I've been awakened!

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-06T22:57:10+00:00

Classic fuckboi behavior. I've been there quite a few times. Thankfully I only did the pick-me shit a few times with a few of them before nexting their asses. I've heard the lies about how they haven't been making me a priority or they took me for granted and they're sorry. They aren't. Nothing would change for more than a day or two if you gave him another chance.

needsomecoffeefirst · 2020-01-06T23:13:46+00:00

Even if it's a FWB relationship, you two should respect and be thoughtful to each other. You were accommodating his needs most of the time from what you've mentioned, but he didn't reciprocate the efforts that much. Selfish much?

He wants all the benefits giving even less that the bare minimum back. Good things you won't be providing any more orgasms to that douche. That only reinforces his careless behavior.

sweatydeath · 2020-01-06T23:15:26+00:00

The bullet points you listed above pretty much confirm that this dude doesn't have much game. He couldn't get it up? Wow.... NEXT!

2020-01-06T22:56:14+00:00

Everyone makes mistakes, you came to your senses before you got too enmeshed and he was able to ruin your life. So chalk this one up in the win column 🥳

yungkaleidoscope · 2020-01-07T01:52:24+00:00

Ugh, what a gross asshole. I hate that he dangled his other “options” in front of you. All those bullshit excuses are infuriating “getting caught up with a board game”? WTF.
Don’t cry, you dodged a huge bullet!

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-01-06T23:00:15+00:00

Proud of you. It only gets better from there!

traditsh · 2020-01-06T22:46:26+00:00

This is so amazing! You did such a good job of sticking up for yourself. That's some real queen energy. You had a little line where you deck yourself:

(this is where I wish I would have just kept my frame and not engaged)

I encourage you to let that go and hope that isn't a jab at yourself, but more of a note to be aware of for the future. Because you held your ground and let him know that his behavior was unacceptable, like a warrior queen. Nothing but applause. I'm so happy for you!!

Thank you so much for sharing this! Every post about waking up, every celebration of a victory, along with the story of how it happened, is a little road map for spectators who don't know how to start or what to do. This subreddit is seriously amazing.

downbeatsue · 2020-01-07T02:01:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with me I needed to see it and hear it from yet another of my sisters to see how fucked I was being treated. I hope he goes bald and in the old english bishop type of way not in the sexy way.

classylassy28 · 2020-01-07T04:06:43+00:00

Dick not working- usually a porn addiction. You wanna stay away from those men, way to much work and issues. Majority of the time they never crawl out of that hole. Usually it runs deep: paying lots of $$$ for web cam girls, watch gross stuff and all that lol. Which if you are with them will fck up your self esteem and worth.

You can and will find better than him.

Also this reeks of him not respecting you. You are a time passer for him. Ditch him for good. Maybe it will help teach him to treat the next one better (you can tell him what went wrong-if he asks, then block) Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words, especially with men.

Scaredycat2019 · 2020-01-07T03:23:54+00:00

You are absolutely not alone! I let a guy do this to me when I was 19 or so (only 3 years or so ago...)

Same shit ... college grad but lived with his parents, told me I wouldn’t want to meet his friends because I “wouldn’t like them,” wanted me to blow him in the back of his car after every date.

And yet, my Pickmeisha ass hung on for 3 months or so. And I wasn’t even the one to end it! He hit me with the “I don’t think either one of us are looking for a relationship right now...” I was devastated. And I almost hooked up with him this summer before meeting my current HV boyfriend.

But I’m SO glad I found this sub, because you will never catch me with that behavior again. The important thing is we’re here now, and we’re leveling up.

GuineveresGrace · 2020-01-07T01:58:50+00:00

Welcome! Just remember, the only way is up. We all make mistakes; the biggest success is you standing up for yourself. Well done, keep doing that shit! You're worth way better than his behavior.

2020-01-07T02:25:38+00:00

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Raquel22222 · 2020-01-07T03:37:59+00:00

Being told “just a few more hours” is the worst when you’ve already been waiting! Been there, fuck that, it never gets better! Good job cutting him off. 💓

Saitschik · 2020-01-06T22:40:07+00:00

Cheers to you and congratulations for leveling up.

He is the epitome of a low value loser and you absolutely dodged a bullet

Upper-Jaguar · 2020-01-06T23:36:51+00:00

I hope you blocked I don't understand women who don't block. Don't even give him the mental space. You'll feel better it's not about revenge allow yourself to check your phone without being subjected to slime bags trying to sleep with you

siberiansummer · 2020-01-07T03:25:32+00:00

Omg lol. I was getting mad at you in the beginning but sis I’m glad you found this sub and saw the truth!! Good for you!! I was a semi-Pickmeisha at some point. Now that I’ve been blowing dudes off, not being polite with them, not giving out the 🐱 it has improved for me BIG time!! Do try FDS techniques and they will pay off

even_thriller · 2020-01-07T05:11:15+00:00

Don't worry, we all had our pickmeisha's moments even me. Glad you dumped the loser. Welcome to Queendom! \o/

just_takin_the_d · 2020-01-07T08:43:20+00:00

He fucked around with your time, acting like it was less valuable than his e.g. wait in the car til he's done smoking, just hang around your house until he's done playing board games.

See my other comment which is why this is absolutely unacceptable when you compare it to other situations in life such as work (5hours late to a meeting =, not acceptable) https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/efuovz/z/fc2kvc5

heartbreakandseance · 2020-01-07T09:34:39+00:00

Guys like this exploit girls who are too kind and patient for their own good. So glad you ditched him. Welcome!

2020-01-07T10:14:21+00:00

I'd have been done with him on the first bullet point there.

onemoredaydream · 2020-01-07T04:52:04+00:00

Oooooh my god, I am so happy for you that your eyes have opened.

You will not ever miss being treated like this, I promise.

meecy166 · 2020-01-07T02:59:11+00:00

I’m sorry you only found us yesterday, cause I was wondering how you fell for this lowlife after all the sub preaches, but it’s good you found this sub so you can know what to watch out for and you’d be able to smell lvm’s from a mile away

FDSdisciple · 2020-01-07T06:48:28+00:00

If a weed smoker isn't already a LVM, he will be one soon.

Title	I've been awakened!
Author	KnottyOwl
Upvotes	368
Comments	38
Date	January 6, 2020 10:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/el1gky/ive_been_awakened/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/ive-been-awakened.685425 https://theredarchive.com/post/685425