TLDR Liz Is a huge pickme that took back an abusive NVM even after he kept her as a backup option. She looks delusional and is a cautionary tale to stop being a pickme and stop ignoring red flags.
For those of you that have seen Big Ed from 90 day fiance you are well aware of how much of a LVM this man was to his past girlfriend, Rose. He humiliated and negged her on TV, plus the huge age gap was disturbing.
(Background) If that wasn't bad enough, tlc gave Big ed more chances in a show called 90 Day the single life, where he dated a woman named Liz. The relationship was toxic and also had a massive age gap. If it couldn't get any worse, an audio clip leaked of Big ed verbally abusing Liz over the phone. Then other women came forward saying that Big ed sexually harassed and assaulted them. TLC Still continued filming Big Ed's dating life anyways.
(Main points) then came the newest season where big ed proceeded to treat other women he was dating poorly, love bomb them, and just a few days after one relationship didn't work out, he got back together with Liz and then did a low effort proposal. Liz is one of the biggest pickmes I have ever seen. It does NOT matter how scripted the show was because I am highlighting how this is a pickme wall of shame. Liz was coerced by Big ed, he constantly pushed her boundaries, showed narcissist tendencies, mentioned that he stalked the restaurant that she worked at and then stalked her after work, he was seen trying to get her drunk and admitting he was hoping to get sex... and then later he verbally abused her on a phone call and other women came forward with tales of being raped and harassed by him. And then ed quickly moved onto other women and came right back to Liz. Theres so much more on the show that shows how toxic their relationship was.
It shows he was keeping her as a last option when others rejected him. So many people are criticizing Liz for seeming so delusional and unethustiastic around Big ed. Even Debbie and Colt (huge NVM and pickme son-coddler) condemned Big Ed for his poor treatment of Liz and were baffled as to why she would keep giving him chances. When Liz accepted Big Ed's proposal, people were truly baffled and sick, seeing Liz as either mentally ill or As a huge clown. That judgement of Liz is how people see Pickmes. That's sort of what it looks like when you're dolled up in your best and you're with a smelly scrote that just rolled out of bed on a date.
You make a fool out of yourself when you're a pickme. Liz has deep rooted issues to stay with a man she knows was abusive and treated her as an object. Liz is a prime example of what could happen when you ignore red flags or refuse to end your pickme tendencies, she's what can happen when you don't work on yourself or your own issues. If you followed the series in any way, you'll either be baffled or disgusted that she takes him back. But that's how just about everyone views pickmes. It's a reminder of how ridiculous and scary it is to be a pickme, and how any of us could have settled. People unfortunately don't respect pickmes, they see them as not having any boundaries and will try taking advantage of you, they'll see you as a joke, and you'll have a harder time being respected.
You teach people how to treat you. Have boundaries and high standards. Liz is the example of extreme pickmes and how lvm will continue to abuse and degrade you if you carry on with them.
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