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If a man tells you he won't put in effort, he won't.

February 11, 2021
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[–]Bellaskywalker1FDS Newbie166 points167 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow reminds me of my ex-husband he used that excuse to never get me anything for Valentines Day and he even missed his first born son first birthday. Saying he didn’t celebrate birthdays.

[–]Affectionate-Cut-460FDS Newbie639 points640 points  (21 children) | Copy Link

So all i'm hearing is that men want to be treated by their gf like a son but when it's one day of the year where it's their turn to reciprocate, suddenly they conveniently become a woke "anti-conseumerist" hippy for 24hrs

[–]IllTill3859FDS Newbie184 points185 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You nailed it. I dated a guy and CoMmUnIcAtEd that my love language was gifts. Fast forward Christmas time this man starts talking about, “I don’t celebrate Christmas. It is a pagan, man made holiday.” But you celebrate Halloween and all other holidays smh. I asked him, “well, what do you celebrate then?” He replied, “only my birthday.” And that is why he is still single. That is why no one shows up for his birthday. You cannot chose to receive only but fail to give. These LVM just want to take take take but giving is so hard for them to do.

[–]jenneke-gotenbergFDS Newbie49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a tool!

[–]ThoraFriganzaFDS Newbie22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn it how hard is to do it for the person you're supposed to love, I'm sure he would get lots of birthday presents then too if that's important to him. And then they complain why they're always single.

[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple359 points360 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

LVMs are “anti-consumerist” selectively. At Christmas time, they’re all about getting that gaming system. But when it comes to giving, they just can’t.

[–]dembar126FDS Newbie268 points269 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Yeah sorry babe I can't buy you a $10 box of chocolates because Valentine's day is a capitalist scam and I'm anti-comsumerist."

"The new xbox shooty war game came out?! Hell yes!"

[–]Lolita_LoquitaFDS Newbie8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My ex bought himself a TV for Christmas and bought me some random soup container from Amazon. So yeah...

[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Soup container.. oh dear. 😔

[–]popsthrowsupFDS Newbie135 points136 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

It’s even worse because then like if they do the bare minimum it’s then “ladies remember March 14, steak and BJ day”

Which like it’s not the only day they expect a BJ anyway, just the only day some make a joke about demanding it.

I thought about that as I read this. Just so much ughhhh

[–]QuickJellyfish2FDS Newbie33 points34 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Are they pretending Valentine’s sex is all for the lady? Anyone who cares about steak and blowjob day is definitely greedy in bed.

[–]NewDriverStewFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I grew up a Mathlete so Pi Day has always taken precedence over S&BJ Day...I've only had one scrote-y dude try to bring it up and I was too busy baking delicious pies and listening to obnoxious math-themed songs to hear him 🤷‍♀️

[–]GalactoseGalFDS Newbie7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

obnoxious math-themed songs

Is there a playlist somewhere? 🤓

[–]NewDriverStewFDS Newbie5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]TiffglamourFDS Newbie128 points129 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I agree. Men who want to set low expectations but still have access to you for sex and your emotional labor etc will try to maintain a connection but also lower your standards and expectations. When a man really likes you and wants a future with you, he will always want to see you happy and always make an effort. He will do his best to impress you. This is like Nature 101, even birds and insects understand this lol

[–]dembar126FDS Newbie408 points409 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Same with "I'm bad at calling/texting" or "I'm not ready for a relationship yet".

He's not bad at texting or calling his dream girl, he's just bad at texting/calling you.

He isn't "not ready for a relationship" with his dream girl, just with you.

It's not that he doesn't care about Valentine's day, he just doesn't care about it when it comes to you. His dream girl would be getting spoiled.

[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie105 points106 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly!! I’ve been on both sides. I’ll wait until I’m the dream girl and he’s my dream man

[–]2340000Ruthless Strategist115 points116 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Unfortunately, there's no such thing as "his dream girl". Why do we want to be a man's "dream girl"? I sure don't. You shouldn't either. It doesn't mean he'd respect you more. We've been raised to believe abuse, emotional immaturity or neglect should be tolerated for the affections of a man. For instance, if you're his wife/committed girlfriend/etc...it's okay if your needs aren't met😐... This is the equivalent of saying, "he hits you, but doesn't hit his dream girl"🤔.... The man is still trash.

