She’s too “prideful” or “shy” to get with him OR she’s still obsessed over the ugly ass fiancé.

Hot guy and girl almost kiss, but ugly ass fiancé comes around the corner

“Kate! I’ve been looking everywhere for you! Your parents said you’d be in this part of town. I drove 4 hours just to see you. Whose this guy?”

She looks at hot guy with this perplexed and sorrowful look. “I’m sorry....” she says.

She takes her hand away from hot guy to greet ugly ass fiancé.

She stays with ugly ass fiancé at her parents thinking everything is going to be perfect the way she always dreamt.

Something bad happens like she finds out ugly ass fiancé cheated or he says something really offending to her and doesn’t understand why she’s upset.

“Oh why do you need that yoga place, Kate. We’re rich fucks in NYC. I work at a law firm. I make more than plenty for the two of us.”

“You just don’t get me, do you ugly ass fiancé!? You never understood me. That’s the reason I came to Vermont!”

Something happens off screen. We see hot guy look around at the town event and here Kate comes back into to his arms. He never asks a word, they just kiss.

Then something crazy at the event happens and everyone cheers or the snow falls.

I laugh about this every single time these movies come on.

[–]SearchLightsIncFDS Newbie16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"she's not like other women..."

[–]Kekekeke7777FDS Newbie19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmaoooo

[–]azngirl7689At-Risk Pick Me Youth8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love them for mindless TV watching but you’re right, the message is kind of disturbing.

[–]siberiansummerFDS Disciple9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OMG lmao this is hilarious

[–]cristaco29FDS Newbie8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There’s no better indicator that a man wrote those shitty movies. LVM don’t want to feel guilty for being parasitic, so they try to convince themselves (and others) that they add something to a woman’s life.

[–]PooPooMeeksFDS Newbie15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The thing is, we women have to have a “safety net” when these guys leave us high and dry, or fuck up our lives. Lifetime sure didn’t have an “after show” for this movie, showing the “dreamboat syrup man” cheating on his love “Miss lonely businesswoman” with the sexy and sultry neighborhood “Candlestick Maker,” or depleting his newfound love’s savings account after buttering her up to pay off his late child support payments, LOL...And they wonder why a lot of us become bitter! 😡

[–]YosoybonitaritaFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hate this channel. Ugh!

[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is so true! 😆

I HATE the HM channel, what an absolute load of shite those shows are! All featuring major house porn and ridiculous expectations of what a relationship entails. 🤨

[–]Reachingout365FDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's so bad too cause we are all brainwashed on this. I was all "miss independent 21-24 but then got re-traumatized and now I'm regressing back into thinking I need to be in a relationship to feel special/good; I wish we weren't on lock down so I could get help lol I can't see my shrink.

It is not good to condition women to feel that their success or life has no value without a man, i am finding I enjoy films more and more that just center women and don't focus on relationships. That is so shoved in our face everywhere and it doesn't even reflect reality cause most men are shit and I think this conditions women not to think critically about their relationship because they're obsessed with a fantasy.

[–]greatcathyFDS Newbie8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

And the movie stars Reese Witherspoon!!

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sweet Home Alabama? Couldn’t even finish that one just because it was bad. I wouldn’t try again now

[–]greatcathyFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's the one! The ending is exactly as described. This post cracked me up.

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

More like Candace Cameron. She’s in ALL of these films.

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

fuck that bitch she blocked me on facebook

[–]buffysummerrsFDS Newbie0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why?? Lmao!

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cuz I ~politely~ called her out for sharing pics in support for chik-fil-a during the company’s homophobia scandal

[–]velocifero18FDS Newbie5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I know women in their early 20s who will sit around binge watching this garbage for days. I don't understand how it doesn't just drive most people mad watching the "inspiring message" of women giving up their careers for ~family values~.

[–]azngirl7689At-Risk Pick Me Youth3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I binge watch the Christmas movies because I’m a giant sap about that stuff LOL. Don’t really use it as a life plan.

