Please don’t try to pick up people at their jobs

ExistentialJelly · 2021-11-09T02:18:23+00:00

I hate when men hit on me at my work. I can't just walk away because I can't abandon my post and I can't lose it on them because " customer service".

And they NEVER take it seriously when I decline, say I'm married, or have a fricken wedding ring on. It's a challenge to them and I'm literally a captive audience.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-11-09T01:07:57+00:00

When I worked at a major department store, it made me really uncomfortable when strangers would ask me out. In the worst case scenario, they know where I work! It’s so invasive, and adds an extra layer of discomfort when we aren’t interested. Yeah, yeah, scrotes are gonna say they ain’t like that. How am I to know, especially when they lack to sense to realize their actions are cornering me?

The scrote who thinks OC should keep going to the same pharmacy is an example of why some women are so wary of men.

Waste-Win · 2021-11-09T14:05:35+00:00

Fun story time: I discoraged some man on the dating sub about asking out the waitress of his favorite cafe. Nedless to say I got downvoted, everyone was like "shoot your shots", but please, don't make the poor girl unconfortable on her workplace.

His excuse was that "she was always nice", like that's not part of her job.

kolsen92 · 2021-11-09T12:27:02+00:00

So stalking and intimidating someone at their job is now a power move

Ok-Performance5997 · 2021-11-09T04:14:32+00:00

Lol lol the second guy blames online dating for the pharmacist turning him down? Bro she didn’t like you!!! The absolute delusion 😅

AnniaT · 2021-11-09T11:11:18+00:00

The second one blaming online dating for women not wanted to be picked up by strangers at work. Wtf. Since before the online dating times that being picked up at work by strangers is embarrassing and creepy.

plomerst · 2021-11-09T12:49:35+00:00

I’m an attorney and I went to the local jail to visit with a former client. Another inmate asked me out…the delusion!

polardonut · 2021-11-09T13:02:33+00:00

Jeez that woman with "best work I've ever seen" is absolutely delusional.

"Can u pls help me msg the girl I like 🤪🤪🤪"

Gross af. And the camera thing... 🤢

Love how we r to blame for their shitty advances when we were just minding our business. Like sorry, it's a work place, not some speed dating bs, pls act accordingly.

MadamePotpourri · 2021-11-09T02:27:31+00:00

Men are delusional and will mistake a female employee's kindness as attraction. They actually convince themselves that the woman at the checkout counter is nice to him because she likes him rather than its just her job to be nice.

When I was around 22, I had an ugly man who was probably in his 30's give me his number while I was a cashier at a store. He looked so proud of himself and confident lol, he even used my pen to write his number down. Absolutely delusional. After he left I immediately threw it in the trash.

scorchedsouI · 2021-11-09T04:47:18+00:00

"Power move would have been to keep going back to remind her"

Look how upvoted this vindictive little comment is. Males may be scary, but they're more so spineless and pathetic. Remind her of what? Ah, that one time she rejected some loser while she was working? Does he think he's special in that regard? Women reject men all the time.

bonghits4jess · 2021-11-09T03:57:57+00:00

When I was in college I worked at a fast food restaurant on campus which meant serving drunk ass college students. It was the worst. I remember one guy asking for my number and I said no. He refused to move and was holding up the line. My manager yelled at ME asking why I was taking so long with the customer and I said he wouldn’t move. So this man moves off to the side and takes out his phone and just holds it out for me to put my number in it. He stood there for a good 15 minutes insisting that I give him my number so he could take me out some time. I’m ignoring him taking orders, that line was out the door from 8pm to 3am on a Saturdays so I definitely did not have time for his shit. I hated cleaning tables because that’s when men would ask for my number. like dude I’m here getting paid shit wages to clean up after your drunk ass, smelling like fry grease and covered in food, and you think this is the perfect time to flirt with me? I have always been so protective of my job and not doing anything to risk it, not even the slightest whisper of me doing something inappropriate while on the clock. I hate that men think it’s an appropriate situation to hit on women. It just says how low their values and ambitions are—they’re willing to lose their job or jeopardize mine to get laid. A married manager at this same job would always flirt with me too. So would my male coworkers, they’d flirt with me & every other girl who worked there. Why are men?

2021-11-09T12:20:50+00:00

The whole time I bartended I had a pretend boyfriend, except for 6 months when I had a real one. It was the only way to get customers to understand “power moves” like the one suggested above aren’t going to work.

HottPinkSlug · 2021-11-09T02:37:05+00:00

I don't understand. She turned him down because online dating has made people weird? Entitlement

curlyhaiir · 2021-11-09T14:25:55+00:00

Oh god, I used to work for a very big super market chain in a city with lots of Moroccans (I am moroccan as well). So yeah, many moroccan men tried to flirt with me or get to know me. One time I was helping this guy - and suddenly he was like „I would like to get to know you, halal and everything, so we can marry“ in a span of 5 mins and I was like „I am not interested“ and then he was like „so which shampoo is better?“ and I nearly died inside 💀 it was embarrassing. He came by so often just to talk to me… like sir you are 10-15 years older than me and I already rejected you.. what else do you want from me? I’m just trying to do my job.

CandidKick · 2021-11-09T17:18:55+00:00

Was stalked at work. I was very young and couldn’t afford to quit. Kept evidence in case he murdered me so they knew who did it.

Sick of men trying to ‘own’ women who say no. We have a right to tell men no without men trying to punish us or behave as if a ‘no’ is an act of forfeiting our safety, security or lives.