Women have no control over what men do. No woman can make him act better or worse. This idea still puts women in a hierarchy of the chosen and unchosen.

I want to spoil myself. Men are just an addendum to life. Not life itself.

[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie81 points82 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It also enforces that the idea that only good and beautiful women deserve to be treated well and that it is ok for men to hang around and waste a woman's time using her when he doesn't really care.

It keeps the competition going between women like these losers are some sort of prize to be won. Instead of being appalled how the scrote she "won" could treat someone so badly, there is a smugness in winning the prize that she is better because he chose her. Ick. It won't be long until she is the one being treated like garbage.

Ideally, a man should treat everyone he is around decently with respect.

[–]Previous-Focus-2013FDS Newbie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[–]1024MegByte35 points36 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This sucks to read. My ex used to spoil me in the beginning of our relationship but towards the end, he stopped making time for me and sending those little texts that made my day. It hurts because I feel like I’m not enough of a “dream girl” for him to do this for. :(

[–]yggiwtmiihFDS Newbie17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Read the FDS Handbook and the recommended readings if you haven't yet. You deserve someone who knows your worth.

[–]fentygoat26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

and in some cases the “dream girl” doesn’t even exist because of unrealistic expectations

[–]dancedance_83FDS Newbie285 points286 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Tia Mowry’s (an actress I adore) husband was a struggling actor and broke when they first got together and he spent his last $5 his paycheck to buy her flowers “just because” he knew she loved flowers and wanted to make her feel special.

Dude can make it work if he knows you like/want to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Don’t let him put words in your mouth talking about “you don’t need it” / “it’s cheesy” etc. If it matters to you, it matters to you

[–]Mind-ObjectiveFDS Apprentice79 points80 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tears. I also just appreciate the small age difference between them.

[–]Obvi_maybe75 points76 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In my pre-FDS days (but also still now) my SO got me a two night stay at a spa-hotell with breakfast and dinner included for two people. I was very appreciative of him noticing that I really enjoy spa treatments, heated swimming pools and lounging in robes and whilst day drinking. What positively jumped out at me was that he wanted me to have this enjoyment for MYSELF, to bring a friend or my sister or one of his sisters. It was a gift to ME, not US. Every year he gets me something to that effect, and it's always a present just for me and always things that I enjoy doing either on my own or with my friends.

[–]girludontbringhomeFDS Newbie145 points146 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I feel badly for any woman who is in the “talking phase”, early stage of a relationship, and/or has a shitty LVM partner especially around Valentine’s Day. There’s so much anticipation about whether or not he will do something, or whether or not he will dump you (lots of breakups happen on or around Valentine’s Day). Being completely single and not talking to anyone is honestly one of the best positions you can be in on Valentine’s Day. You don’t have to rely on another person to meet or exceed your expectations, you can just do whatever is enjoyable to you on that day!

[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie54 points55 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is what I remember to console myself after the last horrid LVM I was forced to cut off. Sure, our first VD was halfway decent because we just started but a year later it was an effing nightmare!

He should have been kissing my ass after all the emotional turmoil and horrid future faking he put me through. I tell myself that at least this year it won’t be ruined and I’ll be doing what I love which is working and I got myself some nice jewelry and treats.

[–]frogchickenhorseFDS Newbie52 points53 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’m so glad I’m single

[–]CassieGreen85FDS Disciple52 points53 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too, For the longest time I felt "wrong" because I only dated a little and never found a man who I thought was worth trying a relationship with, and in the end it's because FDS is right and most men are trash.

[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same!

[–]PearlEarringGirlFDS Newbie49 points50 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

ok, now, the other side of the coin, what would you think about a guy who does nice things for you and tells you "I'm not usually like this" (paying for your meals, opening doors). It rubs me the wrong way because I feel like it's not their nature to do it (or like they know it's something nice to do but still usually choose not to do those things)

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hard agree. What they're telling you is "I usually treat women like shit" and eventually they'll fall back into those habits.

