The 80 percent figure comes from studies following autism in particular, but it is believed that the true stat is much higher (when factoring in birth defects and other diagnosis)
Reminds me of the stat that men are 6x more likely to leave their wife with cancer.
You have no control over whether or not your baby will be born with defects or develop special needs. You have no control over whether or not you'll develop cancer. You do have control over the partner you choose.
Before you have kids or even get married or even commit to a man that you may have kids with, you absolutely need to have a conversation about the possibility of having a special needs child. A lot of them will be straight up honest and point blank admit they would just leave. They'll find a pc way to phrase it, so you might have to read between the lines. But have that convo now and don't ignore your intuition.
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I’m so happy I lived in a state with late-stage abortions when I was pregnant. My husband and I were 💯ok with aborting a special needs child because we believe in science and my own bodily autonomy. Not allowing us to abort special needs children is just another tool the patriarchy uses to keep us out of the workforce and in the kitchen.
Also, fuck those “heartbeat” people. You’re telling me that my body killed off actual living babies every time I miscarried? Fuck right off with that nonsense.
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I bet they have money. Don’t get me wrong, I have money too so it’s not a judgment, but it is almost impossible to live any sort of quality life with a special needs child and no money, especially in the states where I live.
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