I have an aunt who is very successful. She has a doctorate degree, two other degrees, and is working in the cosmetic surgery area. Not to mention she is extremely gorgeous, we have the same physical traits so I’m PRAYING I look like her at her age! She could pass for 35 when she’s in her late 40s.

She has one kid (my cousin) and she divorced the dad when the kid was born, so like 20+ years ago. About 7? Years ago she started dating this man and they got married. She kept making jokes about how he drinks, but I thought it was just playful banter until her and I were hanging out once and her husband got too drunk in the middle of the day and she had to pick him up. The dude doesn’t work - she makes $$$ and is the breadwinner of the house. This guy literally does not add ANY value to her life - she makes a ton of money, she does all the chores, she plans all their trips, she bought a beautiful house and decorated it, etc. The dude can’t even drive half of the time because he’s drunk. When my cousin still lived at home the guy didn’t interact with him or help him at all.

Full disclosure - she lives in a small town, which I think is one of the reasons she puts up with this. I’m sure she was brainwashed by relatives about how an un-married woman is a disgrace.

This is just a rant. Idk what to do. She knows he’s trash but just makes jokes about it. My relatives have told her that he’s trash. Does she just enjoy the drama that he bring to the relationship?

She could have a top-notch hot businessman or fellow cosmetic surgeon next to her who would also contribute financially to their household. If she married someone with a similar income to hers, they would be millionaires after about a year of saving.

Ugh. Seeing her just makes me work harder at vetting dudes and is making me raise my standards. Don’t settle for anything less ladies.