(Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!

chasingastarl1ght · 2021-04-27T16:24:37+00:00

That's a lot of words to say "I'm a control freak" - the guy is out there acting like patrick bateman and I'm so glad the girl brilliantly called out the red flags.

uwuwowowuwu · 2021-04-27T16:22:16+00:00

"Happy for the opportunities I create"? Imagine thinking a coffee date is an "opportunity" because if the "vibe is good" he'll bestow upon you the gift of bad sex with a cheap, no effort, and probably abusive man. As a bonus he'll string you along and waste your time for even longer.

She clearly doesn't know what she's missing out on. /s

unbotheredshrew · 2021-04-27T16:27:56+00:00

I dream of a world where men like this stay sexless and alone forever.

Ms_Auricchio · 2021-04-27T16:28:25+00:00

Has this attitude ever worked on anyone? I think even the most pickmeisha out there would react badly to an answer like this one.

pinkcityscape · 2021-04-27T16:36:12+00:00

He’s been brainwashed by the scrotesphere and thought this garbage would work irl lmao even the most extreme pick me would’ve rejected him...

jargon_explosion · 2021-04-27T16:56:05+00:00

Great tips to weed out controlling behavior very early on. Giving another suggestion, stating right off the bat that you don't want that restaurant or day or time, talking about altering your physical appearance like cutting your hair, etc. Really small things that will openly show how much the other person respects your boundaries, opinions and bodily autonomy. I love it!

CuntWaffe · 2021-04-27T17:29:14+00:00

"Happy for the opportunities I create" You mean bad vibes, shitty coffee, and mediocre dick? No thanks.

candyfox84 · 2021-04-27T17:07:04+00:00

"No man wants a" BYE

_differentmentality_ · 2021-04-27T16:39:44+00:00

Lmao do men think this is gonna fly with us now ? We never liked the traditional role that was given to us by you, you think we’re gonna tolerate bullshit like this when we don’t have to ?😂

bleda_princezna · 2021-04-27T16:22:31+00:00

"I like my girls submissive" 🤢🤢🤢 This woman dodged a bullet. Big one...

Edit: Also in what universe do people normally go for a coffee and then straight to bed!? Wtf

playtonotlose · 2021-04-27T17:30:06+00:00

I remember reading a comment a while ago that fits here:

This ain't Build-A-Bitch.

Exsqueeze_meh · 2021-04-27T16:28:01+00:00

OMG just this morning my friend showed me a psycho's dissertation from a dating app because she suggested a video chat first thing. He was going on an on and OOOOOOOOON the way these entitled idiots do. You know what she did ... she blocked him mid paragraph 😃 I was so happy to hear that she did that! She just naturally has FDS standards.

oh and he ACTUALLY Said the words "everybody else wants to learn about me apart from you". Paragraphs and paragraphs about how it's NoT LoGIcaL to want to talk on the phone before texting. Oh and "he has a degree in psychology"

I can't imagine having a douche-nozzle like this in my life for on hour, let alone date him.

LadieLemon · 2021-04-27T16:31:55+00:00

I like my girls to be feminine, submissive, cooperating, happy for the opportunities that I create

Translation: I'm a sociopath who hates women! Now let me abuse you, fleshlight.

🤢🤮🖕

She handled it great, though! Block, delete, next 💅

NAthrowaway0613 · 2021-04-27T18:21:39+00:00

My dad always taught me a similar tactic to this. When a man is planning a date, change a small, insignificant detail and watch how he reacts. If he says how about dinner Friday night at 6:30 pm you change something small, like, can we do 6:45? Or I’m unavailable Friday, how about Saturday? You do this during the planning process, before anything is set in stone.

If he melts the fuck down you cancel the date, because it shows he expects you to bend and fit to his schedule no matter what. If he’s cool and accommodating he is at least worthy of a date

MissIncongruousNY · 2021-04-27T16:35:02+00:00

They are out there ladies. I had a similar experience once after telling a man I did not like his first date idea and preferred another location. I got 2 pages of texts from him about how messed up I am and how he is a catch and how I am messing up this great opportunity...oh and I'm crazy and a psycopath.

