I’m an active member of this sub, but posting anonymously to protect myself any my children. Hello ladies—I left an abusive marriage a few years ago with my children and have fought tooth and nail to give them a decent life. I need some advice regarding my just-turned-13-year-old daughter.

Last night she told me that a boy on Snapchat pressured her into showing her breasts so he could jerk off. He is 15 and goes to another school district about 45 minutes from us. This happened once in my care, and once while she was at her father’s house. She feels very regretful and ashamed and I have taken her phone for the time being until I figure out how to proceed. Her father is going to pick her up this evening (court-ordered shared custody I have majority) and I will need to inform him of the situation. I’m very concerned he will use this against me in our upcoming custody trial. He’s asking for 50% so he can pay less child support—even though they are at my house before and after school every day and actually with me 70+% of the time. Anyway, I am hoping some of you can share some advice here.

I am concerned about the custody situation and I also wonder if I should inform the males’ parents, but not sure if this is advisable. I’ve thought about going to the police, but I don’t want my daughter to get in trouble that could impact her future.

Any helpful advice appreciated! Feeling sick with worry.