If know the reference in the title is from Wanda sykes comparing the care for white people to POC but I’m gonna rant for a hot second on the difference in male and female medical care.
My bf is a volunteer firefighter, which means he has a regular paid full time job but he has a pager that goes off and he will go to his firehouse if he is available and go to where they are needed. He’s honestly super badass and I give him a lot of credit, his house is specially trained in cutting people out of cars so if you’ve ever been in a bad accident, he’s one of the people keeping you calm while they cut your door open. About a month ago he was jumping on the truck and he heard a loud pop in his leg and basically crumpled to the ground. His chief called my cell to let me know they were taking him to the er, mostly because if he wanted to qualify for benefits (his volunteer house will cover his pay for any time out of work if he is injured in the line of duty) he needed to be seen by a dr.
I met him at the er, it was a mess because…ya know. He actually got entirely treated in the waiting room but the dr was so bro-ey with him that even my bf was rolling his eyes. They made a very general diagnosis of a calf tear, gave him what I consider to be a decent amount of pain pills (20 hydrocodone low dose) and a referral for an orthopedic.
Ok so he goes to the ortho he refers him for an mri and that dr gives him a note to be out of work for a month (he’s a computer tech, he sits at his desk about 70% of the time) and doubles his pain meds. My bf was definitely in pain and couldn’t really put weight on the leg, but he’s not dying. Even he is getting bored at home at this point. He used the crutches for like a week and then stopped using them. He admittedly has pushed it a bit too far at points so I just remind him that he’s gotta let it heal so we can get back to being active and he get can get back to being a ff.
Today he went back to the ortho to read the mri and it confirmed a small tear in his calf and at the base of his foot, it may heal on its own or it may need surgery. The dr wanted to give him a note for another month out of work but his school is remote right now so he asked if he could just go back as “light duty” because he’s frankly bored as hell and he’s been helping people from home anyway. And they offered more pain but he doesn’t want to take them if he doesn’t really need them anymore.
Ok so what is my point of all this, I have endometriosis. I have also three major surgeries on both knees and my foot. Never EVER have I been giving the leeway or pain meds that he has been given. I’ve had 6 surgeries for my endo and the last one they sent me home with 5 pain pills. 5. And I had a complication where fluid built up in my abdomen under my liver and the pain was excruciating so I had to go in and beg for the dr to begrudgingly give me 5 more pills. When I had knee surgery I had to go back to teaching on crutches and I was out 2 days more than my allotted sick time for the year, I got written up! My bf more than anything wants to just get back to normal life so this is not a bash on him, if anything I need him to rest more so his leg will heal. But damn it just seems like he is getting coddled! And what do women get? Some ibu-f*ckin-profen and a get back to work.
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