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[–]weekend111FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What you’re experiencing is part of the narcissist checklist. I’ll never get it, it’s like they all learned their tactics from the same handbook.
I know it’s hard, sis, but you must block and delete him. ASAP
[–]miwamusFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
the same handbook.
It's so true and so odd.
[–]outgrabed-momerathFDS Disciple13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're instincts are spot on. It's a subtle (and annoying) form of hoovering. He wants to know that he can still get your attention, it boosts his ego and gives him fuel without having to do much.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Search for HG Tudor on YouTube. He's got some super helpful videos about narcissists that might actually help you to block him and move on (they helped me anyway).
Just listened to this one last night. Also recommend this and this one.
It sounds like a standard narcissistic hoover tactic from your ex. No contact is the only way. Sending you strength! You got this!
[–]sassenachpantsFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Block him the moment you work up the nerve or he’ll start sucking you back in and start the emotional vampire routine again.
I say this from experience from someone that broke up with a probably covert narc: none of it was real. The person he was pretending to be in the beginning doesn’t exist and isn’t coming back ever.
Block him. Everywhere. Don’t look back.
What worked for me was journaling. Every time I thought I missed him I’d grab my journal and write down some ridiculous bullshit he did or a red flag I missed.
Covert narcs are the most dangerous ones because they seem soooo harmless.
[–]honeybeerollFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I cannot speak expertly to narc behavior, but I do know for a fact that an ex bf hanging around on social media, 9 times out of 10, wants to get back with you, wants something from you (sex, attention, ego boost), or is still sexually attracted to you and wants to check you out. Tbh even with an ex where things ended amicably I would delete him from social media because you never know how men who are sexually attracted to you will behave.
Definitely block him as soon as you can. What a creep, glad you're out of that!
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