Never let them get comfortable!

jasdavis93 · 2020-10-07T15:30:41+00:00

This! I also hate when women say “thanks for putting up with me” on anniversary posts. Then seeing them cooking and cleaning all week on Instagram.

Girl, you are putting up with them!

fim_de_semana · 2020-10-07T13:03:46+00:00

I would never marry a guy who isn’t as eager to marry me as I am to marry him.

favoritesound · 2020-10-07T15:05:57+00:00

"7 years ago I dropped my standards and settled for this man. Lack of self respect and settling for mediocrity sure is funny and endearing! Happy 7th anniversary, babe!"

kiwielchihuahua · 2020-10-07T14:33:53+00:00

Have you ever hear a lesbian talk about her wife? they ALWAYS sound so in love, like is the first month...if i'm not getting something like that...every time my husban talk about me..i not marrying him.

TropicalPrairie · 2020-10-07T13:22:31+00:00

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throwmefaraway85 · 2020-10-07T13:56:05+00:00

Married men live longer and have better health outcomes than non-married men. Married women are the opposite, having worse health and dying sooner than single woman. They need us so much more than we need them.

Any time a man jokes about getting tied down or losing his freedom makes me cringe so bloody hard. It's pathetic and such a joke lol

IsabellaGalavant · 2020-10-07T15:19:04+00:00

This was my attitude (still is!) when I got married. I refused to have any sort of implications that I was forcing my husband to marry me. I didn't do one of those "funny" cake toppers of the bride dragging the groom to the altar (even though it was suggested!), no pictures of his "boys" doing dumb shit like shaking their heads at him or trying to jokingly stop the wedding, none of that bs. I didn't force him to propose, I didn't force him to marry me, and I resent the implication, even if it's supposed to be "funny".

letsberealforamoment · 2020-10-07T18:56:46+00:00

There are a few reasons for this negative sense of humor.

Because men are very susceptible to peer pressure. So EVEN IF they are over the moon about their gf, wife, anniversary, that can't act like it because other scrotes will call them "simps" (which is the modern version of "pussywhipped"). PEER PRESSURE
Because they want to put down their gf, and wife and maintaina sense of dominance over by making her feel that he "settled" for her. DOMINANCE.
Because they like to pretend that she chased him to the ends of the earth. EGO.

what-are-potatoes · 2020-10-07T15:44:32+00:00

I feel like this sub and /r/arethestraightsok have a lot of overlap

fermata102 · 2020-10-07T17:47:06+00:00

I dated a guy once who thought these types of jokes were hilariously endearing.

He is almost 41 and has never had a real relationship.

rysedg · 2020-10-07T20:27:25+00:00

My overweight, bald, redheaded ex-husband would respond “I said No!” with a wink and a snicker whenever people asked why our children were born 11 months apart. Wrong. The correct answer was because he had sex with me in my sleep while I was absolutely exhausted from a 2-month old I was breastfeeding multiple times nightly. I am much better-looking than him [- I had deluded myself into believing a LVM would be so grateful to have me that he would never treat me poorly ] and he thought it was ‘hilarious’ to make people think I’d been so desperate for his tiny little pee-pee that I’d been forcing myself on him before we were cleared to have sex post-delivery. Made me furious every time he said it

Solaresa · 2020-10-07T20:26:09+00:00

The ball and chain/"haha I hate my wife" trope is so tired and old.
It's been the standard forever and is still seen in every single sitcom ever for some reason. Nope, we know the stats now and we know that marriage and long term hetero relationships benefit men far more than women on average. Negging on a goddamn cultural level to try and keep women down.

Embarrassing, honestly. Get new material.

pineappleshampoo · 2020-10-07T14:53:58+00:00

This is a thing?

SpaceC4se · 2020-10-07T17:47:52+00:00

At this point they should consider it an honor and a privilege that we are still willing to provide them with our time, effort, companionship and so many other things we give freely while oftentimes our self worth sits on the back burner, unattended to.

CounterCharacter7663 · 2020-10-07T13:59:20+00:00

I would first move the scissors out of spite first.

sammytheforsaken · 2020-10-07T18:24:07+00:00

I don't get why men make these awful comments about marriage and call them "jokes". My uncle is married and posted an image with a quote in the group chat of his daughter who was about to marry her fiance. The image read: Son: "daddy, why are all the cars over there blowing their horns?" Dad: "because people are getting married there." Son: "but isn't blowing a horn actually a warning?" Dad: "exactly, my boy, exactly."

And I was just shocked. My cousins closest friends had made that group chat to discuss informations about my cousins wedding and he just posts this ridiculous image. I texted back, that based on that, he didn't sound happy in his marriage at all. His wife was furious at me for commenting that. What is wrong with people.

JaneIsaPain · 2020-10-07T23:24:48+00:00

Yet men ask women to marry them?

Am I missing something?

anotherdamnloser · 2020-10-07T16:44:14+00:00

So true LOL

somegenerichandle · 2020-10-08T00:20:07+00:00

One of my male friends from highschool made a post on his anniversary about how his wife has only beat him up a couple times. I politely DMed him and told him i didn't think domestic violence should ever be a joke. He did change the message a bit.

Allaboutb1 · 2020-10-08T03:23:38+00:00

I’ve seen men that were eager to get married. Men from traditional backgrounds are often under a ton of pressure from their family to get married and produce grandchildren. These men know that once they get married, they’re taken care of for life. My friend’s husband, who is from a traditional background, pushed for marriage and then a baby. I believe this was for control. He was passive-aggressive and would go into ‘helpless’ mode, where she had to literally take care of him like a child. He did this around me multiple times, presumably because he saw me as a threat. She was an independent woman, career-minded (she earned more than him), and she loved to travel by herself to exotic destinations. I just think of him as a leech draining the life out of her...

tasdron · 2020-10-08T02:24:15+00:00

Greg still can’t find the scissors. She left him three years ago and he’s been walking around with the tags still on new his clothes

PersonalBuy0 · 2020-10-09T00:49:11+00:00

Yep, letting them get comfortable, kool girl style, is the gateway to abuse.

Title	Never let them get comfortable!
Author	aclick1999
Upvotes	6604
Comments	111
Date	October 7, 2020 12:09 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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