All because I said "no" to going to some secluded lake where he hides a canoe and no one knows about.

_differentmentality_ · 2021-04-27T17:00:36+00:00

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Chemical-Source-9600 · 2021-04-27T17:51:10+00:00

Apparently asking to go to a different coffee shop for a date means women are masculine... This guy is a piece of work

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-04-27T17:32:54+00:00

He'll be in her DMs, after a few weeks begging for a second chance lol.

freelancepsychic · 2021-04-27T17:10:13+00:00

All the red flags he mentions are about himself lol

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-04-27T17:15:27+00:00

I was about to craft a detailed response to multiple problematic sections of his message, but then decided that there is simply TOO MUCH TO UNPACK here...

So all I'm gonna say is: what a loser 🤣🤣🤣

N2Gen · 2021-04-27T17:24:25+00:00

Happy for the opportunity to have coffee, walk to his pad, be his flashlight, probably not come for a while if at all, find herself in a situationship while he either becomes more unbearable or plays community dick with her health on the line.

Lolz, this motherfucker.

amhran_oiche · 2021-04-27T17:54:00+00:00

He fr was looking for AT MOST a fwb. Of course he likes them submissive. 🙄 What a tool.

Partypuppers · 2021-04-27T16:45:34+00:00

I like her reply lol. That dude is on one.

Protoetype · 2021-04-27T17:32:20+00:00

This is like nightmare stuff to me. I feel smothered really easily in average dating, reading that really disturbs me.. and they're not even dating!

randowordgenerator · 2021-04-27T17:56:48+00:00

This dummy is looking for a sexdoll.

Dense_Cattle · 2021-04-27T18:43:42+00:00

Men will seriously call women entitled and spoiled then expect the full girlfriend experience for exactly 1 $3 cup of coffee.

CatSweets · 2021-04-27T18:03:29+00:00

I saw the post on the nice guys sub and I knew it would appear here sometime 🤭

FDS once again is proven right by men.

Apricot_Ibex · 2021-04-27T18:44:55+00:00

Sounds like their “coffee date” could’ve ended with him dumping her body at a landfill. She’s right- he’s a sociopathic POS and deserves to have his name plastered all over the internet as a warning to other women.

TwirlingSquirrel · 2021-04-27T18:46:00+00:00

“My girls”=no one. What an entitled loser. “Walk to my place”...low effort idiot

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-04-27T20:02:03+00:00

I cringed with each and every word. 🤢

Let’s review our scrote checklist:

Entitlement- Feels affronted that she asked for something else than what he asked for and shows he feels entitled to have his way. CHECK
Negging- calls her “masculine” and bossy, etc. CHECK
Presumptuous- assumes that if she agrees to walk (🤣🤣🤣) to his place, it means she will have sex with him. CHECK
Dangles carrots about a future: IF she hooks up with him, then there “might” be a future together. Barf and CHECK
Narcissistic- Tells her what she needs to be/how to act to “win” him. 🤡 It never occurs to him that he needs to bring good qualities into the relationship as well.
Pursue then retreat pattern- thinks that withdrawing his attention and his time will create anxiety within her and she will will be more likely to do whatever wants and accept bare minimum or less. We see how well that worked out for him.🤣😂CHECK

LVMs and NVMs are so pathetic and predictable.

AnniaT · 2021-04-27T16:55:43+00:00

Typical red pill/PUA/incel scrote.

1Here4Bach · 2021-04-27T17:42:49+00:00

This is the most clear cut example of how red pill “methods” don't work. He got all this stupid shit from red pill. But if the red pill sub saw this they would say, “He got rejected because he didn't implement red pill right!” even though this is EXACTLY how red pill tells men to act.

Red pill really has men out here looking stupid and embarrassing themselves.

alien_alice · 2021-04-27T18:23:42+00:00

What woman would risk passing up the opportunity for a $4 cup of coffee, bad conversation, and an underlying pressure to have sex the whole time? Women these days fr

karabnp · 2021-04-27T18:25:56+00:00

These days, I don’t even bother to respond when such drivel is stated/suggested. I leave them on read for days/weeks, before blocking/unmatching.

