Men will rage against literally anything women ask for or the tiniest boundary we set, so stop caring. Demand the ridiculous sis, you owe it to yourself.

thedrunkcuteblonde · 2020-06-01T18:00:02+00:00

I have found the following to be true: no matter what boundaries or standards you set for yourself, there will always be a contrarian to try to impose their views. Change your standards to meet theirs, now you have another coming in to make you change it back.

You do you. In the end, you have to live with yourself. And being happy is a great place to live in.

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-06-01T18:44:35+00:00

Ugh me: “could you not yell at me into I’m in tears and having a panic attack, or if you do can you at least apologise after” Him: “no, it’s your fault for making me angry so I won’t stop and I don’t need to apologise” 🥴

2020-06-01T20:11:24+00:00

Not even ridiculous demands and they rage. I had an ex who very definitively broke up with me and called off an engagement. Several months later we were considering reconciling and he demanded that I commit to him right away. I set a VERY reasonable boundary and was willing to work on the relationship, continue seeing each other slowly, and build up to that instead of jumping right back in like he wanted. I didn’t ask for a break or limited hangouts, just a slow progression to be sure we didn’t rush and ruin things again.

Full on meltdown. Told me he had been seeing other women who would value him (true or not, i have no idea) and requested no contact from me, which I happily gave. I literally set out a reasonable plan and boundary in order to give him what he claimed he wanted (marriage with me), but since it wasn’t on his timeline he decided he didn’t want that. Really tells you how much they care about you as a person vs just having someone around.

meecy166 · 2020-06-01T21:10:52+00:00

Men will literally step and trample on your boundaries if you don’t uphold that wall high. They really are like predators and they can sniff out weakness

duckfeatherduvet · 2020-06-01T22:32:09+00:00

I just said over on the weekly thread that it didn't matter where I was going to draw the boundary, they weren't going to like it! This is definitely one of those big mindset shift points on anyone's FDS journey

Marlie93 · 2020-06-02T09:25:26+00:00

I just want to get this off my chest, boyfriend would deny me in bed; say he is not attracted to me. Rolls over an watches porn. I have had many many panic attacks over this, he didn’t care and continued to watch porn. Asked him to stop, he said he would, but just started hiding it. I found out and he said he quit now, but I feel like he just got better at hiding it. I know porn is an iffy subject, many people say its just healthy behaviour but I can’t deal with it. It hurt me so much, and the trust is gone. I don’t know if it will ever come back, he keeps saying he’s honest now, but after lying for five months I just don’t believe him.

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Title	Men will rage against literally anything women ask for or the tiniest boundary we set, so stop caring. Demand the ridiculous sis, you owe it to yourself.
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	257
Comments	13
Date	June 1, 2020 5:46 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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