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[–]gursky0FDS Apprentice100 points101 points102 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
"Don't be a woman"
[–]rainbowforeskinFDS Newbie[S] 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Pretty much. Its not like most rape cases happen with people you know or anything.
[–]gursky0FDS Apprentice68 points69 points70 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That strong boyfriend? Better hope he doesn't rape you. If he does, it's your fault for choosing badly.
[–][deleted] 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, for choosing "chad".
[–][deleted] 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's really what it boils down to.
[–]rftw2013Ruthless Strategist90 points91 points92 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Please stop raping women. Then we don't need lists like this.
[–]ThrowAway3879284FDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bold of you to assume they can follow instructions.
[–]alanonhelp777FDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks, ladies. It was 20+ years ago and I still, once in a blue moon, have PTSD episodes from it. My dad blaming me was totally emblematic of our relationship. He died long ago.
Rape doesn’t go away. Like all trauma, it stays with you. You learn to live with it. You can heal. You can move forward. You can learn to recognize that it’s part of your story but not the definition of who you are. You CAN. It takes work and time and therapy. And it never 100% goes away. But it gets better.
Also: instead of teaching women how not to get raped, how about we work on teaching men not to rape?!
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men cannot be 'taught' how to not rape (they KNOW what they do). Not without SEVERE consequences, and that's not happening any time soon.
[–]tramadolololFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, I wish capital punishment in my country extended to rape.
[–]jewdy09Pickmeisha™️33 points34 points35 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
My friend told me about a Tinder date he had recently. The gal he was chatting with wanted to meet him despite it being around 9PM but she didn’t have a car. He was game to pick her up and go for a beer but when he arrived she had her young daughter with her. As soon as she got in his vehicle, she lit up a cigarette without even asking.
He drove them to a nice place that serves only microbrews. He then finds out she had already had a 6 pack and was living in an inexpensive housing situation that was intended for summer tourism industry people and it didn’t have heat. It wasn’t too cold for that yet, but it was getting there and it certainly wasn’t ideal for a young child. It turns out, she was meeting people in hopes that they would offer her and her child a place to stay for the night.
My response was that that was a great way to get your daughter raped. My fiend actually seems to be a decent person and was taken aback by my assertion. So, I put it into the perspective of his ex wife doing the same thing with one of his young kids. I doubt he grasped the magnitude of the risk that woman put herself and her child in, though he did find it wildly inappropriate at least.
A big part of the problem with violence against women and girls is that there are men who are decent people and of course can’t empathize with how vulnerable women are to the men who are not decent. Women have spent so much time shutting up about the shitty things that have been done to them by shitty men because of the consequences to themselves that decent men simply don’t understand how bad women have it.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
For some reason a lot of men aren't able to put things in perspective on their own. This is something I've noticed a lot.
[–]wowthispostissadFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup. They cannot think outside their own box. That’s why the vast majority of them are unsuccessful with women.
[–]alanonhelp777FDS Newbie54 points55 points56 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Still got raped. And my dad blamed me for it.
[–]jewdy09Pickmeisha™️47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuck your dad. This is why women don’t come forward.
[–]rainbowforeskinFDS Newbie[S] 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Im sorry sis. It happened to so many girls I know including me and I come from a friggin conservative Muslim background. I hope someday we live in a world where we DONT BLAME THE VICTIM!!
[–]ThrowAway3879284FDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even if women take all the precautions they are still molested for being “prude”, overreacting, distrustful, etc.
Sometimes they are even at a greater risk because men might see them as needing someone to put them into “their place”, or want to gain her trust to fuck that modest shy and cautious woman like if it were a prize, or just even adds to men’s desire to hurt such a woman even more.
Scrotes just be sadistic tbh.
[–]gcthrowaway2019FDS Apprentice18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And then we still get raped.
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[–]ThrowAway3879284FDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If a man intends to rape you, he will find a way.
It doesn’t matter what you try to do to stop him.
Stop blaming victims for the crimes of these psychos!
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What if you live in a country that doesn't allow civilians to just carry guns with them everywhere? What if the rapist is your husband or a male friend you invite into your home? Are we supposed to be armed in our own homes too?
What if a woman is not in a financial situation to decline a job that forces her to work late at night and she has to rely on public transportation to get home?
"Get a strong bf" Just fucking lol, patriarchy truly is an international protection racket. Prostitute yourself to a strong male bodyguard to make sure the other males don't take you by force. Just awful.
"Learn how to fight" is a meme. Most women can't dedicate the necessary time to become MMA experts and a lot of men already spend a lot of time lifting weights and learning how to fight. A lot of women barely weight over 100 pounds and have disproportionately lower muscle mass than men. So tell me how my 110 pound mother is supposed to defend herself against a 200 pound man who can lift more than twice her body weight? Even if she were trained and he were not, there is a certain point where strength makes training redundant.
So let me get this straight... Unless women train and arm themselves like Rambo at all times, live the lives of hermits and recluses, avoid all social contact with their male schoolmates, teachers, bosses, caregivers, and coworkers, and inject themselves with testosterone so that they have a chance of fighting men, it's our fault if we get raped? Lol, how convenient for these smegs. No rape would ever be the rapists fault. Women could only "win" if they adopt the desperate "death before dishonor" mindset about getting raped. Because apparently if you survive a rape, it means you secretly wanted it.