[–]CassieGreen85FDS Disciple32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's basically another version of "you're not like the other girls." So if he didn't want to have sex with you, he'd do what he "usually" does, which is treat women like shit.

[–]Chubby-LovieFDS Newbie271 points272 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

But in a month he will give you shit for celebrating women's day and not men's day

[–]FabledAngryVillagerFDS Apprentice101 points102 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Actually, tell him you did celebrate men's day. By cleaning the toilet 😉

Edit: nvm that unintentionally had bangmaid vibes all over it 🤦‍♀️ I mentioned it because men's day is also toilet day

[–]jenneke-gotenbergFDS Newbie51 points52 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

By cleaning the toilet WITH HIS TOOTHBRUSH

[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice113 points114 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

let me also add, for the record, he has NO excuse.

money's tight for him? okay. Aldi has flower bouquets for $3.99 and chocolates for $2 to $4.99. NO. EXCUSE.

[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Agree. There is never an excuse. They always manage to come up with the money to buy what they want.

If they were truly poor, nothing is stopping them from making a card with something nice written in it.

[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice35 points36 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This! Exactly!! Cards are 2 for $1 at the dollar tree. Its free to handmake one at home or cheap to print out a picture of the two of you and paste it to a heart shaped paper and write a cute quote on it.

In high school, the guys that liked me didn't really have money or means. It was before we were old enough to start driving and working. And the one guy had a big crush on me and bought me my favorite candy (it wasn't big or fancy and it maybe cost $1) he had walked to the nearest gas station from his house to surprise me with it. Another guy didn't have any money but he was learning how to cook from his dad and he heard i liked this one dish... so he surprised me and handmade it for me and brought it in. In both cases, you can see the effort and thoughfullness. Thats what its about!

[–]TheHayleStorm204FDS Newbie9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup! My ex husband and I didn’t work for a lot of reasons but even when he was broke on Valentines Day he made sure to cook my favourite meal for dinner and packed me a lunch for work which he slipped a beautiful love note into by surprise. It can be done.

[–]BiscuitWoofFDS Newbie344 points345 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Cowardly scrotes always hide behind the excuse ‘you shouldn’t need Valentine’s Day to treat your SO well! It shouldn’t be one day, it should be every day’.

Every day: Treats SO like crap.

[–]daisy_0720FDS Disciple95 points96 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The irony is of course that men who do go out of their way to make their girlfriends feel loved and adored on Valentine's Day tend to treat her well the rest of the year as well.

It's not an either or, assholes. You can do both.

[–]LiquidSapphireFDS Newbie99 points100 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Every man who has said this to me has been a lazy fuck who never did even the bare minimum and I have left every single one over low effort

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 46 points47 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Happy cake day!

[–]SoftFortune64FDS Newbie70 points71 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

All the guys ever who use that excuse never actually do something for there wife or girlfriend the rest of the year either.

[–]BiscuitWoofFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you!! ♥️

[–]IndividualRoutine661FDS Newbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Omg This This This!!!?

[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie163 points164 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Or that birthdays aren’t that big of a deal just because that’s how he grew up. That ain’t got shit to do with me, buddy boy!

[–]_boring_daven_FDS Newbie44 points45 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah. If they really cared about you, they’d understand that it matters to you and do it.

[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ugh that was my ex.

What an asshole.

It would be faaarr too much to do something nice because your partner would enjoy it.

[–]TheHayleStorm204FDS Newbie7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I broke up with my ex for that reason. He did absolutely nothing for my birthday. He knew birthdays were important to me. How does it matter that birthdays aren’t important to him?

[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice68 points69 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

flashbacks to last year when I was still getting and entertaining texts from a clown that told me "You celebrate that hallmark nonsense? its just a BS holiday made up to try to get me to buy shit you dont need!"

I'm glad I started deleting and blocking lvm's, guys should be buying you gifts and celebrating things with you.