[–]comet2004FDS Newbie3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

this is like real life too. I'm educated, make good money, living the life, yet people tell me I'm being picky when I expect my equal and turn down guys who can't keep up. yeah because I worked this hard to give up my lifestyle to use all my income to support a man who makes 25% of my income and not be able to maintain my lifestyle. makes sense.

[–]alluringivFDS Newbie3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hallmark, BET, TLC, and HBO stereotypes black women in almost every movie

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

make $2 a year

😄

[–]N2GenFDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahahaha

[–]EternalSunshine2020FDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao😂😂😂 I straight up busted out laughing after reading one!!!

[–]CatsOnTheLaptopAgainFDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

All of these are loathsome brainwashing B's Spiels wrapped up as feel-good seasonal films.

[–]Peanutbut692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

IRL these blue collar woodsy men are are abusive alcoholics/cocaine users

[–]aburke626FDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wait, are we watching the same channel? I don't usually agree with the career change, but usually the women in these movies are leaving some rich, good-looking, but ultimately shitty LVM for the admittedly broke HVM who treats her like a princess even though he doesn't have a ton of money. Usually the original guy was cheating, or turned out to kick puppies in his spare time, or whatever, and the other guy turned out to be the better guy all along, even though he bakes cookies for kittens for a living and lives in a tiny house. Or it's the nerdy guy she grew up with and she discovers she should have picked him years ago instead of the studly quarterback.

[–]Inez_HoneyfoxFDS Apprentice2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

SNORTING laughing

[–]TheDeadlyBeautyFDS Newbie2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This aint got nothing on lifetime way back when. I remember growing up my mom would call lifetime (the supposed television for women) the rape channel. During the 90's to early 00's it had nothing but an abundance of movies about rape, pedophilia, being kidnapped and the occasional "reconcile with my cheating husband". Not sure what's on it now though. Seems like TV that is marketed towards women either exploits the violence done to us or has some dumb Disney romance movie.

Television for women made by men.

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

‘The Babysitter’s Seduction’ 🤢

Finding out Stephen Collins is an actual child molester 🤮

[–]punch____1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Once again starring Lacey Chabert

[–]CatsOnTheLaptopAgainFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

All of these are loathsome brainwashing B's Spiels wrapped up as feel-good seasonal films.

[–]MissVvvvvFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lololololololol! I just woke up and I'm usually a zombie in the morning but damn if you didn't just make me burst out laughing 🤣 thanks sis ✌️

[–]fulltwistinglayoutFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you’re welcome sis!

[–]ana-moss-cityFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This, on my dayss, but tbh i can empathise, what good is a high paying job if you have no one to share it with... Hallmarked movie are my guilty Christmas binge, where i allow myself the delusion of a happy every after, as supposed to the negotiation it is.

[–]derpinat_butterFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had a schoolmate like that. She really wanted to be psychologist and got her bachelors degree easily. Than she would have to apply for masters (with only bachelors degree you aren't qualified to do most psychology jobs) but she quit so she could join her boyfriends pyramid scheme.

[–]radical__daphneRuthless Strategist3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why would you say something so controversial and yet so true!

Glad you ladies are so harsh. I'm living for it! 👌❤️

[–]hey-hey-howPickmeisha™️2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hm. I actually disagree. Haven't seen this particular movie, but I do think people (both genders) are happier through meaningful relationships than money (several studies on happiness support this).

The right person is worth giving up lucrative careers for. The issue is we're horrible at identifying the "right person".

[–]SamLikesGoats0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My dad used to work on these as a second camera operator (focus puller). My grandma loves these and was so in awe when he invited her on set. However she drives a mustang and used to be a security guard and is pretty dang tough. Little does she know that all the people working on it are literally just in it for the money. My dad preferred doing commercials bc they were more fun to do. My other grandma who on paper is like a stereotypical grandma at first glance (knits, bakes cookies etc, like a lot of cookies, Christmas cookie baking starts in September, and they all get frozen until she dumps a huge never ending pile of yummyness on a tray) likes breaking bad and action movies. So I guess the point here is that the media that someone consumes does not make the person. However hallmark movies are crap.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This must be some Hallmark shit.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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