I'm sure all you ladies have been in this position before. You have a long hard day at work, you're frustrated, on the verge of tears, you come home exhausted. You pour yourself one glass of wine and the psychology of just sipping it eases your tensions. Maybe you talk to a friend or partner and you feel better. You go about your evening feeling lighter. Well, it rarely works the same for men.

One of my girlfriends is dating one of these guys right now. Every other day he comes over to hers or she goes to his after work and he's had the 'worst day' *tm

He needs a drink to relax. It becomes two and then five and then he's wasted, tired, and they go to bed.

I've told her this is alcoholism and abuse.

She says "but he's not mean or violent..."

BUT, he needs alcohol to soothe him. You're relationship isn't it. BUT, he gets whisky dick, so you're getting laid bi-weekly (is it even good?), BUT he disrespects the time you're giving him by being drunk. He is a drunk.

Women marry doctors, CEOs, military, and if the man is right, he leaves the heavy shit at the door. Drinking because your job is hard is taking it out on your partner, EVEN if he isn't verbally or physically abusive, its psychologically abusive. Because you end up taking care of him!

If your presence isn't enough for him to shrug off the day and focus on you and your relationship...🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 the relationship is up in flames and you need to walk.