Turning the tables 👏

i get what this is trying to convey but i dont know. we criticize the older women who endured the sexist patriarchy and not the men who designed it in the first place? older women do pressure younger women to be more silent/pliable with LVM men because its what they are used to. the men behind all the double standards we endure are invisible, never around but ever present

nowadays if you told the average western woman to endure an abusive marriage and not go to college, you'd be yelled at. we have to thank the older women, those who pushed for the change we can see now. my mum was discouraged from marrying someone she wanted to, to learn how to drive and go to college but she did all of that and ignored everyone who said she shouldnt

she still also tells me that 'divorced women are nasty whores', that my skin is too dark for a 'man to find respectable in asian society' and that i should get married before i turn 30 because 'you are a woman and its just what we do'. internalized misogyny doesnt just disappear unfortunately. there were plenty of women from my mums generation who stood up to defend themselves but they were drowned out by male voices. everywhere but invisible when you need to see it