[–]Throwaway0220170FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's not women's fault, it's never women's fault that they got raped. Alright? But there are certainly things that scare off potential rapists. Since we are stuck in a society that is too busy with pandering to men (in dresses) to care about rape victims, all we can do is take care of each other. At least in the meantime. If you do get raped, please don't shower. DON'T SHOWER, let me repeat that again, DON'T SHOWER. Go linea recta to the hospital, have them perform a rape kit. You may feel incredibly disgusting after it happening, but if you want any chance at justice, you have to go to the hospital immediately. Immediately write down a description of the rapist so you don't forget it, in the case it's a stranger. Have pictures taken of any marks. Don't let any evidence disappear. Also get a therapist asap, early intervention can decrease the severity of PTSD and future victimization. These predators can practically smell vulnerability. I understand you probably don't want to perform more labour to put these disgusting creatures behind bars and that it shouldn't be women's responsibility in the first place, but the cards are stacked against us. If you change your mind and go to the police after you have taken a shower, you will be humiliated and get told that they cannot do anything for you. They will say it's a he said/ she said story. I'm saying this as a lawyer btw, so I might not sound sympathetic enough. In my country victims never show their face in court, so it's less invasive to bring justice to these rapists, but I understand that in common law countries you might not want to go through the hassle. Society needs to change altogether.
Honestly in my opinion as part of sex ed during biology classes, boys should be educated on what consent is and how nobody is ever asking to be raped. Though I wonder how much that will do, since they still are influenced by society and their family. Literally most of society would need to be reeducated, even a lot of women think it's women's own fault for getting raped. Sometimes it really does feel like the only way to be safe is to put all men into a containment area.
[–]ThrowAway3879284FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This will be so helpful to so many women!
Please consider making a post about this, it would be a game changer if a lawyer made a post educating women about the possible legal processes behind situations such as rape, domestic abuse, harassing and stalking, etc.
Also went through your comment history, and it’s just so useful, you gained a new follower 😊
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the time you put into this comment ❤️
[–]extraacct1234Ruthless Strategist8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If the man is decent he understands because he sees and listens. It's literally everywhere for men to see. Don't buy ignorance, either he's lying or or he's a misogynist who will never care about your problems.
[–]letsberealforamomentFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I agree that women should learn how to fight and use weapons. Women are socialized to be passive and weapons training makes a woman truly powerful. Knowing you have the ability to take out an aggressive LVM is true power. Everything else on the list is rubbish.
[–]jewdy09Pickmeisha™️4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You are right. What kinds of self defense classes and weapons training do you recommend?
[–]letsberealforamomentFDS Disciple10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Full contact martial arts training. You will learn not to be afraid of getting hit and keeping your cool in those situations when you are physically attacked so you respond decisively and forcefully.
Also, learn how to use a handgun. I am a supporter of gun rights.because I believe it helps women help themselves. We should never rely on men, who are our predators, to protect us. That's akin to the mafia protection rackets. Also, once you you learn how to use a handgun, perhaps get concealed carry license. And let dates know you are well armed :)
[–]LadyHormoneMonsterFDS Disciple14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree with the majority of this (especially for being pro-MMA), but disagree on one of the gun tips. Never tell men you’re well armed, and/or carrying on a date. In the event of an attack, you want the element of surprise. Also, if he knows you’re holding he could attempt to take your weapon and use it on you. I’ve done survival training, and fighting over control of a weapon is not a position you want to be in.
[–]ThrowAway3879284FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
The best weapon a woman might have even if she’s an MMA artist or skillful with guns, is the element of surprise and trying to avoid fights if possible.
Men are just way stronger, you should only fight if escape was not an option in order to defend yourself.
You can’t beat a man to submission, but you can save your life by fighting a man back if he intends to hurt you.
Never tell a man you carry a gun or know how to fight since it takes out the advantage that is surprise.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It seems like gun purchasing is an expensive hobby. Seriously. Legally purchased guns aren't cheap, from what I can tell. I think I'd be skeeved out by the kinds of men I'd find at a shooting range, too.
[–]SpookySparkle7FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How to decrease your chances of being raped:
don't go to house parties
don't do hard drugs or drink excessively in the company of men
don't be alone with a man
always be in very public areas on dates
commit RIGHT NOW to reporting that shit if it happens no matter what. Predators can sense weakness.
[–]NoThisIs-PatrickFDS STRATEGY COACH1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's my bad, that's my bad, no one taught them not to grab
[–]9penguinFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Real how to avoid getting raped:
Learn self defense
Bring weapon or a gun
Kill them before they rape you
[–]rainbowforeskinFDS Newbie[S] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes but the point of this post is that most women DO have to take these types of precautions and then they still get raped. If you read the comments in this post, about peoples experiences and then that Fran Dresher story. You could be sitting at home with a friend drinking wine in your pjs and still get raped.
[–]dntevenknowFDS Newbie-1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t disagree with this. But that’s only because men are assholes. Not that we should have to do these things.
[–]Adela-SiobhanFDS Apprentice-1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That particular tweet:
The guy has been ratio’d.
He continues to tweet to bring attention to himself.
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