I have done a lot of interesting things in my life that have (hopefully) helped people. But talking about those things seems to attract narcissistic, abusive men. Men seem to notice right away that I have a huge heart, and I worry that it's making me a target for emotional abuse. I also want someone to like me for who I am, not what I do for everyone else.

So, seriously, should I stop talking about volunteer work, genuine passions and interests, etc.? They're all a big part of my identity, and much of it will come up early in conversations about what I do for a living. What information should I hold back?