This is horrible. If dating is hard in my mid-20s what is it going to be like when I’m 30?

understatedalways · 2021-02-13T00:26:35+00:00

Dating is actually better in my 30s than in my 20s. Since I’m more stringent with my requirements and take no shit anymore, it’s easier to sift seamlessly through the LVM to find high value men. I also look hotter now than I did in my 20s and have much more money. 30s are great!

coldfoot23 · 2021-02-13T00:54:16+00:00

Friendly reminder that we have laws in place to prevent from marrying children because of males.

Forwardgash · 2021-02-13T00:44:34+00:00

Why do men who make these types of videos always look like different species of fish? Like ok sir you look like you belong in Bikini Bottom, please do not.

LevelTurbulent · 2021-02-13T00:45:44+00:00

And they're so confused why so many young women don't want to get married. Well shit, they hate women over 35 and call them completely useless and unloveable so right off the bat, if a 20 year old girl marries one of them she knows that she only has 15 years to build her family and after that 15 year investment, she's thrown out like total dogshit with her minor children she still has to support because they now see her as worthless.

Who the fuck would sign up for that?! And women crying about not getting married young and "missing their chance" What fucking chance? The chance to get used and invest in a fake marriage so you can get thrown out like garbage and he can fuck teenagers while you're still trying to raise his children?

Fuck that noise. These men need to be avoided at all costs. They are no good for anyone, especially not the children they're trying to rape.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-02-13T00:23:40+00:00

Imagine being a 30 something year old women trying to date another 30 something year old man, HAHAHA not going to happen. They aren't around. They are all hitting on teenagers and creeping on little girls that are too naïve to know how shitty they are. Grown ass men with mortgages and receding hairlines cruising around trying to get in your pants because they think you are too young and vulnerable to know any better. Nasty shit, nasty.

souredskittles · 2021-02-13T00:14:40+00:00

Fds called it. It’s not that you look too old at 30, it’s the fact that they can’t control you anymore. Most women have something they can go off from, money wise at this age so it’s not as easy for them to manipulate.

I’m still in my 20s and I’m pretty resistant. In my late teens and 20-22, age gap scrotes tried it but since I wasn’t serious I made it hell because it was fun to mess with them, I was also super immature. Instead of blocking I just acted like a brat, that might have been low value but I was a kid lol. They can date down but they gotta be ready for the kid games 💀

Reminder to not date with a big age gap.

veruscka · 2021-02-13T01:07:29+00:00

lol I love when they say older women are “damaged goods”. So you agree, men are damaging to women and we should have higher standards?

2021-02-13T02:58:31+00:00

When I was a teen, I frequented a bodybuilding forum. Their misc section kept talking about how women are useless after 25. My bf at the time told me that it was bs, etc.

Now in his early 30s, he’s looking for women a decade younger than him, and lied about it, too. He pumped and dumped older women and was only romantically interested in the youngest women.

Good to know that it’s not just a small percentage of the shallowest men who think like this.

If this is how they’re going to treat women who are just a decade or so older than when they’re declared adults, I really don’t see why young women shouldn’t treat men the same way in whatever cruel way it would apply with the genders reversed.

AyemHerself · 2021-02-13T01:39:43+00:00

You don't want men like this anyway. They only go for younger women because they know they utterly fail at being an equal partner. This attempt to mold and "train" a barely legal woman is their way of saving face. These are grown-ass men still at an early 20s level LARPing as successful adults. Trust me, you're better off.

Princess_kitty14 · 2021-02-13T04:12:11+00:00

"unable to be molded and trained"

they just want an underage girl to groom, because they can't handle a woman with personality and opinions, they want control, they want submission they want to be in power

GailaMonster · 2021-02-13T01:23:26+00:00

Mid 30's. it's better because I don't have to wonder if he's one of those men - because those men self-select away from me.

it's sort of how a self-confident, self-assured average-looking woman is often more successful in finding romantic happiness than a hot chick with low-self-esteem. The trash takes itself out of the applicant pool.

I don't want the most attention from men. You shouldn't either -that's not he prize. The price is one excellent partner. who cares if a bunch of turds don't want me?

purasangria · 2021-02-13T01:11:00+00:00

Oh, it's the same, except the men are older, balder, and fatter.

