I spat my drink

Yeah. Note the men who repeatedly profess that they are "nice guys." They are not. There's a certain subset of men who think a lack of personality and life skills makes them noble creatures who deserve female attention and companionship out of some weird belief that that the universe should reward them for being below average as a type of cosmic compensation for not having any attributes that validate their male entitlement. LVM logic. Women don't do this. In fact, women are taught early on that if we're not "perfect " we're not worthy of love and respect. By the way, what society deems perfect for women is insane and impossible and is dictated by the patriarchy. There's no equivalency between men and women when it comes to entitlement and privilege. Show me a girl who shoots a boy because he won't be her date at the prom. There's no woman who shoots a gym up because much younger men won't overlook her personal or physical shortcomings in order to satisfy her sexual and personal needs while validating her social standing. Look up George Sodini. There's no female version of George Sodini.