[–]alwaysonalongtripFDS Newbie123 points124 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Think about what women who don’t gaf about sports do for the super bowl. I’d cater a party for my man w no complaints. It would be fun to do something nice.

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 94 points95 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You should never "cater a party" for a man who doesn't do that and more for you.

[–]alwaysonalongtripFDS Newbie89 points90 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Oh I wouldn’t now! I’m single so I’m just saying I’d find joy in doing something nice for someone I love.

[–]CassieGreen85FDS Disciple120 points121 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

That's the difference, we women are taught to find joy in doing nice things for our loved ones, be them friends, family or romantic partners. Men on the other hand, just want to take and take. They're selfish creatures.

[–]alwaysonalongtripFDS Newbie71 points72 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

and they're all convinced they give way more than they get.

[–]CassieGreen85FDS Disciple54 points55 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Absolutely, they wash a few dishes once in a blew moon and expect a fucking praise party. What's so attractive about a man-child acting like a 3yo, I'll never know.

[–]MonicaLSolisFDS Disciple124 points125 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

It is the default that you should give your significant other something special for Valentines Day. Does he live under a rock? It's a very common social custom

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 100 points101 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"ItS a HaLlMaRK HoliDaY"

[–]Affectionate-Cut-460FDS Newbie53 points54 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Despite the countless times i make it clear that all i want to do is spend time together and maybe cook or bake him a treat 🤡🤡

[–]hgd29FDS Newbie24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right?!

Put a pot roast in the oven and run us a bubble bath to enjoy while we wait for dinner. A roast takes 2-3 hours....which leaves plenty of time for something sexy before I stuff my face and am too full to leave the couch. See?? No commercial bs necessary, just treat me like you love me.

[–]souredskittlesFDS Disciple79 points80 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He doesn’t want to give in to consumerism 🙄🤢

[–]AyemHerselfFDS Disciple116 points117 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"...sent from my iPhone"

[–]esseteaFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Any ideas for what I can do on valentines day to get through the day? Its an important day for me but nothing nice is going to happen for me on that day 😕

[–]PanzramsTransAmFDS Newbie12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Treat yourself! Order your favorite meal to go from a restaurant, get yourself flowers, buy a sweet treat, take a luxurious bath with fancy bath salts and scrubs. Whatever it is that makes you feel happy and special, do it! You deserve it!

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes!!! Order a special meal. Buy yourself a new piece of jewelry. Go for a scenic walk somewhere beautiful.

(And if you're in a relationship, dump the motherfucker.)

[–]chokkolateFDS Newbie9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love the ones that will go through the political route. "Those dates are commercial, capitalist, I choose not to be a part of it". Yeeeeah, right.

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I bet they’d do something for their dream girl

[–]Aphor1stFDS Newbie53 points54 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Am I the weird one here. This is 💯what I say about Valentine’s Day. I hate it it’s such a stupid holiday. I told my BF this when we got together that I just don’t do it. Though, with his usual (so far) HVM attitude he told me last night that he got me something for Valentine’s Day and not to be mad lol.

[–]yolonnyFDS Newbie37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't think the point is that men have to celebrate valentines day per se, moreso that if it's important to the woman then it has to important to them as well. Then to add insult to the injury they don't do anything special the rest of the year either and drag their feet when asked to do something nice one day of the year.

If valentines day isnt a big deal to you then that's totally fine as long as your partner comes through for you in other ways. But when they use "valentine's day is a corporate scam" as an excuse to say "i dont want to make any effort for my gf/wife" thats when it sucks, snd that seems to be the case for the examples being named here.

[–]littlecloudxoProvisional Member10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aww that’s cute lol

[–]VillanellohFDS Newbie10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Then it's time you started embracing it! You have a man who wants to treat you - enjoy it!