Sorry! 😐

HircinesHandmaiden · 2021-02-13T01:24:33+00:00

Its a lot of single dads who're looking for a bangmaid to parent their kids every other weekend

souredskittles · 2021-02-13T00:36:23+00:00

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anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-13T00:38:06+00:00

I wish all women under 30 would refuse to date

SakuraGirl88 · 2021-02-13T01:51:34+00:00

Yes, we women at 30 something are sooooo useless and pathetic. Meanwhile, it's these scrotes who have ED and need Rogaine by the time they're 27 😒. They can say whatever they want, but I'm starting my hellish crusade if anyone would like to join me 😊.

smaller_ang · 2021-02-13T05:58:37+00:00

Imagine advertising that you need women gullible enough to fall for your shit and believe it's all they deserve

drink4glassesofwater · 2021-02-13T00:13:24+00:00

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thewetdog_ · 2021-02-13T00:24:57+00:00

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DumahDie · 2021-02-13T06:00:23+00:00

Some thirsty dude at work tried beating around the bush rather than just straight up asking me out (so I could turn him down. I don’t date coworkers). Asking me questions like “what’s the longest relationship you’ve been in” and stupid shit. He about lost his mind when I told him I was in my late 20’s (I’m 30 now) because I looked so young. He was like 22 or something lol. I tried to let him down easy like “I don’t want to date right now” (aka I’m not going to date YOU).

LITERALLY the NEXT DAY. He came up to me and asked “What about now?” Boy, get back to work and get the fuck out of my face!

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-02-13T09:31:24+00:00

I think many women over 30 are starting to realize they don’t want to date men. Just look at how many women are expressing this in this “dating sub” alone. So these men couldn’t date these women, whether they “want to” or not isn’t relevant if they don’t have the option. Women are realizing men are no longer good enough to be entertained and actively not pursuing men, rejecting them if pursued.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-02-13T09:32:41+00:00

By 30 you won't care so much because most men are...meh. They know this and try to trick women into settling for their mediocre asses when they're young and inexperienced.

Don't repeat their propaganda and spread it around. It's like doing their work for them.

RiasXgremoryX · 2021-02-13T00:45:05+00:00

They're all a bunch of zero value/negative value pornsick pedos trying to justify preying on high schoolers just because they can't use and abuse older women the way they can use/abuse kids.

As I've said in another comment on a different post men value power/control more than anything else and they love to exert some of that over women cause they see us as animals/objects. These kind of men are black holes, forever cursed and they will never be happy or satisfied no matter how young their "waifu" is.

dkwantsdk · 2021-02-13T08:41:44+00:00

These guys are so "alpha" they need a girl they can manipulate 😆

I'm so glad I'm 40.

2021-02-13T02:43:23+00:00

Well, I'm glad I'm not attracting pedophiles. Some of the men in those videos are from the MGTOW group. If they were really going their own way, why the fuck are they chasing much younger women? Desperate assholes.

HighPriestess31 · 2021-02-13T01:06:31+00:00

I wish I could upvote this harder. So true.

yolosunshine · 2021-02-13T04:21:45+00:00

Thank god I’m safe from people who think I’m a puppy

dzgata · 2021-02-13T07:58:38+00:00

Interesting how all the men making these videos look butt ugly. No one was ever checking for them 💀

LockLimePie · 2021-02-13T05:17:43+00:00

It's about manipulation. I think that after 30, dating might be easier in some ways, because by that point all of the creepy, disgusting old men who prey on young women in their late teens and early twenties won't be harassing me anymore.

Anyway, this makes me feel sick to my stomach. Can we talk about how ugly males get with age. Women age much, MUCH better than males do. I'm so tired of all this bullshit. This kind of thing, beyond all else, has convinced me to NEVER EVER get into a relationship with a male who is much older than me. They know, when they date young women, they can get away with a lot because young women often are still learning how to stand up for themselves.

Renrenchi · 2021-02-13T08:34:38+00:00

Anyone noticed how they are lowering age requirements? "35 is too old...wait no 30 is. Actually 25 is the upper limit....Though you should date younger than 23." And it's always about control and treating a human being like an object, like a newer phone model. Except when it comes to themselves, then they see themselves aging like fine wine even though they are way more broken and fucked up compared to their teens.

Conclusion: These type of men are mentally sick and should be avoided at all costs.

annrike1 · 2021-02-13T12:47:36+00:00

A lot of men want younger women to be their wives and mothers of their children.

Its a status symbol and they feel like they achieved something by beeing with the youngest woman possible. Its sad but its true, I am 25 and men my age and younger just want fun. When they are 35+ they want to start a family and dont want a woman who is 35+.

Thats also the reason why older men are seen as more caring, more mature, more stable etc.

However these older men are just the same as the young ones, they just treat women diffently because they have different goals and want to use young women to work for them (child care, house work, status symbol).

darkhorse8419 · 2021-02-13T03:12:18+00:00

It’s projection. An attractive woman will get attention from men no matter the age. I get more attention now at 37 then I did in my twenties, and especially now that I’m more financially dependent and confident. My friend is almost 50, and she could bag any twenty something year old man if she wanted, but she doesn’t because she’s not a man

AmethistStars · 2021-02-13T10:11:43+00:00

It's funny because I found FDS some months ago and I'm 30. It was very much so for me, that at this very age I learned not to put up with LVM/NVM anymore, and that my kinks are a trauma response I gotta work on to love myself. Thank you, FDS!

