Still trying to figure out if the relationship I have with my therapist is normal or not

19 points45 commentssubmitted by chosenhell to r/TalkTherapy

Me and my therapist bonded a lot, we love eachother and said so in a friendly way, but I also have romantic feelings towards him that I haven't disclosed yet (but I think he knows by the way I act with him). This being said, I have a few questions:

•Do you and your therapist ever text casually? I mean the "hey how are you doing?" kind of texts. If so, who initiates the conversation?

•Do you ever share memes or funny pictures?

•Have you ever sent selfies?

•How much does your therapist disclose about himself/herself?

•During sessions how much do you talk about stuff that's not related to therapy?

•Has he/she ever set boundaries on something related to transference? or anything that he/she thought it wasn't appropriate?

•Has he/she ever said it was ok seeing you outside therapy (on purpose, but not like a date)?

I don't think I can just ask him "hey is this normal?" and I felt the need to relate to people who are doing therapy like me. I don't know if this is relevant but I have BPD and I'm doing individual DBT.