This one goes out to all the Kinkmeisha’s lurking. We’re here when you’re ready.

abundant_redundancie · 2020-07-15T21:52:43+00:00

Hot take. It's sad that you can't question or examine why people accept violent kink without being viciously attacked.

CeriseNoire · 2020-07-16T00:17:26+00:00

Hoo boy, do I have a LVM for you. Don't go further if reading about sexually violent dumbasses will upset you too much. So, this guy. East Asian. And I ended up noping the fuck out, don't worry. So he had a preference for White women. Some people say explicit preferences like that are weird. I thought it doesn't have to be a red flag in itself. I don't know why but really early he feels free enough to tell me ALL of his fantasies. This was back in my dumber days but even in my dumber days I clearly wasn't THAT dumb. He was into BDSM. Okaaaay. I made the mistake of appearing slightly interested, again...dumber days. I just thought he meant a little rougher sex. But what that entailed was really violent fantasies. He very obviously felt inferior to White men, really attracted to White women and in his stupid and I do mean stupid brain, it all mushed up into these weird power fantasies where men get power over each other by "taking" their women. That dude was NOT ready to have his kinks questioned by me in any way or even just not accepted. When you have a grown man, telling you...a grown woman that it's fiiiiiine. It's all just fantasy, it's consensual non consent, he would never in real life be anything but respectful to women. And he got defensive as hell. To think, for a second, that I would ever feel safe with some man whose fantasies are that violent. They included asian men gangraping white women, him abducting and then beating and raping a white woman until she develops stockholm syndrome and LOVES HIM, kidnapping a white college girl and raping her until she passes out, weird racial talk during sex etc. etc. I don't wanna go on. Like I would wanna act that shit out with him and then feel normal? He was full of talk about boundaries, about how it's just a fantasy, and about what a good "daddy" should be like. Like, that was his shit. Harping on about how it's "just a fantasy". If you ask him he actually detests misogyny🤣

smart-tart23 · 2020-07-16T00:15:10+00:00

This is so true :/

Huntscunt · 2020-07-16T17:21:07+00:00

Yes! I was involved a lot in the BDSM scene starting at 19, and as I got older, wiser, and more self- confident, I started to feel so uncomfortable with a lot of the men and how they clearly just used kink as an excuse to hurt and abuse women.

I luckily found a few men who aren't like that and I am still friends with them/will sometimes bottom when I'm single. But honestly, the rampant misogyny and abuse are why I left.

Rebirthed_Queen · 2020-07-16T01:39:56+00:00

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Title	This one goes out to all the Kinkmeisha’s lurking. We’re here when you’re ready.
Author	stillcantsee
Upvotes	608
Comments	24
Date	July 15, 2020 9:47 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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