If I received that message, it would have given me a solid 2 minute laugh.

Basically, homeboy wants a child/slave as a “girl”. Not an actual adult woman.🥴

WittyImprovement · 2021-04-27T18:34:00+00:00

This guy is not looking for a girlfriend, he wants a subservient yes woman he can control. Good on her for taking the hints and yeeting

missisabelarcher · 2021-04-27T18:58:52+00:00

"Opportunities I create"...? Laughing at the idea of a scrote thinking he's being creative or proactive when it's so laughably low-effort.

Um, yeah...contribute to the cure for cancer, build a socially responsible enterprise that employs and treats workers fairly, help foster animals, volunteer in your community gardens, organize a drive to collect food and supplies for homeless people, making real and meaningful art. Or anything that shows a genuine ability to look beyond your self-interest and create something good in the world without feeling entitled to recognition or ego-stroking in return.

Those are the real opportunities to create, not a shortcut to getting your dick wet. The entitlement and misogyny of this guy is enough to make your ovaries shrivel up from repulsion.

GreatOrchidAmbition · 2021-04-27T18:04:39+00:00

I am actually aghast at the level of delusion this man holds. Tiny pp

SayNad · 2021-04-27T19:23:30+00:00

happy for the opportunities I create

What are you an Apple CEO in disguise or something? What opportunities?

girludontbringhome · 2021-04-27T19:37:00+00:00

change ✍️ the ✍️ date ✍️ location ✍️ and ✍️ see ✍️ how ✍️ he ✍️ reacts ✍️

Waste-Win · 2021-04-27T18:09:43+00:00

It's so sad we live in the same planet as this idiot.

nymira-1 · 2021-04-27T18:19:09+00:00

If he doesn’t take that weak male ego right back to the man*sphere. Also stop calling grown women girls... in less you’re a creep and that’s what’s you’re looking for

Longluck · 2021-04-27T19:42:18+00:00

Any guy who says he wants a submissive girl is just a walking sack of red flags.

Woman_on_Pause · 2021-04-27T18:29:12+00:00

It's as if they are looking for the porn stars they watch. Hmmmm...

SearchLightsInc · 2021-04-27T18:38:37+00:00

Imagine writing that and thinking "She wont be able to resist my ~~asshole~~Alphaness"

Big win scrote! Keep advertising your assertiveness..

deep_faked_beans · 2021-04-27T19:26:34+00:00

I love how his paragraph on 'look what you're missing out on!!!' is really just 'because you won't agree with everything I say, you don't get to be my regular fuck toy, if I felt like it that is'. Also a good idea to bring something like this up casually to see if you get a crazy response like this.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-04-27T17:58:49+00:00

What?? I'm tail end of gen x and I'm honestly baffled by what's happening with men now. It's like they've all gone trailer park in half a generation..

The gross wrinkly married old toads at work aren't complaining though. For the price of a "meh" bistro dinner and a bit of binge drinking in a "meh" hotel lobby they can get banged in a parking lot by an over-awed PickMe half their age while their wives and kids are at a Build-a-Bear birthday party.

donttextme_k · 2021-04-27T18:51:43+00:00

They love telling us they have psychopathic traits without directly telling us

jasmine-blossom · 2021-04-27T19:16:03+00:00

Why do we keep letting these losers remain anonymous? They deserve to have their names and faces accompany their own words.

favoritesound · 2021-04-27T18:20:07+00:00

Submissive, cooperative, and happy for whatever you throw at them? Ah so you're looking for either a broken dog, a person who doesn't think for themselves possibly out of prior trauma, or a person who has low self esteem and/or is desperate.

A moment of silence for whatever girl he ends up marrying.

Your friend handled it well, but I wish she would've laughed at him instead then blocked.

In my experience, the type of man who follows Red Pill theory like this is deeply insecure inside, and often hates themselves. So they put on this controlling, manipulative, borderline abusive facade. Girls who seem independent, they just label as "not girlfriend material" but if you laugh at them, it hits them where it hurts.

