The MYTH of The Older Man: Older men have no interest in being your “mentor” or teaching you anything.

GemstoneLucia · 2019-10-17T18:58:49+00:00

Mine is a bit older than me, but this is key: he is not old enough he could be my dad. For me personally, there is a giant difference between “old enough to be an older brother” and “old enough to have been your dad.”

The other green flags with him specially were:

He absolutely did not seek out younger women in any way, he did not want to be a mentor, and he actually expressed early on he was cautious as I was a little younger than usual and he didn’t want to be that guy. Also, he said he cared about making sure we had things in common in spite of the age difference. It’s a good sign if having things in common is important to him. Fortunately we do, but both of us felt this was a situation where we happen to like each other but didn’t fetishize age.

Another green flag is that I was over 30 when we met, so he isn’t one of those manosphere dudes who only mean “age 21” for “younger” and he says, like most mature normal men, that women 20 years younger than him would be too annoying as partners because of their different life stage.

He also in no way sees himself as some sort of teacher to me.

I fully agree to be very wary of any guy who specially seeks out younger women and wants to “mentor” and guide them.

LoveFooles · 2019-10-17T21:36:23+00:00

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https://www.removeddit.com/r/GenderCritical/comments/dj7pop/older_men_have_no_interest_in_being_your_mentor/

Title	The MYTH of The Older Man: Older men have no interest in being your “mentor” or teaching you anything.
Author	TheOGJammies
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Date	October 17, 2019 5:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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