Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his mother

sleepykittn · 2021-06-20T09:48:05+00:00

Wow..its not just anecdotal. They are truly searching for mothers in their girlfriends 😤thats not a life partner, justca burden that never grows up.

insurrectionaryINTJ · 2021-06-20T09:56:22+00:00

Oh look another man-child grooming a woman to be his servant and baby factory.

fsi_07 · 2021-06-20T09:10:39+00:00

good mom to us all

I'm not tryna be your mother

Background: I told him my worst nightmare is being stuck in a dead-end desk job, then coming home to 10 kids and a useless husband

The age gap already had me feeling strange, since we're at different stages in life, and some of his messages suggested he was traditional, but this takes the cake.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-06-20T11:09:33+00:00

He’s future faking you. My first relationship and a few of OLD matches all did this to me and I fell for it. I would say 90% of guys use this tactic to get women to open up and become more vulnerable.

Recently, I had a guy talk to me about marriage and ask where I thought this relationship was going during the first week of talking to me via OLD, and I was like dude, the furthest I thought is tomorrow(our first meet-up). Like chill and stop projecting these thoughts in my head. I know what you’re doing. It’s not gonna work.

If this conversation ever comes up, just tell him you haven’t thought that far, so he can’t have leverage over you and don’t think that far too. If you start talking about a future, most of them will think that they’ve succeeded in getting you and go back to their LVM ways. You gotta keep them on the hook to see how far, what they’re willing to do for you, and how they react to shitty situations.

If you start having thoughts about a future with him with the little children, white dog, and picket fence--don’t. That’s projection and it’s gonna leave you sad when it’s over. Just have fun and vet. By the way, vetting is a long process. I would say it involves more than one date to figure out if he’s good for you. Some guys can pull off the perfect first date and put in zero effort afterwards.

Mcccy · 2021-06-20T09:42:29+00:00

Y I k e s

Can't decide if it's more creepy the fact he didn't reread that and send it or he indeed reread that, thought it was ok and pressed send.

little_sparrow152 · 2021-06-20T12:47:27+00:00

"I and our beautiful kids won't stress you"

...Yeah, because that "our kids" scenario is not going to happen in the first place...

Also, love the implication that OP will only stay "stress-free" IF she's a "good mom", whatever that may mean to that scrote. As if stress was somehow deserved if she didn't fulfill his expectations for mommy-bangmaids... ew.

Technical_Moth248 · 2021-06-20T11:23:11+00:00

He wants to date and have an intimate relationship with his mother?

CuntWaffe · 2021-06-20T11:47:29+00:00

Do they never feel any shame? This is just embarrassing. Who thinks that is an appealing thing to say?

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-06-20T09:49:49+00:00

Yuck.

arwenagon24999 · 2021-06-20T12:22:26+00:00

You can’t expect to meet quality men on OLD :(

Kylie_Fan · 2021-06-20T10:18:37+00:00

Vomit!

goatismycopilot · 2021-06-20T11:44:05+00:00

Gross.

KitKat1705 · 2021-06-20T12:30:19+00:00

Blocked*

greatmoonlight21 · 2021-06-20T13:08:13+00:00

I- is he trying to scare you away? At least they tell on themselves but come on, they really lack that much self awareness?

Bubbly-Manufacturer · 2021-06-20T16:27:09+00:00

Welp that’ll make you dry up. Seriously what type of woman is turned on by being their SO’s mommy? Do they not think things thru before saying things?

catlady4u · 2021-06-20T11:13:25+00:00

Ew, no!

tiavarga · 2021-06-20T15:22:24+00:00

🤮 why is an adult asking to be mothered?

Khentiamentiu42 · 2021-06-20T16:06:52+00:00

Eeeewww the fact you are younger too uuurrrghhhhhhhhhh

Novemberinthechair · 2021-06-20T14:07:15+00:00

RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!

Tomoshaamoosh · 2021-06-20T09:27:49+00:00

Gross

millrice · 2021-06-20T15:45:52+00:00

WE WON'T STRESS YOU

YOU HAVE TO BE

cherieblosum · 2021-06-20T14:02:57+00:00

Oh boy he thinks he is funny.

Astral_weaver · 2021-06-20T15:10:07+00:00

sveji- · 2021-06-20T16:20:51+00:00

Ew. At least the trash is taking himself out

JaneIsaPain · 2021-06-20T10:58:01+00:00

are men today regressing? i cant even imagine a man from the 1920s saying this.................

ENFP_Canadian · 2021-06-20T11:16:35+00:00

The red flag is that he's a OLD user

intergalacticanon44 · 2021-06-20T17:08:00+00:00

Is he not embarrassed 😭

highoncatnipbrownies · 2021-06-20T18:22:00+00:00

When they ask this I throw out tickling (actually I beat around the question, try to get them to answer it first). The reason I do this is that I do HATE being tickled. So if someone does it to me, even subtly, I notice and there is no cognitive dissonance of "well maybe he was just having a bad day".

If someone never ever tickles you. Then you say you hate being tickled, and suddenly they do it....... boom caught your mask slip. Gone.

waitingforsunlight · 2021-06-20T14:08:32+00:00

I mean no offense but OP your first mistake is matching with a 28 year old at 22. I'm 21 and 27 is too old for me, with a few exceptions of course. Unfortunately I can't think of any alternatives since most 22 year old men aren't much better.

Bwolffff · 2021-06-20T19:04:43+00:00

Have you learned anything from us warning younger women about dating older guys? Lol

radical__daphne · 2021-06-20T16:37:31+00:00

28 is too old to even speak to when you are 22.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-06-20T17:40:53+00:00

That’s a straight up block and delete. Don’t explain anything to him. He doesn’t need pointers - these flags need to visible to all queens.

pozzalovah · 2021-06-20T20:46:56+00:00

You shouldn't be talking with him tho... The age gap is huge.

hologothic · 2021-06-20T17:31:18+00:00

Grooooosssssss. Future faking is such a turnoff.

Aspect-Secure · 2021-06-20T17:36:56+00:00

Men in general are trash, but on dating apps it's even worse.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-06-20T17:49:06+00:00

Ewwwwww 🤮

CoconutJasmineBombe · 2021-06-20T18:28:47+00:00

🤮

PorkNeckBone · 2021-06-21T01:18:30+00:00

Please read the handbook. This is one of the reasons age gaps are advised against.

KateJ1982 · 2021-06-20T17:58:27+00:00

I hope you instantly blocked and deleted this freak.

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curiousandbashful · 2021-06-20T21:18:55+00:00

🤢🤮

BigDebbie4ever · 2021-06-20T23:52:05+00:00

Eewwww

Risoa · 2021-06-21T00:01:11+00:00

Puke

Maude2010 · 2021-06-21T00:47:31+00:00

A dude on OLD once messaged me, literally, “will you be my mommy?”

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-06-21T01:20:05+00:00

deepcurrents · 2021-06-21T01:38:22+00:00

🤮🤮🤮🤮

spiderunderweb · 2021-06-21T03:23:05+00:00

😬he wants a mum

ellalovegood · 2021-06-21T04:10:48+00:00

🤮🤮🤮🤮

warinmymind94 · 2021-06-21T05:04:33+00:00

Ewwwww 🤢🤢🤢 he really thinks that saying this to you is somehow sexy and flattering. I know, iTs jUsT a Joke! Scrotes tell on themselves. Now he's gonna be super confused as to why he's been ghosted and blocked.

Title	Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his mother
Author	fsi_07
Upvotes	843
Comments	121
Date	June 20, 2021 9:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/o41k5p/just_started_talking_to_this_guy_on_hinge_28m_and/
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