Shame is often a more powerful motivator than reason, and sometimes even more powerful than even threats.

goldiebaby · 2021-04-27T19:22:49+00:00

"potentially something good on a regular basis" WTF does that even mean? She gets the privilege of being your fck buddy? Sometimes? When you are horny?

Also, his offer is to have a drink and then hook up right away? The audacity is just amazing!

FreshStarter0 · 2021-04-27T18:28:03+00:00

I love her answer and this attitude is one of my level-up goals. I particularly admire it because I still have a tendency to overexplain myself to men in cases where there is really no point, such as this one. My "programmed" response would be to call him out in a way that is too specific and essentially explaining what he did wrong, which is problematic because I would essentially give him tools to better manipulate the next woman he asks out.

VanessaViews · 2021-04-28T00:20:15+00:00

"happy for the opportunities I create" bahahaha. Like she can't go to a cafe by herself

ciciplum · 2021-04-27T17:15:45+00:00

Absolute insanity that men are really out here thinking this is an acceptable reasonable and "rational" way of communicating. Crazy.

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-04-27T19:21:01+00:00

Since when did being feminine mean just towing the line and going along with whatever the heck the man wants and not having a mind of your own? Oh wait, that's the antiquated version!

Having a mind of your own and having your own opinions and thoughts and feelings about things means you're being masculine?! What a doof!

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-27T19:55:09+00:00

Wow. Tell me you a pathetic small man whose only hope at sex with a woman is finding one that is broken and damaged without telling me you are a pathetic small man.

ketodietclub · 2021-04-27T21:14:31+00:00

"I like girls to be feminine and submissive"

"I want a doormat."

mxmoon · 2021-04-27T19:30:14+00:00

Wow. What a scrote! I went on a date with a (so far) HVM. He suggested we do an activity after dinner, it was physical and I wasn’t in the mood for it. His suggestion was so unexpected that I just started laughing and asked him: “Why?” And he said: “Nevermind. Not doing that!” We laughed it off and had a great first date after that. The man from OP’s post is a psycho.

Human_Summer_1709 · 2021-04-27T23:05:06+00:00

TIL: If you're not willing to prostitute yourself to a complete stranger for around $5, you are disinterested, disrespectful, masculine, and bossy.

angry_opossum_lady · 2021-04-27T19:58:39+00:00

The entitlement is so surreal! Men really treat us like free prostitutes... take his offer, hook up and regularly give him something to stick his shriveled excuse of a dick in, HELL NO! I'm just happy this queen knows her worth and calls him out on his sociopathic bs

i2aminspired · 2021-04-27T21:01:14+00:00

Nobody would miss this dude if he just suddenly disappeared.

2021-04-27T22:24:16+00:00

whaaaaaat.

Redpill red flags being dropped left, right and centre.

The fact that he is projecting so much toxic bullshit is quite funny actually. He thinks he comes across as "alpha" but he is actually a pedant.

Even Jordan Peterson, the manosphere's patron saint, declares that you need to find a woman you can contend with. A woman who challenges you - not some doormat who acquiesces to your demands.

"This trait makes a good wife - you want someone you can contend with"

https://youtu.be/LUZtJHA7DDw

AineofTheWoods · 2021-04-28T00:58:56+00:00

Wow that guy's comment is absolutely awful. He'd be better off dating a sex doll as it sounds like that's all he wants. I recently saw a documentary about how men from the Faroe Islands are going to the Philippines to find wives. At first I thought it was sweet because the documentary said it was due to lack of available women on the islands, but then when the men were interviewed it turned out they were really sexist and old fashioned and wanted wives from the Philippines 'because they cook and clean too' ie they wanted 1950s submissive wives who let them decide everything and put up with everything too. It's depressing that rather than supporting female equality, a lot of men actively seek out women from poorer countries who will forego female equality when marrying them because it's an escape from an even worse situation in their home country.

purasangria · 2021-04-27T20:42:31+00:00

All they have is bad dick and audacity!

