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[–]Hampered-SirenFDS Newbie153 points154 points155 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I LOVE THIS!! Reason I am no longer with exboyfriend. I was very stressed out about teenage son and actually had to ASK for some comforting words to feel better. His response, "Well, I have never been very good with words." Seriously, you couldn't think of anything to say or even just giving a hug? Good riddance! Yes there are basics and if you have to ask a grown adult man for them, it is beneath you!!
[–]janeisnotgross49 points50 points51 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you!!!! I always thought I was the crazy needy one!!!!
[–]jewdy09Pickmeisha™️53 points54 points55 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you ask for what you need and are satisfied when it’s given, how is that needy? That’s just being good at recognizing your emotional needs and communicating them effectively.
If you huff and puff around the house and act like an asshole because you expect your partner to just intuitively know when you need emotional support and then get mad when you don’t get it, then you are needy.
[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All they want is for you to shut up and go back to focusing all your attention on them and their issues.
[–]XHelheimXFDS Apprentice122 points123 points124 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
The whole im busy thing is just his way of saying you aren’t a priority until I’m horny and I’ll hit you up when I want female attention.
It’s such a small thing but if a guy won’t make time for you or cancels plans more than just once then he just doesn’t care. Just move on.
[–]nenindisFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wish someone had told me this back in the day, really. I used to put up with so many canceled plans. Even when my friends would say "He's cancelled so much on you!", I would still try to think that, maybe, nothing is wrong. Glad to say I am in a better place now.
[–]mimibrightzolaFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
this type of shit makes me so mad because I was that girl who entertained guys like that who would step over me like a doormat. smh never again
[–]XHelheimXFDS Apprentice20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s such a hard truth that a lot of women willfully ignore and play it off like these dudes are really that busy all the time. Yeah he’s busy, busy talking to other females and meeting up with them, busy hanging out with his boys or doing other things for entertainment. So many women fall into the trap of being a side piece instead of the main one and don’t realize it. Not to mention that guys will keep a chicks number for months or years as a backup plan and just hit u up outta the blue. Ladies you know them dudes. You all had some dude hit you up from way back in the day the moment they hear you’re single again or just randomly when they need that female attention. Men are emotional vampires too. It isn’t just about sex it’s also the reverse friendzone where they aren’t really serious about anything with these girls but needing their ego stroked.
[–]ComfortableHead3FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So much truth here it hurts.
[–]turquoisebluesFDS Disciple14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This comment is so good that I saved it.
[–]XHelheimXFDS Apprentice25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It’s the unfortunate truth but everyone has time for people and things they’ve made a priority. If he only hit you up and wants to spend time on his schedule then he really doesn’t care.
[–]turquoisebluesFDS Disciple7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup, exactly.
[–]youcantucanFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
well, ouch, but you're right
[–]PicklesNBaconFDS Apprentice177 points178 points179 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
This! I’ve been waiting for a dude to text me back to tell me when HE is available to see ME.
Fuck that.
[–]jewdy09Pickmeisha™️47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Delete his number and all your call and text history so you aren’t tempted to contact him again. I find this very helpful because I will text eventually even if it’s just to yell at them.
[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When you feel the urge to call, get a notebook and write out what you want to say. Much more productive than giving some loser attention. Or ammo for talking shit about how crazy you are. 😒
[–]tvlu123Throwaway Account6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I love this! The guy in question has absolutely no problems texting me all the time but making plans? He’s “too busy” I’ve been chasing after him trying to spend time together and it’s just left me feeling like a looser...I will definitely be doing this now- thanks 😊
[–]Wiggy_BopFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It really, REALLY helps!
[–][deleted] 52 points53 points54 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Just tell yourself never again and you’ll know better next time. You better than that.
[–]PicklesNBaconFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks! And that’s the thing...I AM better than that.
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
💯💯💯
[–]indeeliriumFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
SAMEEEEE. Needed this today.
[–]pokersnobFDS Disciple83 points84 points85 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Last year I had a guy wait 3 days to clarify a text he sent me. When hw said he was busy and would call me back I said ok. By day 3 I saw that he didnt call, I kindly text him "delete my number" he called me back, I pushed him to voicemail, no voicemail. No call from a different number. No showing up at my door. No facebook message. Decided that Im way better off without him and moved right along.
[–][deleted] 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Fuuuuuckk I needed to see this today.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Me too! I was happy before I let the ex weasel his way back in and within no time, he was back to his old ways. I texted him and said I don’t have time for this anymore. Haven’t heard back and am not bothered at all at this point. Enough is enough.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Been texting my ex too. Pathetic of me. Time to cut it off. Again...
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[–]PieOfMineFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This! Had a long conversation with my friend about her bf, about how she doesn’t need him but wants him to want her and wants him to care even though she’s talked to him multiple times over... Excuse. Me!
EDIT: He dumped her. Of course.
[–]NorthrnSwedeFDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YES. If being a behaving like a decent human being is a special ask, please stay the f away from me.
[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Don’t be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards.”
[–]mmerrill45017 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I needed to see this today. Have had a one sided friendship for far too long. Never had time to spend with me but never had a problem asking for favors. Stepped all over my feelings without a thought. Time to find better friends.
[–]EllieBellie222FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For me this applies to the people at work. They are nasty, vicious mean girls. I had to learn to not let them bother me.
And in a relationship should I ever be in one again, hell no. Not gonna happen.
[–]lolumadbr0FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Goddamnit this is what I needed to hear.
Now to block his number.
[–]penelaine6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks! I needed to read this.
[–]BadWolfDVM5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Needed to read this today. Thank you!
[–]MonicaLSolisFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love this
[–]cannedboelynFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Literally was waiting for a guy to message me on Facebook who I knew was ignoring me. Why do I keep doing this to myself
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[–]bunnyhouseinyoursoul0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel this post in my soul. Me, too sister. I had to go dig up this song again because fuck that guy. Betty Blowtorch- Love/Hate Lyrics Maybe it will help you too.
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
[–]turquoisebluesFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I love the “I’m Dat Feminist” IG.
[–]HockeyBasicsFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This 🙌
[–]PerpetuallyPonderous2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wise Words, wish I had always respected myself enough to demand no less.
[–]circescircusFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
The root cause of this behavior is that women are conditioned to seek male validation, while they are simultaneously conditioned to be averse to self-validation.
The women who need to read and absorb this message, are too busy lying to themselves. They'll focus on the small, meaningless "nice" things the guy said or did, the "potential", and they won't see themselves in the real situation they are in, so they won't think this message is for them. Denial. Or if the relationship is more explicitly toxic, they'll just ignore the message because they are addicted to the highs of their situationship. Really loser pickmeishas would personally attack the woman who delivered the message, or they'll try to find some way to intentionally misinterpret her.
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