I was appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' recent post. So many people getting upset that a dating subreddit wants to stay on-topic as a dating subreddit.

FDS are not female separatists. If you personally don't want to date men for whatever reason, that is perfectly fine, you can still participate here so long as you respect the rules (particularly, "no derailing")

Ever since all the other female-focused subreddits got banned, I've noticed an influx of refugees from GC, BPF, PPF, femcels, etc. and quite frankly I do not like the direction that these users are trying to take us.

I would like to remind everyone that when these subreddits were around, some of them actually hated FDS.

I'm tagged as a "gender critical user" and some scrote is going around saying I used to be a mod of GC (which is completely false, I was never a mod of any of these other subreddits). In fact a lot of GC users (not all, but a lot) were hostile to FDS and called us "male pandering", "upholding traditional gender roles" (men paying for dates) and "a subreddit for straight women addicted to dick"

At the time I was in a relationship with an emotionally abusive narcissist and anytime I mentioned my relationship when commenting in GC I basically got roasted for being stupid enough to date men at all. These types of comments were completely unhelpful in helping me break up with him. FDS was far more welcoming and compassionate.

Likewise, a lot of "femcels" and pinkpill feminism users criticized FDS for not doing enough to critique beauty standards and lookism, and blackpill feminism didn't like us because they don't think there is such a thing as "high value men"

So I really don't appreciate that these same users who used to have so much contempt for FDS are now trying to take over FDS now that your communities got banned (...and then getting mad at our mods and downvoting us the moment we set boundaries for what our sub is about).

I get it, it's frustrating that this is the only female-only space on Reddit, but 1) it's not our fault your subs got banned and it's not our responsibility to pick up the slack, 2) we don't want our subreddit to transform into the very thing that got you banned in the first place, 3) there's a reason why FDS has grown so rapidly while yours have remained politically marginalized, so we want to stay consistent with our values and not get derailed.

Some of this may come as a surprise to ordinary users, but that's mostly a perspective issue. As mods, we remove or don't approve a lot of these types of content, so we still see these, even if ordinary users don't. We are tired of having to constantly remove this shit and in the past couple days we started straight up banning these troublemaking users, which has made our jobs as mods a whole lot easier.

TL;DR: If you want to participate here you have to respect our community. You don't have to be actively dating to participate here but if you attempt to derail conversations with femcel/BPF/PPF/GC rhetoric you will be banned.