"I buy you a drink, and then you have sex with me!" Gross.

kycake · 2021-04-27T22:38:13+00:00

males really don’t even care to hide how predatory and disgusting their preferences are. lmao. though it’s good for us cause we don’t waste our time with them.

Radenoughyet · 2021-04-27T18:37:59+00:00

He thinks he’s somehow entitled to hook up on the first date, after meeting at the coffee shop of his choice

Achange_isagoodone · 2021-04-27T18:50:37+00:00

That man is dangerous like my ex. Good for your friend. Avoid those man at all costs! I’ve learned my lesson and I am grateful I was able to free myself from the toxic person.

secularwitch · 2021-04-27T21:10:24+00:00

"happy for the opportunities I create"

Well, that's a fancy word for "my needs you have to fullfil"

Gourmay · 2021-04-27T18:28:07+00:00

Wow. I wish the narcs I dated had been so forthcoming about wanting this, then again they had a modicum of manners telling them that actually saying stuff like this is inappropriate.

New_Article7411 · 2021-04-27T21:59:01+00:00

He wants a free hooker, but she is "disrespectful and bossy'. Yup sociopath projection. She nailed it.

crapcakes0987 · 2021-04-27T22:42:58+00:00

Jeez, how narcissistic can a person be??? He should be grateful he got any woman to talk to him.

Fitncurly · 2021-04-27T23:39:59+00:00

His nerdy lookin ass needs to take a fuckin seat and think 😂. What he lacks in looks he sure makes up in audacity though!

tgxbjjbbno · 2021-04-28T01:31:31+00:00

The trash took out itself 👏 I’m using this next time!

Dolphin_Moon · 2021-04-28T01:41:08+00:00

jesus christ i am...actually laughing. who is this guy lmao. glad he showed his true colors

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-04-27T18:54:58+00:00

I may listen to too much true crime, but I’d be kind of worried he that he had criminal intentions if he was so adamant about going to that particular business. I mean this beyond him just being a controlling freak. Lol.

Hopefully987 · 2021-04-27T18:03:21+00:00

I actually had a scrote IM me on here when I was talking about giving up on OLD asking ne if I'm not chubby and if I'm cooperative. Blocked.

bitch_not_it · 2021-04-27T21:28:20+00:00

Why doesn't he buy one of those Real Dolls and just shut the fuck up

cece188 · 2021-04-28T01:42:41+00:00

“Potential for future power struggles” these men genuinely talk about women like they’re toddlers, or even dogs. Absolutely disgusting

Ancient-Cucumber · 2021-04-27T20:02:41+00:00

Well, if a girl suggests a different place for a coffee, she obviously is Hitler or Mao Zedong or something. Better run away from that dictator asap!

eveloe · 2021-04-27T21:27:51+00:00

I would say “yes, great, see you there”

“I’m five minutes away! Order me the mimosa 😘”

Then ghost. All from the comfort of my sofa. No booty cometh.

lessadessa · 2021-04-27T19:23:03+00:00

Wow, I gagged.

Attributum · 2021-04-27T21:01:30+00:00

What the fuck-a-di-fuck-fuck!

I am sure that is a pick-up-artist. He is doing this with clear intention of manipulation. 100%

TriniGold · 2021-04-27T22:07:40+00:00

Sociopathic af. For real.

xsweaterxweatherx · 2021-04-28T00:19:08+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA WHAT THE FUCK who would outright admit those things?!

ceilingkatwatchesus · 2021-04-28T05:02:14+00:00

His whole disseration screams, Small dick energy!! ahahahhahahhahah whoever in their right mind would agree with this guy is a lost cause.