Men who say this type of stuff are LVM/NVM who purposely go for women they can still influence. It's insecure attitude through and through.

akashyaboa · 2021-02-13T10:46:03+00:00

Seeing this I am happy to reach my 30s unmarried. At least I avoided all those creeps

2021-02-13T01:52:12+00:00

If they want control over love then, it's good that I quit.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-02-13T08:55:09+00:00

Who cares what scrotes say lmao.

Interesting_Day1188 · 2021-02-13T02:58:37+00:00

No joke, my cousin told me, a woman, who is 5 years younger than him, that he would only date younger woman because they're 'too stuck in their ways'. To which I was initially like, OK, are you talking bratty?

NO, literally that they wouldn't 'change their minds' to meet his ideas i.e. he couldn't manipulate them..... We don't talk anymore.

eveloe · 2021-02-13T09:43:53+00:00

Look.

What we need to start doing is reporting these videos as hate speech.

Don’t watch them, just report them. I feel like when I see these videos, ask they do is present the misery and give the impression there’s nothing to get done about it. With videos, is something that can be done, so next time you see a video by misogynists, don’t watch and then bemoan it, report it.

BabyBlankieieieieie · 2021-02-13T07:11:19+00:00

I mean it’s not any better or any worse. I’m new to it though, lol, just turned 30 recently

EurasianEmpress · 2021-02-13T13:11:02+00:00

So being 30 would get a man to back off but not being a minor...

tinykittenteeths · 2021-02-13T13:23:22+00:00

At least the trash is taking itself out.

sunset74420 · 2021-02-13T19:26:45+00:00

I am in my 40s and I am only too happy to know that my age is shitbag repellent LOL. Never has it been someone saying it to me personally, to my face, either. So why care about the opinion who doesn't know me from a hole in the ground?

je_men_calisse · 2021-02-13T19:29:40+00:00

The bitter old woman is a trope made by the patriarchy to spin the fact that women often wake up and realize the absolute fucking BS that men spew at us in our society. As we get older and wiser women start to care less and less about men. Our society revolves around the wants and needs of men so this is not allowed. So we have this bitter old woman and cat lady trope that have been fucking shoved down our throats up until probably the 2010s or so. 30+ women are waking up like they have been for years and what's awesome is that our knowledge is getting shared with our younger sisters thru social media.

It's very slow and quiet but a huge cultural change is happening my lovelies and it is improving the lives of women everywhere and the men aren't happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like seriously, I can't even believe videos are even allowed like this. Why does our society accept and tolerate messages like this? These men are saying that we as humans are useless and worthless and of lesser value.

Can you imagine if the topic of conversation was switched from gender to race? Imagine i these videos, which have, thousands and even hundreds of thousands of views as the lady points out, were talking about how a particular population of the human species was of lesser value because of their race? A video like that would be blocked, removed, deleted and the media would absolutely obliterate the creator of such a video. And rightfully fucking so.

Buuuuttttttttt because these videos are about women they're tolerated. Because in our society we are secondary to men. We only fall into this society based upon our relation to men. In our culture our value is based upon what men want and need. It is disgusting and vile and something that has been going on since the dawn of time. This mentality needs to die because I do not live my fucking life for the men in my life and the men around me. I don't give a fuck what men want, need or desire from me.

ThoraFriganza · 2021-02-13T15:42:55+00:00

Another proof that men don't see women as humans but objects to be molded and slaves for them. Damn I hate that it took so long for me to realise this as I had automatically assumed that men would see women the same as women see them. I have always thought that you get a partner as a company and not as a servant and unfortunately assumed that most men did the same.

RantingLS · 2021-02-13T18:54:41+00:00

You know what good! I’m glad these type of men aren’t dating in my age range. Helps me filter out the bad eggs. And then we help the younger women to stay away from these men and then they will stay single forever and ruin no woman’s life.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-02-13T17:39:00+00:00

I'm 33, I've had better luck dating younger than me instead of older or my age. The men still single at my age are definitely single for a reason.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-02-13T18:01:06+00:00

To be trained? That's grooming a young, susceptible woman. Also calling women girls... Wtf?!

I hope that report button is in flames!

capresesalad1985 · 2021-02-13T15:38:49+00:00

STOPPPPP - I watch so much YouTube and I have never tumbled down this rabbit whole...I’m 35 so that makes me damaged goods??? No no no that makes me financial smart and aware of who I am.

NamiRabbit · 2021-02-14T03:28:42+00:00

I'm 24f. These comments tell me that men who don't like women 30 or older probably don't like that these women know what they want, have set standards and goals, and have probably established themselves as successful at this point in their life or are starting to. They don't like they can't control them and hafto be respectful and treat them as equals. Lol

Title	This is horrible. If dating is hard in my mid-20s what is it going to be like when I’m 30?
Author	kittycakes22
Upvotes	859
Comments	130
Date	February 13, 2021 12:09 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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