Any man who tries to make women pay for rejecting them are vile.

aenema46n2 · 2021-11-09T01:42:49+00:00

So I took on another job in the food service industry after the pandemic hit. This happened to me recently from a male coworker at my job. However he literally started it with a neg. I was walking toward one of our refrigerators to unload something, he was standing in the door way. He makes eye contact with me and asks 'Are you ok?' I said 'yes why?'.. proceeds to tell me 'because you look tired'. I don't know about any of you but to be told you 'look tired' especially by someone you don't know is one of the rudest things in my opinion. No one wants to hear that, especially when you aren't. I also take impeccable care of my skin as I am also an Esthetician. So to me immediately this was a neg off the bat. This same scrote had earlier asked me a bunch of invasive questions (am I single, do I have kids, etc - so I knew there was an underlying interest on his part there). I immediately respond to his neg calling him out telling him he is straight rude and didn't entertain it any further. His eyes widened as I don't think he was expecting my response. A few moments later he proceeds to ask me out, not on a date but to 'hangout sometime'🤮. I shut that down as well. The next day another male coworker asked me if said scrote had invited me out to their dinner. I said no he asked me to 'hangout some time'. He said 'oh i thought he was going to ask you out to our dinner group last night'. When i asked who went it was ALL men from my department. So I would have been the only woman, and it would have been past 10pm when they all got off and went out. Tell me that doesn't creep you out! I would never go out with ANY man from work, but especially this job I feel like I'm in a mens locker room half the time. Most are absolutely repulsive with comments I have had to put up with.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-11-09T17:57:52+00:00

oh, the entitlement. they really cannot comprehend that there are women who would not date them. at all.

they still live in this fantasy world where there is "a wife for every man" bullshit. they just act like the spoiled kid that has been told " no, Timmy, you cannot have the blue balloon."

Timmy still screams for the blue balloon hours later.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2021-11-09T05:46:25+00:00

I worked in a department store selling bathing suits in the women’s section in the summer. In the winter, it was sweaters. No one bothered me in the winter yet but scrotes were constantly asking for my number in the summer. They’d even have the nerve to call the department store and ask to be connected to my department, then tell me they’d seen me on my way to the men’s shoe section.

Uhm, so? What makes them think that they saw me standing in an area with sexy swimsuits, I’m available to date any scrote who walks past?! Go away, Brad!

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2021-11-09T02:11:59+00:00

Cringeee. A boy did that to me in HIGH SCHOOL. I'd die of second hand embarrassment if an adult tried that.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-11-09T08:48:42+00:00

"Power move"? No, that's just harassment.

mothboon · 2021-11-09T16:58:14+00:00

I remember back when I was a cashier at a super market, I was constantly getting harassed. The worst was when off-shore workers would come in by the busloads on Friday night and fill my line. Almost every single one of them would blatantly hit on me ( I was always express lane) so it was every 2 minutes or so someone new would take their shot. It was awful!

I voiced my concerns about it to my supervisor all the time, but they told me and other cashiers that there was nothing they could do. I even told them that some men hang around the grocery store after we close and wait for some of us to harass as we're leaving at night.

I don't know if things have got better over the years ( this was almost 15 years ago ) but it's made me never want to be a cashier ever again as I'm working up the courage to return to work after being a stay at home mom. Reading what others are saying here really seems like things haven't got better at all, which is truly terrifying.

Maybe I'll just try to get a job somewhere with only women and no customer involvement whatsoever 🤷🤔 because f that noise.

Determinedblonde · 2021-11-09T08:21:23+00:00

He changed pharmacies…wow. 😐

eatapeach18 · 2021-11-09T19:35:44+00:00

When I worked as a server and bartender, I absolutely LOVED it when customers would ask me out. I’d say yes, hype them up for the duration of their visit, make a couple sarcastic and/or flirtatious jokes, they’d tip me 30% or better, and then I’d ghost them 💁🏽‍♀️

I know it’s different when you don’t work for tips though. I’m a nurse now and when middle aged able-bodied men would ask for my number, try to grope me, or ask for bed baths, I just call and tell their wives 🤷🏽‍♀️

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-09T19:44:48+00:00

“Online dating fault “ no. You are just a nasty scrote molesting a young woman in her workplace

frafot7 · 2021-11-09T22:22:27+00:00

I worked at a popular ice cream place that had a lot of regulars. One of the regular couples would regularly proposition me and a coworker for a threesome. It was so gross and completely uncalled for- he would often say he came in for something sweet and settled for the ice cream instead 🤢

haggis_rising · 2021-11-09T21:00:22+00:00

I used to work in a petrol station when I was a teenager. I remember one time a guy came in and was like, "Can my mate get your number? He thinks you're hot." Somehow this freak didn't think seeing what a suitor looks like is necessary. He looked genuinely shocked when I said no. Hated working in that place. Would get harassed by weird men all the time, usually when my older coworker was having a "cheeky cigarette break" 🙄

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-11-09T11:24:47+00:00

I think it's fine to strike up a simple convo about something work related and gauge the woman's reaction. Over time you might return and see if the woman seems interested in you (I met a hvm through work once, but it was gradual, and I think he could tell I was clearly into him. After about 3 months He asked me out and I said yes--there were no cheesy pick up tricks involved).

Colour_riot · 2021-11-11T17:17:10+00:00

lmao at the guy who tried to blame his rejection on online dating. He wouldn't even had a chance to slide her anything on online dating.