LVM who get off on humiliating women during sex tend to have low-value, misogynistic energy that translates to other areas of their lives as well. For this reason, you should be weary of LVM into rough sex, BDSM, and the like. His contempt towards women usually doesn't stop there.

Here are some red flag fetishes. Watch out if you meet a LVM into

  • gainers (force feeding women to gain weight)
  • BDSM
  • 50 Shades of Gray
  • ethnic fetishization
  • step-sibling porn
  • large age gaps
  • into artificial enhancements like breast implants, butt implants, lingerie, and lip filler
  • latex/leather fetish
  • rough sex/jackhammering
  • doesn't kiss
  • thinks deepthroating is normal
  • thinks having sex in a car is normal
  • talks about "squiriting", making women "squirt"
  • teacher/student roleplay
  • has a signature move he thinks works on every woman in the universe (generalizes women)
  • slapping, choking, spitting, violence of any kind.
  • wants to come on your face or in your mouth
  • weird preoccupation with his own semen
  • is into sleeping/drunk sex (this is rape)
  • preoccupation with blowjobs
  • anal sex
  • prefers taking an inactive role and you doing all the work (usually an indication of low energy and low effort)
  • thinks giving oral sex is gross
  • into threesomes/orgies
  • preoccupation with lesbian porn (thinks of women as sex objects)
  • into voyeurism, exhibitionism, public flashing and groping in public
  • would rather sext than put effort into courting
  • believes the porn look can exist in real life

Bonus: If he doesn't understand how periods, STDs, condoms, sexual health, or pregnancy work, drop him now and never look back.

  • All of these themes involve the domination, objectification, degradation, and subordination of women. Try to find a man who is crazy about giving you pleasure, giving you head, and making love if you can.
  • Even better if he says "making love" instead of "fucking". Someone old fashioned and who truly loves you is going to be a better partner than someone who is pornsick or self-describes as kinky, adventurous, out-there or wild. These are code words for "I enjoy degrading women and calling it a part of my sexuality because it's socially acceptable that way".
  • If he isn't about to get pegged or swallow his own semen, why would you do it? LVM get off when they see women doing things they would consider humiliating for a man to do. Fuck that, prioritize your own pleasure in bed. and don't do anything you don't want do. That's what the vast majority of men do anyway, while giving no shits as to whether the woman orgasms.

LVM these days are out here in whole-ass relationships just jackhammering their gfs who think they're in love and think that their bfs are just subpar lovers, instead of seeing the LVM are literally not serious about them.

These LVM say "I love you" while refusing to reciprocate head and doing a five minute jackhammer sesh with the gf every night. Do they really love their gfs? No. They're with them for convenience sake and get off on degrading them in the bedroom. Why else wouldn't they care if their gf orgasms? It's a fake-ass relationship for his convenience. Men find it preferable to be with a placeholder or starter gf rather than be single for the convenient sex.

It is a lie and a myth that sex is more emotional for women than men. Men are extremely influenced by their emotions. A man who is in love with you and gives a shit about you is a completely different experience from one who sees you as a sex object is lukewarm about you. Take a moment to consider, is he really shit in bed? Or is he not even into me and half-assing the rest of the relationship too? His laziness, selfishness, and lack of effort in bed are usually symptoms of a much bigger issue in the relationship, not just a sign that he is shit in bed.

You can definitely gauge how a man really feels about you through how he treats you in the bedroom. Nothing can make up for being treated with genuine passion and love. There is a difference, you can tell who is looking to spin plates and "pump and dump" and who is looking to LTR you by how they are intimately. You can even sense an impending breakup when your bf starts getting lax about pleasing you.

feel free to add to this list if I've missed anything.

For more on how warped current sex norms are, see our #KickHimOut2020 post.