Half_Halt · 2021-04-27T22:22:42+00:00

Not gonna lie. I want to date her now & I'm a heterosexual woman. 🙌🙌

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-04-27T23:57:43+00:00

This sounds exactly like my ex. Couldn’t say “sorry I’m busy, can’t go for lunch today” or if my “yes” wasn’t enthusiastic enough ooof I’d better watch out. Glad I dipped out of that one.

laffytaggy · 2021-04-27T21:05:50+00:00

Lol i LOOOVE her response

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-04-28T00:27:42+00:00

And what site is this on?! Yikes!

stripesonthecouch · 2021-04-28T01:01:41+00:00

Wow just straight up saying he’s looking for a submissive woman... at least he’s honest lol! Allowed her to not waste any time with him haha

laffytaggy · 2021-04-28T03:10:26+00:00

I just saw a profile of a 32 year old that said the person he quotes the most is Kevin Samuels and he hopes we “know how a woman should treat a man”. This guy has no degree and no job listed. Lol

vintagexrose · 2021-04-28T03:33:05+00:00

Dear god, ew.... that girl dodged a bullet.

badbadnotbueno · 2021-04-28T04:08:59+00:00

This is literally something Dennis (from always sunny in Philadelphia) would say 😂😳

GeorgiaPeach_94 · 2021-04-28T04:46:11+00:00

I'm just here scrolling through the comments and I have no words to express how much I adore you all. Finding this sub full of amazing Queens is one of the best things that ever happened to me!

savedempath · 2021-04-28T04:55:39+00:00

Thats the manosphere talking lol. Its great on YouTube, doesn't help you get dates lol.

little_sparrow152 · 2021-04-28T10:07:54+00:00

That's a lot of words to say "hey, how DARE you to not blindly agree to whatever i say! Your wishes and needs should be MY wishes and needs! Shame on you!"

Like... what a way expose how incapable of any sort of conflict or consideration you are. If he's like this, RUN! If he can't even deal with you wanting a different date, how will he react if you disagree bout big things? How will he react if you eventually turn out to have different opinions, and different interests?? Sociopath is pretty on point.

Honestly, wtf. Astonishing how many men out there are exactly like this, mistaking any sort of agency or just... trace of having a life apart from them as "unfeminine" and unattractive. how delusional do you have to be?

Rowbloks · 2021-04-28T10:31:27+00:00

Him: "the kind of girl I want would be happy for the opportunities I create"

Also him: only creates opportunities to go to crappy cafes that his date doesn't like while expecting her to sleep with him on the first date so that they can possibly maybe later have not even a relationship but sOmeTHing GoOD rEgulARILY

That's a lot of words to say "my cheap ass wants a fwb aka free prostitute" lol what a pathetic scrote

The trash really took itself out on this one

myeggsarebig · 2021-04-28T12:28:58+00:00

They really have no problem saying it out loud like it’s 1920.

sleepykittn · 2021-06-03T18:50:13+00:00

Tendency to be masculine 🤔like...a human🤡

seashellsupplier · 2021-04-28T07:13:42+00:00

He‘s not even looking for a relationship? Just a fwb-deal. And he‘s dumb enough to say that out loud. But some pick-me will come along and think they can change him.

Charming-Bee-2337 · 2021-04-28T02:19:07+00:00

To be completely honest, Id be sketched out if my dad told me this like.. yeah you know that because you did it or were like that??? Idk who even thinks of that. But good thing to know

maskwearingbitch2020 · 2021-04-28T02:53:19+00:00

This left me speechless & that NEVER happens. Is this guy for real?

glittersparkles212 · 2021-04-28T02:55:59+00:00

SuBmIsSiVe 🥴

2021-04-28T03:21:08+00:00

JESUS

NikiBubbles · 2021-04-28T06:12:53+00:00

"I like my girls (!) to be submissive (!!!)" -- can we just banish freaks who say crap like that from society?

aenema46n2 · 2021-04-28T07:28:06+00:00

Ugh he's looking for a pickme doormat to manipulate, control and abuse. Boy bye!!

I love her response to this clown🤡

Onextto0 · 2021-04-28T07:53:18+00:00

What the fuck.

gravedestruct1on · 2021-04-28T18:15:22+00:00

He looks like a turtle, I can’t

Title	(Not my post) but my own dad told me to use this strategy to weed out the losers, and here it is working!
Author	SmallBunny0
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Comments	345
Date	April 27, 2021 4:15 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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