[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH53 points54 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

My bf is an exception. He told me last week that he isn’t going to buy me anything on V-day because he thinks it’s a silly day and I don’t care because I hate commercial holidays too. We’ve both spent too many alone and it’s sad for a lot of people. He is so giving and generous with me on a daily basis and would do anything for me. My exes on the other hand were generally selfish and neglectful so to receive nothing on V-day was just salt on the wound. It’s like wow, so even when it’s in your face that women like romance and thoughtful gestures you can’t muster up an ounce of motivation to at least book a restaurant or send a bouquet? Even a box of chocolates? Nope, I can’t remember the last time I got anything for V-day. My bf just spent a month taking care of me while I was bedridden with covid. Did everything for me. I could barely walk to the bathroom. I don’t need a gift after all he did for me. He’s also a terrible gift giver, he’s more of a service person all the way. For the record, I didn’t get him anything for Christmas except a cheap shirt and a bar of soap. We’re just not gift-y people.

[–]companyofwolvesFDS Newbie16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think holidays are useful vetting tools, but honestly I'm with you on a purely personal level as far as not actually caring about them too much. I'm all for festivity but I don't put tons of value into holidays per se.

That being said, I do expect certain treatment on them. Seems like you're at least able to communicate your needs and expectations with your bf in an equal way.

[–]LostInContentmentFDS Newbie41 points42 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I’m with you. The only holiday I care about is my birthday. On that day, I am the queen of the world. But, like yours, my SO is attentive throughout the year. If I mention my feet hurt, I get a foot rub. Back cramps because I’m on my period? Back rub. Dog in my lap? He makes my tea. He surprises me with (expensive) gluten free cookies fairly regularly just because he can.

On my birthday? It’s chocolates, wine, books, fancy dinner out, flowers, love songs, hot chocolate and everything else that I love—because I told him ONCE that my birthday was a big deal. He listens.

But even knowing I don’t really care about V-day or X-mas, he still gets me my favorite chocolate or something else small because he can.

And I’m still vetting. I’d rather be single than unhappy.

[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I agree. My birthday is non-negotiable. Your SO sounds like mine. He actually wants to be asked to do things for me. He just enjoys having someone to care for. He waited a long time to meet a woman and fall in love and he’s never taken me for granted in the 8 months we’ve been together. Mine listens too, and if I told him I wanted flowers on Valentine’s he totally would buy me some. I would rather have them as a surprise on any other day. I don’t like feeling pressured to get Christmas shopping done last minute, or rushing to find a bday present for someone who is hard to shop for, I don’t even like cooking on thanksgiving anymore (I am always stuck doing pretty much all of it), so I’m all for avoiding holidays where the collective hive is stressing out too and you usually can’t get the time slot you want at restaurants, etc. We go out to eat quite a bit anyway so I’d rather not go when it’s crowded somewhere just because it’s a holiday. Mother’s Day I do make an exception because as a mother I ain’t lifting a finger that day because I’ll use any excuse, and I usually make the reservations somewhere pretty nice and my dad always treats me and my daughters bless him.

[–]pinkfleurhappinessFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

As a coeliac tell me more about gf cookies... :D

[–]LostInContentmentFDS Newbie6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Lucy’s chocolate chip. Best store-bought chocolate chip cookies since my diagnosis 13 years ago.

[–]pinkfleurhappinessFDS Newbie7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm only 10 years in. I really love Leda gf biscuits and Orgran. :) Oh we don't seem to have lucys here. Oh well something to look forward too when travelling returns!

[–]doxieprincessFDS Newbie15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I get that. I always hated trying to do anything on Valentine's Day proper because it gets so crowded and I hate the pressure of needing the day to be perfect. Fancy date night is what we do for our anniversary. Every Valentine's Day we just order wings and pig out while we cuddle up and watch a movie. It's not very exciting but I like having a simple tradition and it makes me laugh how he calls it "Cupid's wings" to be festive.

Meanwhile my cheating ex and I would take romantic trips for valentine's or we'd sit on the bathtub with a bottle of champagne while he read me poetry.

