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[–]gendpurrFDS Newbie239 points240 points241 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
i wish. working customer service i had so many handsy customers, and if i did anything but stand and smile i would've lost my job. part of why i left. fucking awful
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[–]gendpurrFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yep. when i left i would cry everytime i had to go to work, and i kept visine on me so i could cry in the bathroom on my breaks, put in eye drops, and act like nothing happened, lol. And that was pretty common. it's the most exhausting, demeaning, dehumanizing job i have ever worked.
[–]AlextheAnalystPickmeisha™️58 points59 points60 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good grief, I thought my reception jobs were bad - we always had these awful clients who would chat us up and we basically had to sit there smiling and flirting so that their silly little egos could keep believing that they really were that attractive. I used to just smile politely, I couldn't bring myself to trade flirty banter with them.
But smiling while being groped is a hard no*. I had a very handsy manager once. I think I was the only one who told him straight to his face that he'd better back up. He hated it. He tried to convince me that it would affect my performance review. (Uh, no Colin, my job title is not "your personal touchy doll", so how would it?) He would grope all of the women, but there was one woman in particular who got it really bad from him. He would OPENLY fondle her as often as he could, and she told the rest of us that she wished he would stop - but whenever he was doing it, she'd turn into a statue and say nothing. Eventually she was driven into a corner and had to tell him to stop. The next day he reported her for "violating a policy."
*(For clarity, that doesn't mean I blame you for being in that position. We can't always control the circumstances.)
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[–]AlextheAnalystPickmeisha™️11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, he was the most entitled creep I'd ever seen, always trying to claim other people's belongings and bodies as his own. At first my friend and I used to hang out with him, and he would CONSTANTLY tell us these stories about how he was falsely accused of "being inappropriate" toward someone, or how his hand "accidentally" got pinned just beneath some woman's breast. So we started to purposefully observe him, and we realised that he absolutely was molesting people. He would stand a ruler's length away from the men when talking at their desks, but when talking to women, he'd drape his body over theirs. He was also accused of groping a woman at the office who had become ill and fallen down unconscious. It also became clear that he had a preference - women who fit a certain "type" of beauty. We were so appalled that we'd ever given him the time of day.
As to your sincere hope, well I can't say. I left that cesspit of a company, and I don't know where he is now. But let's be honest about this misogynistic dystopia we live in - he is unlikely to have faced any consequences to this day, isn't he?
[–]tiavargaFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was a Flight Attendant and when a passenger grabbed my hip, I had to defend myself to my airline for yelling at him for it. I almost lost my job because I dared to protest when a passenger groped me. It was the main reason I left that industry.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a cashier in a bar, I literally had a man put his face on my boobs once. But of course the poor thing is innocent, he was just celebrating because his team scored a goal! 🙄 Best thing I did was leave that place. I'd rather be unemployed than deal with that again
[–]_fuyumiFDS Newbie174 points175 points176 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
After #metoo took off all the LVM complained "oh so we can't even talk to women anymore?" That's correct. With that attitude, you're exactly the kind of person we don't want talking to us.
[–]yggiwtmiihFDS Newbie[S] 82 points83 points84 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
If a man can't tell when he's making another person uncomfortable then there's a much deeper issue beyond him not getting to "talk" to women.
[–]InayahDaneenFDS Newbie43 points44 points45 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anytime I hear a guy say that, I try to avoid him as best as I could. He’s likely the red pill type lvm. Don’t want anything to do with them.
[–][deleted] 31 points32 points33 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
A bit before (or really earlt into...i cant recall) the pandemic broke out, there were two foreign girls who asked my boyfriend a few questions cause they needed help. He helped them and actually wanted to offer to drive them back home with the groceries so they didn't have to carry it. He ended up not doing it because he knows that might freak them out a lot and it also seems weird to get in the car with a man they don't know. Any man that doesn't understand that women dislike certain interactions/comments is exactly the type of man most women avoid.
[–]royaldetourFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And they say this because any time they deign to talk to a subhuman female, its to curry sexual favors. Period. Keep telling on yourself, scrote.
[–]soundslikeautumnFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agree 100%
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist65 points66 points67 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Male sexual assaulters were saying the same manipulative bullshit 20 years ago, 40 years ago, 60 years ago, 80 years ago... Same lies, new gen.
[–]wayward_womanFDS Apprentice47 points48 points49 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Preach!
[–]vagabond-playingFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it's just there are more women willing to speak up about those issues, and thank God for that
[–]NineOneNineOneNineFDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I believe it to be imperative that we integrate workplace sexual harassment information into middle and early high school education.
Both young women and their counterpart can start working with adults at age fifteen with little direction or recourse in dealing with unwanted advances and sexual pressure to keep their jobs.
It took me decades to realize that most of the jobs I held as a young person involved sexual harassment. Instead of making a complaint, I would always either let it happen or quit without notice. It became my ‘normal.’
[–]yggiwtmiihFDS Newbie[S] 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We do need a cultural initiative. I often think emotional intelligence classes should be compulsory in schools to learn empathy, boundaries, and healthy coping mechanisms. I think it's important, considering levels of depression and anxiety have been increasing in our younger generations.
[–]verusckaFDS Disciple10 points11 points12 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes!!! The only thing that’s different is the law. We don’t have to silently put up with harassment like our mothers and grandmothers did.
[–]i_poop_so_much9010204 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is so true! Great way to word it
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We don’t have to
We would like to think that but I was at a job for over two years temping and felt I had no voice and that I would lose my job due to the supervisor's smutty mouth. At the time I was working on my masters and it was so difficult finding a job willing to work around my schedule..so I put up with it. Looking back that entire department was filled with men and was just shit, absolute shit. They even called and asked me to come back to that shithole after being gone for over a year. It was a useless position, no talk of being stable, and no talk of a raise. Fuck that and those whining, bitchy men. I hope that building blows up.
[–]LondonDaPinkFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm trying to figure out in what world is she living in that women aren't still losing their jobs (and possibly their reputations and their lives) for speaking out against sex crimes that happen to us? The sentiment is great but I think she's a bit out of touch.
[–]yggiwtmiihFDS Newbie[S] 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I agree, but I felt this was more a statement about scrotes carrying on about how they "no longer feel safe" interacting with women, while being totally oblivious to the fact that they should never have been treating us inappropriately in the first place, especially in the workplace.
[–]LondonDaPinkFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I understand that but her words can be used against all of us. To give them the chance to say 'see, they don't lose their jobs when a creep does x to them so why didn't they report it sooner' and absolve males from their wrongdoings. I just feel like we need to be careful how we approach these things.
[–]yggiwtmiihFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That makes sense.
[–]nutritionloverFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I want this posted everywhere
[–]HornetKickFDS Newbie-1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a Director once who would kiss women on the cheek when he greeted them. It was a while ago, over 15ish years. I hope he's dead.
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