[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Eating wings, cuddling and watching a movie sounds like much more fun than being read poetry to! In fact, I like the idea. Maybe I’ll get some wings for bf and I. I just so happen to not have my kids that night (I usually do). I dated a guy in 2019 who was the kind of guy who’d like to read poetry and books to each other. I am somewhat of an intellectual so I jibed with him being a total intellectual - for a time. Then I realized I felt old around him lol. Our conversation was always dry and deep. My bf now is smart but not an intellectual but he’s playful and fun-loving and loves cuddling and movies, and I realized that’s what I needed all along. He makes me feel young. I love guys who can make you laugh, plus he’s too innocent and sweet and loyal to ever cheat, I’ve never been more sure of that in any guy I’ve ever had a relationship with.

[–]noodlepoodle1237 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Same when men say “EverY DAy is VALentInES dAy bAbe” to avoid doing anything special / spending money on you that day. They’re the ones who will spend thousands of dollars on their gaming setup but all of a sudden become anti consumerism when it’s your birthday. “I don’t even spend that much on myself!” They say. If they can’t even treat you on Valentine’s Day, they’re not gonna treat you to an engagement ring either.

[–]alicabshd5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao.

My boyfriend has been laid off for 6 months. He got me a damn standmixer for Christmas (along with a ton of other gifts) not the cheap ones either, the $700+ one! (I really wanted one) My birthday is 4 days before valentines day and this man told me not to expect much and then spoiled the absolute shit out of me. As one of the gifts he made me an entire personalized photo album that he must have spent days making... I literally cried.

If he wants to, he will.

[–]joyfullsoulFDS Newbie14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Truer words have never been spoken.

[–]yourscreennamesucksFDS Newbie19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bonus scrote points if his "baby mama's" bday is also Feb. 14.

[–]petitpoupeeFDS Apprentice7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ladies. When I asked my older sister if she and her husband were going to do something for V day, she told me that she wasn’t in the mood for it and that it’s always Valentine’s Day in her marriage. Her husband came home later and told her that he made reservations in a restaurant for sunday. She didn’t even asked him if they had plans for Valentines day. If he wanted to, HE WOULD.

[–]gxgaFDS Newbie9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm shook because the accuracy here is too sharp. And some of us just don't get it till we see it.

[–]zwartehinde5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Some guy I was talking to last year said this to me. I tried to explaaaaaaaaaaaaain to him how important it was to me that my partner celebrates it with me because all my exes didn’t (I was pickme but starting to get my voice after finding FDS). And he was like... oooohh I don’t want to deal with all the crazy people and restaurants being busy I’d rather just get you flowers, make you a nice bath at home etc.

I said, “no, you’re not listening to me. I want to celebrate it with somebody together, out in the world. Flowers and a nice bath are just another regular day for me. Byyyyyyyyyye”

He still doesn’t understand why I stopped talking to him.

[–]Waste-WinFDS Newbie4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

My bf and I don't celebrate Valentine's day, yet He bought me a bracelet (which He gave me in advance because couldn't wait) and planned a date at my house.

[–]WatermelonSugar47FDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You mean your ex-bf?

Yet? What, you're not worth it to him yet?

[–]Efficient_Wealth66281 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with him (& I’m a married hetero female) Everyone should live like everyday is Valentine’s Day !!! My hubby & I did & neither of us ever felt slighted. Valentine’s Day is a rip-off to every hard working individual & unless you’re super wealthy, rarely can anyone live up to the hype. If we saw something we thought the other would like, we encouraged them to buy it for themselves or we would buy it for each other later. Married for 36+ Yrs & still take romantic trips as many times as possible throughout the year. 😊❤️❤️

[–]RantingLSFDS Newbie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes I disagree with FDS and I can’t express why. I suppose I fall under this category of not celebrating Valentine’s Day. I’m just not bothered about gifts, but I’ll give them on the big holidays. I’ll still ask my partner if they do Valentine’s Day and I’ll celebrate it if they do, but saying that my last BF loved Valentine’s Day and he turned out to be the absolute worst.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s just a nice day for women - why is that such a problem for these losers? Say happy Valentine’s Day plan something special and buy a gift. The effort will make us smile what is wrong with that? Why wouldn’t they want to make us smile.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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